Errands with Maskless ASD child?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Has OP come back to explain why her partner can't watch the child long enough for a grocery shopping trip?

I'm a single parent (100%, since everyone always nitpicks) and have managed to go in-person shopping maybe twice since the beginning of the pandemic. Everything else has been delivered, and if they don't have exactly what I need, I'm a flexible enough cook to make it work.

Where is the dad/other mom in all of this?


Oh, look. A competent, unselfish parent in a pandemic! Angels are singing.
Anonymous
We’re at the height of the pandemic with thousands dying in our country every day.

You can and should leave your child at home.

This isn’t complicated or political. It’s common sense.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Has OP come back to explain why her partner can't watch the child long enough for a grocery shopping trip?

I'm a single parent (100%, since everyone always nitpicks) and have managed to go in-person shopping maybe twice since the beginning of the pandemic. Everything else has been delivered, and if they don't have exactly what I need, I'm a flexible enough cook to make it work.

Where is the dad/other mom in all of this?

OP is refusing to answer about the other parent. And a few pages ago decided to sprinkle some other cagey details when asked about their age and medical status. In other words, OP is a troll.


Right. I thought I was clear about what I was asking. I know it wasn't the question you wanted to answer, but I don't really care about the question you want to answer.

If you've got ideas for how to bring an ASD child that won't wear a mask into a grocery store, I'm all ears. I understand you don't like that, but I don't particularly care.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:We’re at the height of the pandemic with thousands dying in our country every day.

You can and should leave your child at home.

This isn’t complicated or political. It’s common sense.


I think that's the only illegal thing that's been suggested in this thread.
Anonymous
Op, highly doubt anyone is going to have a 15 minute long or even a 15 second long conversation with your 3 year old. I would be ok, and I am usually ok with smaller kids even 4-6 year olds. But as you see from this thread, some would give you grief, though many of those responding say that they get everything delivered, so they skew fo more cautious. There is only one way to find out: just do it. You may find that with the audience that frequents the place you plan to go to, they may be ok with an unmasked 3 year old.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We’re at the height of the pandemic with thousands dying in our country every day.

You can and should leave your child at home.

This isn’t complicated or political. It’s common sense.

I think that's the only illegal thing that's been suggested in this thread.

OP said they have a spouse. It’s not illegal to leave the child with their spouse.
Anonymous
Leave him home.

Do you think the deaths from covid are funny? You’re being irresponsible with your child’s life.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Has OP come back to explain why her partner can't watch the child long enough for a grocery shopping trip?

I'm a single parent (100%, since everyone always nitpicks) and have managed to go in-person shopping maybe twice since the beginning of the pandemic. Everything else has been delivered, and if they don't have exactly what I need, I'm a flexible enough cook to make it work.

Where is the dad/other mom in all of this?

OP is refusing to answer about the other parent. And a few pages ago decided to sprinkle some other cagey details when asked about their age and medical status. In other words, OP is a troll.


Right. I thought I was clear about what I was asking. I know it wasn't the question you wanted to answer, but I don't really care about the question you want to answer.

If you've got ideas for how to bring an ASD child that won't wear a mask into a grocery store, I'm all ears. I understand you don't like that, but I don't particularly care.



You don’t care about your own child getting covid? Or you don’t care if he spreads it?

Your question is specious, OP. People, especially the store workers, will care. Other patrons will care. Taking him into the store is totally unnecessary and patently irresponsible. No one with a double-digit IQ is going to tell you differently.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a microcosm of society. Appreciate it when you meet kind ppl Op. It doesn't get easier but you'll get tougher and even develop a sense of humor (I explained to one person that the only way to get mu kid to mask is to tie him up and gag him, but my pediatrician frowns upon my doing this and suggested gentler parenting methods.)



I am kind. I work in a grocery store and have a newborn and mom over 65 at home. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t bring an unmasked child to the grocery store. I don’t want to get sick and pass it on to my mom, husband or baby. We have people we love and want to stay healthy, too.



