I can't keep subsidizing DS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would give him a list of local homeless shelters and a suitcase. Then I would tell him he has 30 days to find a job or he has 30 days to get transported to a homeless shelter of his choice. Give him a gentle reminder at the two week mark and then follow through.

I call bullshit.

It's easy to kick out other people's kids, but not so easy to do it to your own. Especially if they are not using drugs, alcohol, generally following house rules.

Internet hard asses over here.

[Anonymous]

Some teenagers need hand holding through the application process (both for college and jobs). For us it was a collaborative process. If I left it up to my teen he would have missed deadlines, and eventually said F* it. With that said it doesn't mean I helicoptered. I helped him get started, then handed him the laptop so he could complete the common core application, which was used to apply to multiple schools. His high school counselor also played a big part.

For jobs he was recommended to a fast food place from a high school friend. I reviewed his application right before he his submit.

Now he's doing great. If I had left it all up to him, he would still be asleep in his bedroom today with a half assed plan, and no desire to start.

Take the time now to regroup, make a plan, and start on it. He may need some pushing, but that doesn't mean making him homeless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some teenagers need hand holding through the application process (both for college and jobs). For us it was a collaborative process. If I left it up to my teen he would have missed deadlines, and eventually said F* it. With that said it doesn't mean I helicoptered. I helped him get started, then handed him the laptop so he could complete the common core application, which was used to apply to multiple schools. His high school counselor also played a big part.

For jobs he was recommended to a fast food place from a high school friend. I reviewed his application right before he his submit.

Now he's doing great. If I had left it all up to him, he would still be asleep in his bedroom today with a half assed plan, and no desire to start.

Take the time now to regroup, make a plan, and start on it. He may need some pushing, but that doesn't mean making him homeless.

This, especially teenage guys. There was no way he was getting into the ivy league with a 3.75 GPA. He needs some handholding to help him figure out where to go and what to do from here.