Errands with Maskless ASD child?

[Anonymous]

OP, I wouldn't judge you nor your kid. Run your errands as safely as possible, live your life. Not everyone has a spouse or reliable childcare. It's life.

I do think you should work with him to learn to wear a mask. It's a process but so is everything with kids.

If people want to harass you, they should redirect their ire to the ADULTS who aren't wearing masks. Twice I have seen two different people remove their mask to try a grape in a grocery store. Wtf? (Once at Wegmans, once at Target.) Have also seen people pull down their masks to talk on the phone. You're not the king of the world, your call isn't that important.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would get some additional childcare so you can run errands on your own. You need a break mom!

If you have to take your unmasked son, just do it. However, even if he could wear a mask, you ought to be drastically minimizing the indoor errands you do, and not bringing kids (masked or unmasked) if at all possible. I’d be giving the side eye to any parents toting kids to the grocery store right now.

WOW. What privilege that you never have to take a child to the grocery store. And give side eye to those less fortunate than you. You’re gross.

The vast majority of people who post on DCUM (including OP) can pay for groceries to be delivered, and all grocery stores are offering free pick-up. There's zero reason to have a kid in a grocery store right now, much less an unmasked kid. As OP's post demonstrates, people with kids in grocery stores are doing it right now out of selfishness and disregard, not because they really have to. I'm sure there are a few truly unavoidable situations.

Careful, your privilege is showing.

That said, I was amazed by how many kids I saw in Target at 830pm on a Saturday night. Kids with multiple adults in tow, for that matter, so obviously not a single parent situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a sahm. My husband is an essential worker. I take my kids to the grocery store in potomac village. There are plenty of other kids there too.

OP, take your child wherever you need to go. It’s 100% okay for an ASD preschooler to be maskless. If anyone has the nerve to say anything, kill them with kindness. It says more about them than you.

Essential workers still have time off and can help care for their children while you, the SAHM can run errands, OR, they can run errands while they are out (and at 4risk) already.

What is so hard about this? Order in when you can. If you cannot, one person from the household should be running errands, preferably the same person.

The instructions haven’t changed that I’m aware of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would get some additional childcare so you can run errands on your own. You need a break mom!

If you have to take your unmasked son, just do it. However, even if he could wear a mask, you ought to be drastically minimizing the indoor errands you do, and not bringing kids (masked or unmasked) if at all possible. I’d be giving the side eye to any parents toting kids to the grocery store right now.

WOW. What privilege that you never have to take a child to the grocery store. And give side eye to those less fortunate than you. You’re gross.

The vast majority of people who post on DCUM (including OP) can pay for groceries to be delivered, and all grocery stores are offering free pick-up. There's zero reason to have a kid in a grocery store right now, much less an unmasked kid. As OP's post demonstrates, people with kids in grocery stores are doing it right now out of selfishness and disregard, not because they really have to. I'm sure there are a few truly unavoidable situations.

Careful, your privilege is showing.

That said, I was amazed by how many kids I saw in Target at 830pm on a Saturday night. Kids with multiple adults in tow, for that matter, so obviously not a single parent situation.

Does my privilege negate free curbside pickup too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a sahm. My husband is an essential worker. I take my kids to the grocery store in potomac village. There are plenty of other kids there too.

OP, take your child wherever you need to go. It’s 100% okay for an ASD preschooler to be maskless. If anyone has the nerve to say anything, kill them with kindness. It says more about them than you.

Essential workers still have time off and can help care for their children while you, the SAHM can run errands, OR, they can run errands while they are out (and at 4risk) already.

What is so hard about this? Order in when you can. If you cannot, one person from the household should be running errands, preferably the same person.

The instructions haven’t changed that I’m aware of.

The fact is, many, many people like PP and OP just don't care - it's not that there are no alternative solutions to bringing their kids along, it's that they DO.NOT.CARE. Or they are the kind of people who just don't stop to think and justify to themselves, "Oh, the likelihood of little Jimmy getting or giving anyone Covid is so low, I'm sure nothing will happen." So no, OP and PP, you don't have the right not to have people get angry at you and your maskless kid. People getting angry at you is the consequences of your anti-social behavior. You don't get to both behave in a anti-social way and avoid people calling you on it. Signed, mom of a kid with autism who has not brought him on a single indoor errand since March.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would get some additional childcare so you can run errands on your own. You need a break mom!

If you have to take your unmasked son, just do it. However, even if he could wear a mask, you ought to be drastically minimizing the indoor errands you do, and not bringing kids (masked or unmasked) if at all possible. I’d be giving the side eye to any parents toting kids to the grocery store right now.

WOW. What privilege that you never have to take a child to the grocery store. And give side eye to those less fortunate than you. You’re gross.