Is that a suggestion to use self checkout? I usually do anyway although I'd probably think twice about that with a kid in a stroller. I don't particularly mind either way, although tandem strollers can create a bit of a mess in the self checkout area of some stores.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is a microcosm of society. Appreciate it when you meet kind ppl Op. It doesn't get easier but you'll get tougher and even develop a sense of humor (I explained to one person that the only way to get mu kid to mask is to tie him up and gag him, but my pediatrician frowns upon my doing this and suggested gentler parenting methods.)



I am kind. I work in a grocery store and have a newborn and mom over 65 at home. I would really appreciate it if you didn’t bring an unmasked child to the grocery store. I don’t want to get sick and pass it on to my mom, husband or baby. We have people we love and want to stay healthy, too.



Is that a suggestion to use self checkout? I usually do anyway although I'd probably think twice about that with a kid in a stroller. I don't particularly mind either way, although tandem strollers can create a bit of a mess in the self checkout area of some stores.



How does self-checkout help the shelf-stockers and store delivery shoppers? How does it help counter workers and maintenance workers?

Why don’t you care about the health of your own children?
Anonymous
OP - I get it, I do. I have a 14 year old (who looks and acts like he’s 6) with a rare syndrome. He also has sensory issues. I started practicing with him at home and taking out for very short trips to the store during his break at school when it’s not crowded (never on weekends) to get one random item and build up from there. If I’m doing a big grocery shopping or other errands where I may have to wait and definitely on weekend when it’s usually busier, I leave him at home. He has learned to wear the mask although it slips off his nose and I need to constantly remind him to cover his nose. People have been very accepting I think bc they see I’m trying - and trust me I always have my radar on for snide looks or whispers!

Now as we’re going into a more restrictive time, I’ll probably leave him home more but I initially did it because he’s the type who gets used to being inside and doesn’t want to leave the house so I decided it was necessary to keep getting him out in the community.
Anonymous
OP, I understand why you no longer do grocery delivery. I was doing it for a while, but honestly it got to be way too expensive between the jacked up prices, the delivery fee, the tip for the driver and not being able to use coupons. I now go to the grocery store when it opens at 6 AM on Sunday morning. There are four of us in the store usually. It’s a dream and I get everything that I need and I don’t have to worry that I was delivered rotten fruit, or missing items or wrong items. My kids are older and my spouse is immunocompromised. However, minimize exposure, I am the only one that goes into a store. I go into one store once a week and that’s it. Everything else I get is curbside pick up or delivery. So first, my question is why can’t you and your partner go to the store on the weekends and have the other person watch your child? Honestly, I also think you’re a troll since you refuse to answer the question about your partner.

I also think that you would know way NEED to take your child into a store unless you’re a single parent; which you have not stated. My older child is SN (not asd) so I do get the struggles, but even in the times of Covid there are solutions that are far better than taking an unmasked preschooler who is being exposed to adults indoors in therapy into stores where he is exposed to many other people unnecessarily.
Anonymous
I don’t know which store you’re planning to visit or where it is, but depending on that location, you might get taken to task. People are increasingly masking up in more populated areas of MoCo, even outdoors. I’ve seen far fewer young kids in stores, and when I do see them, they are masked. The one exception was a woman with two young unmasked kids a month ago, and people in the store made their displeasure known.
Anonymous
Well do not try to take your child to brookside gardens, fwiw. I have a child with issues who is literally two weeks into being 3. Will not tolerate a mask. I had an urgent need for the bathroom and they wouldn't let me in. Would have been there for 2 min and there was no one around except the person standing guard to the building. This was a couple weeks ago. The trails were not crowded or anything.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Well do not try to take your child to brookside gardens, fwiw. I have a child with issues who is literally two weeks into being 3. Will not tolerate a mask. I had an urgent need for the bathroom and they wouldn't let me in. Would have been there for 2 min and there was no one around except the person standing guard to the building. This was a couple weeks ago. The trails were not crowded or anything.


Yeah, I'm not surprised to hear that. MoCo is pretty anti-child/anti-family. We don't do many outings to public places. When we do, we go into DC. The zoo has been a great place to go, and only requires masks for ages 6 and up. Buy a parking pass and you can drive down and park very, very close. It's been great for toddlers.
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