Um, this is so awkward.

[Anonymous]

It seems bubble-related to me despite the lack of reference.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Ridiculous and rude beyond anything.

[Anonymous]

She writes like a teenager. It would be awkward socializing with such a weirdo. Count your lucky stars, OP.

[Anonymous]

I would never write this to anyone but I've thought this before. I've also said it outloud to my husband. I don't have the bandwidth for new relationships. I can barely keep up with the ones I have.

I say respond with "I get it. Have a safe holiday." Don't reach out anymore. The kids can likely remain friends but I wouldn't plan playdates. She likely enjoys the fact that the kids play but doesn't need new people in her own social circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never write this to anyone but I've thought this before. I've also said it outloud to my husband. I don't have the bandwidth for new relationships. I can barely keep up with the ones I have.

I say respond with "I get it. Have a safe holiday." Don't reach out anymore. The kids can likely remain friends but I wouldn't plan playdates. She likely enjoys the fact that the kids play but doesn't need new people in her own social circle.

If this were a man in a relationship we’d call him a gaslighting a**hole.

[Anonymous]

I also wonder if this is a generational thing. Op are you older? Does she seem younger. I ran this by a few friends who are in their 20s and they see nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never write this to anyone but I've thought this before. I've also said it outloud to my husband. I don't have the bandwidth for new relationships. I can barely keep up with the ones I have.

I say respond with "I get it. Have a safe holiday." Don't reach out anymore. The kids can likely remain friends but I wouldn't plan playdates. She likely enjoys the fact that the kids play but doesn't need new people in her own social circle.

If this were a man in a relationship we’d call him a gaslighting a**hole.

I love that word. I had to look up where it came from, an old movie. Every time I can't find something I ask DW out loud "are you gaslighting me again?" "Stop gaslighting me!" "I feel so gaslit." Then of course the item is just where I left it. Good thing I'm joking and she knows it.
She's looking for her purse....I say "I have no idea. Maybe I hid it and am gaslighting you?" "look under the couch, if its too dark, try some gas light".

[Anonymous]

"People are strange" Sounds like you dodged a friend who would have been no friend at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ll tell you exactly what to do. First, put your big girl pants on and make peace with the fact that you are not everyone’s cup of tea. Thank God because can you even imagine if everyone wanted to be friends with everyone?! Second, you absolutely must reply. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she hurt your feelings. You reply “Haha totally get it! Hope you you guys are safe and well!” Third, you move on...for real. Not just stewing about it. The pandemic is playing mind tricks on all of us. She doesn’t matter so stop giving her space in your brain. K?

What a desperate sounding reply. OP whatever you do, please do not do this. No need to make yourself a doormat while you’re at it. Personally, I wouldn’t respond at all. Some interactions really do not need to be dragged out and this is one of them. I would never reach out to her again and would be courteous but ice cold if I ran into her.

Absolutely this OP. I hope you didn't respond. Self-respect demands that you never interact with this person again. Honestly, the best thing you can do is laugh at this. That is one messed up person. I laughed out loud when I read that. I will say this, this area is full of really awkward people. I've lived in many areas of the country, and the DC area seems to attract the biggest selection of really awkward, nerdy types, who think success has gotten them a seat at the cool kids table. But really, they're still awkward weirdos. You seem like one of the normal ones. Laugh at this and move on.

[Anonymous]

That was way harsh, Tai.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was very rude of her, I’m sorry.

SHE should be mortified, not going.
Incredibly rude Who needs her??? Yikes!

[Anonymous]

( not you) instead of (not going)

[Anonymous]

Is English her second language?

[Anonymous]

She sucks and isn’t interested in being your friend. She’s being rude and do yourself a favor - forget about the whole incident. Probably in a year she will regret it. No emotional intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That was very rude of her, I’m sorry.

SHE should be mortified, not going.
Incredibly rude Who needs her??? Yikes!

This. Its not you. Its her. There are non rude ways to turn down an invitation.