The vast majority of people who post on DCUM (including OP) can pay for groceries to be delivered, and all grocery stores are offering free pick-up. There's zero reason to have a kid in a grocery store right now, much less an unmasked kid. As OP's post demonstrates, people with kids in grocery stores are doing it right now out of selfishness and disregard, not because they really have to. I'm sure there are a few truly unavoidable situations.

Careful, your privilege is showing.

That said, I was amazed by how many kids I saw in Target at 830pm on a Saturday night. Kids with multiple adults in tow, for that matter, so obviously not a single parent situation.

Does my privilege negate free curbside pickup too?

I have to say that our lawmakers have done an excellent, excellent job at deflecting from their piss-poor response to this crisis. This is exactly what they want- turning neighbors against neighbors over nitpicky things like grocery shopping and having to bring a kid on an occasional errand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would get some additional childcare so you can run errands on your own. You need a break mom!

If you have to take your unmasked son, just do it. However, even if he could wear a mask, you ought to be drastically minimizing the indoor errands you do, and not bringing kids (masked or unmasked) if at all possible. I’d be giving the side eye to any parents toting kids to the grocery store right now.

WOW. What privilege that you never have to take a child to the grocery store. And give side eye to those less fortunate than you. You’re gross.

The vast majority of people who post on DCUM (including OP) can pay for groceries to be delivered, and all grocery stores are offering free pick-up. There's zero reason to have a kid in a grocery store right now, much less an unmasked kid. As OP's post demonstrates, people with kids in grocery stores are doing it right now out of selfishness and disregard, not because they really have to. I'm sure there are a few truly unavoidable situations.

Careful, your privilege is showing.

That said, I was amazed by how many kids I saw in Target at 830pm on a Saturday night. Kids with multiple adults in tow, for that matter, so obviously not a single parent situation.

Why were you in Target to begin with? Just get the curbside pickup.

[Anonymous]

Just go at times when a lot of other kids go with parents, like on weekends and after school. Those of us who can are avoiding those times anyhow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I wouldn't judge you nor your kid. Run your errands as safely as possible, live your life. Not everyone has a spouse or reliable childcare. It's life.

I do think you should work with him to learn to wear a mask. It's a process but so is everything with kids.

If people want to harass you, they should redirect their ire to the ADULTS who aren't wearing masks. Twice I have seen two different people remove their mask to try a grape in a grocery store. Wtf? (Once at Wegmans, once at Target.) Have also seen people pull down their masks to talk on the phone. You're not the king of the world, your call isn't that important.

OP here. I did my quick trip to the bank. It was a non-issue. Everyone seemed very friendly and understanding- both the staff and other customers alike. I certainly know intellectually that opinions on DCUM don't reflect reality, but I sometimes forget just how extreme the reactions are on this website.

It wasn't ideal. I initially tried to just go up to the drive-through window, but they made me come in. That's what they said would happened when I called ahead, but I still thought there was a chance it would work. I held a mask up to his face while I was waiting in line, but had to just put him on the floor when it was my turn. My biggest fear, truth be told, was that he'd run away from me in the branch, but I was able to basically pin him against the table. He wasn't a fan, but it was a quick visit.

[Anonymous]

Ah, I always love it when OPs post controversial subjects, and end the thread doing exactly what they were going to do anyway, but then tying it with a neat red bow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah, I always love it when OPs post controversial subjects, and end the thread doing exactly what they were going to do anyway, but then tying it with a neat red bow.

yup. congratulations to you, OP, for standing your ground and engaging in increased risk activities during the worst point of the worst pandemic in US history.

[Anonymous]

What exactly did you have to do inside the bank? Jut curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah, I always love it when OPs post controversial subjects, and end the thread doing exactly what they were going to do anyway, but then tying it with a neat red bow.

yup. congratulations to you, OP, for standing your ground and engaging in increased risk activities during the worst point of the worst pandemic in US history.

Better a bank than a tattoo parlor or escape room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah, I always love it when OPs post controversial subjects, and end the thread doing exactly what they were going to do anyway, but then tying it with a neat red bow.

yup. congratulations to you, OP, for standing your ground and engaging in increased risk activities during the worst point of the worst pandemic in US history.

This one feels worse than usual because OP is trying to use the kid's disability to cover being a selfish asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah, I always love it when OPs post controversial subjects, and end the thread doing exactly what they were going to do anyway, but then tying it with a neat red bow.

yup. congratulations to you, OP, for standing your ground and engaging in increased risk activities during the worst point of the worst pandemic in US history.

This one feels worse than usual because OP is trying to use the kid's disability to cover being a selfish asshole.

Right? And weirdly coming to the non-SN board specifically to be able to engage in this pyschodrama. Must be disappointed that nobody took the bait and blamed it on his child's autism.

Conversely, if he had come to the SN board and said "I have to go to the bank in person for a sensitive matter and have no other option but have to bring my child" he would have gotten plenty of support.