Um, this is so awkward.

[Anonymous]

What an obnoxious response. She’s the one who should be embarrassed, not you!

[Anonymous]

She’s an insincere creep, and I’m sorry you experienced that.

[Anonymous]

Did she realize it was you? That’s a weird response if you’ve hosted each other for dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t be mortified that someone else is incredibly rude. They should be mortified. Be happy you dodged a bullet.

This.

And kind of cruel.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, tacky and rude. Maybe she’s drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 3rd-grade DS is friends with another kid - has been since 1st grade. We hang out with the parents in a large group fairly often, maybe once a month or so, and we've had them to our house for dinner and vice-versa (pre-COVID). We really like them.

I texted the Mom to hang out outdoors by our fire pit this weekend. She texted me back, "Hi! Thanks. We really appreciate the invite, but at this stage, we're just not in the market for more new friends right now and don't have the time to juggle it all." I am MORTIFIED. Mortified. Mortified, as if I want the floor to swallow me whole. I feel like someone who asked a kid to dance at the prom and got rejected. I don't even know how to respond. Help????

You’re right this is so awkward but the awkwardness is al on her, not you! What a weird, obnoxious, socially clueless thing to say. I would try to let it go gracefully.

[Anonymous]

What a bizarre thing to text someone you’ve known for years! You have nothing to feel mortified about though that would definitely sting. I think you need to go high road: ignore or respond politely to text and try your to be pleasant and low-key (as opposed to standoffish or overly cheery) next time you run into them

[Anonymous]

I know a woman who does stuff like this and the wording is so similar I seriously wonder if it's the same woman. I know several people who have been mortified by this same woman because, like you, they thought they were just being friendly and normal and she has zero manners and is always super busy and seems to think everyone wants to be her very best friend and monopolize all her time.

Anyway, OP, you are fine. What she said was super rude and weird. It would be different if you had reached out and said, "We really enjoy hanging out with your family and would really like to be better friends with you!" and she'd replied this way. That would still be rude, but at least it would be a direct answer to a question you'd actually asked. She is way in her head on this and could have just said, "Sounds fun but we've just got too much going on right now! Hopefully we'll see you after the holidays when the boys get together!" It means the same thing as what she said but doesn't assume you are desperate for her company.

Anyway, ignore. Maybe just wait to see if your son asks to hang out with hers and if so limit invite to the boys. It's too bad she has no social skills.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Do people get off on being so completely rude?! What a B. Trust us when we say that you are not the one who should be feeling mortified.

[Anonymous]

Don't be mortified. Picture her as someone struggling to keep it together and starting to unravel.

[Anonymous]

Wow. She’s incredibly rude.

[Anonymous]

No response is needed. Just let it go.

[Anonymous]

What is a good comeback to this? It almost can’t be left without a snappy response

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be laughing my butt off - at their expense. People are crazy.

+1 I’m cringing on this super-awkward woman’s behalf. I would definitely tell this story to a lot of people over the coming years.

[Anonymous]

Don’t respond at all and when you see her next, offer the smuggest snickering smile of your life and nothing more.