Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?
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Anonymous
You are too lazy to get them prepared. You should teach them basic skills, including reading and writing at home. Its easier to wait a year, not teach them and they are older so they will pick it up quicker. Kids are not immature at 4-5. They have only been on earth 4-5 years and don't have the life experiences. School/K. is a life experience they need. |
Anonymous
| This is a question that next to nobody on here will be able to answer, as redshirting is so extraordinarily rare. The only kids who are considered for redshirting are kids born between October and December, and even of those kids, less than 1 percent are redshirted. So you're really looking for a needle in a haystack. However, luckily for you, I happen to be one of the few people in the country who was redshirted, and I can relay my parents reasoning to you. My birthday's in the first week of October and wasn't started in K until I was almost 6. The reason my parents have given for doing this is because I have autism. Seeing as how kids with autism usually have above average intelligence, this explanation has always seemed ridiculous to me. I think my parents are the only world who have used this logic. I'd imagine most parents of autistic kids would be more likely to push their kids to start early rather than late, due to their high IQ's. |
Anonymous
Depends. Where I live it's very common. More than half of parents with boys 3-4 months before the cut off red shirt. |
Anonymous
Just stop. You don't get it, and your kids will always think they are better than. Oh well. Too bad. |
Anonymous
| No but really, explain yourself. You just keep saying you don’t get it but really it’s just an excuse for you to personally do nothing with yourself besides argue with people about how you’re right. It’s sad. |
Anonymous
Yes. If a family can afford to do it, it can only benefit a child to be in the home for an extra year with parents and siblings and homeschooling. |
Anonymous
Understatement of the century. |
Anonymous
I was hoping this would give them an edge over their peers. |
Anonymous
| We redshirted because we didn't have a choice. DS was born on October 3rd, but because of a ridiculously early cut-off where we live(5 by September 30th), we were forced to wait until he was almost 6 to send him. He's now in 4th grade, reading at a 7th grade level, and is ridiculously bored. |
Anonymous
Based on my own experience, this in only temporary. I have a late September birthday and my parents held me back because they wanted me and my brother, who's 20 months younger than me, to be closer together in school(a grade apart). Being the oldest definitely gave me an edge at first, and I breezed through elementary, middle, and high school. It was in college, however, that I learned artificial advantages can only take you so far. I finally had to put in work in order to succeed in college, and I think I know why. Age differences matter less as you get older. The reason being a year older gave me an advantage before college is because a year is HUGE when you're a kid. However, it is not so significant when you're an adult. A 19-year-old simply doesn't have the same advantage over an 18-year-old that a 9-year-old has over an 8-year-old. In fact, I'd go as far as to say it was even harder for me, as I had never really learned how to study, something most people learn to do well before college. |
Anonymous
Okay, sweetie. If you believe staying at home puts them at a deficit then there is nothing I can do about it and, frankly, your opinion about the matter doesn't mean a thing. |
Anonymous
Putting your year older kids in a class is not a leg up. They're not really winning at anything against peers their own age. |
Anonymous
My son was born on October 5th and we have a sept 1st cutoff. He is going to be short (He is 5''4 at 14) so I am glad we didn't push ahead somehow. |
Anonymous
| We did for a better sibling relationship and better school experience. It’s been very good 6 years later. I do worry though about how it is affecting testing. Kids who aren’t redshirted at least in the first three years can seem much further behind which skews their actual abilities. I think that’s unfair and they should test the first six years of school on growth rather than achievement. Save achievement for middle and high school. |
Anonymous
| Our son turns 5 on October 4th, and we seriously considered redshirting him. There are countless studies that show that older kids do better academically. However, as tempted as we were to redshirt, we've ultimately decided that we're going to send him to Kindergarten this fall. Redshirting is cheating, and sometimes you have to give up what you desire in order to do what's right. It simply wouldn't be fair to kids born in 2016 if they had to compete with someone born in 2015. Even though he won't do as well in school as he would if we wait a year, my S/O and I have decided that we'd much rather our son do okay playing by the rules than excel by cheating. |