Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

[Anonymous]

The preschool teacher first recommended keeping our August born son back. She said he was reserved and didn’t participate in groups. I had the opportunity to observe this at the end of the year when the parents were invited to see the kids’ art work and performance. My son spent most of the time picking at a hole in the wall.
He is also incredibly small and way below the 1 percentile. We’ve seen doctors about this. It was a problem at one point when the bigger boys would try to pick up my son for fun. He hated it and cried about it at home.

[Anonymous]

To give her an advantage socially and academically, which it absolutely did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To give her an advantage socially and academically, which it absolutely did.

+1 It is obviously advantageous for the child. There are no downsides to being at home and doing preschool a few days week for one more year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was always the youngest in his grade (December birthday in a state with a January 1st cutoff) and absolutely hated it and was very adamant that we wait a year to send our September birthday boy to K. Plus I wasn’t redshirted but I was always one of the older ones due to my November birthday (cutoff was October 1st where I grew up) and loved it, so it was just a no brainer.

Now he’s a freshman in high school and we’ve never spent a second regretting our decision! He’s never been much into sports, but he is pretty much right in the middle of the pack for everything else — academics, social skills, maturity, etc.

Anecdotally, I have talked to soooo many parents about this issue and rarely, if ever, come across folks who say they regret waiting, but DO come across plenty of folks who say they now realize their kid could’ve benefitted from another year.

Same. I have NEVER met anyone who regretted the choice to have their child wait a year. NEVER. That says a lot.

[Anonymous]

Most people are holding back white, UMC boys. That is the typical demographic held back. That's the point of that statement. Most of the time it is for sports or their kids to have some unfair advantage. This is also the last demographic that needs an unfair advantage. Look at the salary gap between white males and everyone else.. that's the point. Some of you are kind of ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

Because they will hope up with out grit and self determination. We can't simply give our kids a leg up. They actually have to use their legs and learn how to run their own race

LOLOLOL

Tell that to the truly elite people of the world.

The people in this thread are so naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people are holding back white, UMC boys. That is the typical demographic held back. That's the point of that statement. Most of the time it is for sports or their kids to have some unfair advantage. This is also the last demographic that needs an unfair advantage. Look at the salary gap between white males and everyone else.. that's the point. Some of you are kind of ignorant.

You sound pretty ignorant yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people are holding back white, UMC boys. That is the typical demographic held back. That's the point of that statement. Most of the time it is for sports or their kids to have some unfair advantage. This is also the last demographic that needs an unfair advantage. Look at the salary gap between white males and everyone else.. that's the point. Some of you are kind of ignorant.

You sound pretty ignorant yourself.

What sounds ignorant? Explain it instead of just repeating yourself.

[Anonymous]

Too immature. DS needed another year of kindergarten before he could cope with first grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

Because they will hope up with out grit and self determination. We can't simply give our kids a leg up. They actually have to use their legs and learn how to run their own race

LOLOLOL

Tell that to the truly elite people of the world.

The people in this thread are so naive.

Yes. Case in point: the lady who boasts about how her kids will develop grit by being the youngest, while she simultaneously treats disadvantaged people as entertainment for her toddlers. It's disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

Because they will hope up with out grit and self determination. We can't simply give our kids a leg up. They actually have to use their legs and learn how to run their own race

LOLOLOL

Tell that to the truly elite people of the world.

The people in this thread are so naive.

Yes. Case in point: the lady who boasts about how her kids will develop grit by being the youngest, while she simultaneously treats disadvantaged people as entertainment for her toddlers. It's disgusting.

Boasting about developing grit? No my kids have it easy enough being in the grade they are supposed to be. Don’t put words in my mouth. Two, I have volunteered by making lunches in a commercial kitchen for the homeless for the last decade. A lot of children come and assist in the ways they are allowed to help. There are a few tasks they can do. Am I supposed to stop because I had kids? It’s not entertainment for our family. It’s our values. Hey someone has to be the one to volunteer their time and give their money. That’s fine if it’s not you but you probably aren’t in a position to be mocking people that do think it’s important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did it because boys mature at a different rate than girls and we wanted our boys to be at a similar emotional maturity to the girls in their class. And there was no disadvantage. They got an extra year in half-day preschool and got to come home to play with their siblings. That was a game changer in terms of our kids relationships with each other. I am convinced that our kids have a much tighter relationship and are a better unit because they had that quality time together.

They would have had the same relationship. You did it as preschool was easier for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To give her an advantage socially and academically, which it absolutely did.

+1 It is obviously advantageous for the child. There are no downsides to being at home and doing preschool a few days week for one more year.

Actually there are. You are artificially making your kid smarter when they are just older. It’s usually the lazy parents who want the school to parent their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The preschool teacher first recommended keeping our August born son back. She said he was reserved and didn’t participate in groups. I had the opportunity to observe this at the end of the year when the parents were invited to see the kids’ art work and performance. My son spent most of the time picking at a hole in the wall.
He is also incredibly small and way below the 1 percentile. We’ve seen doctors about this. It was a problem at one point when the bigger boys would try to pick up my son for fun. He hated it and cried about it at home.

Why would you keep him at that school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To give her an advantage socially and academically, which it absolutely did.

+1 It is obviously advantageous for the child. There are no downsides to being at home and doing preschool a few days week for one more year.

Actually there are. You are artificially making your kid smarter when they are just older. It’s usually the lazy parents who want the school to parent their kids.

Oh dear, you seem confused. I'm lazy because I wanted my kids at home with me for an extra year? Huh, go figure.