Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

[Anonymous]

Just tell the other family that it's not going to work out this summer. If the mom pushes it, just be honest and say you caught wind of how she was disparaging you and that the drama of the situation is simply not worth it. Friendship will be over but you won't have to deal with the liability of this other kid living on your property

[Anonymous]

AC bedroom single with access to kitchen and bath at the beach for $11/day for the whole summer? It’s a great deal. But it’s already caused problems so sadly it didn’t work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird because the friend was invited and THEN asked to pay rent. If your son already invited him giving the impression he could live for free I’d look weird at you too.

1. The kids are technically adults, so they should work it out among themselves
2. But since we are treating them like children, do you always take all invites your kids receive at face value? I think it is reasonable for the mom of the free loader to be skeptical and ask “are you going to chip in for utilities?” Or something like that.
3. And since these boys need some assistance in learning how to be adults, how about ALL of them split utilities for the summer?

Because the other boys are heirs to beautiful ACREAGE!!!

[Anonymous]

My college age kids are paying $1200/mon to live in a city and do an internship. OP Your friend is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never assume my college-aged kid would live scot-free for an entire summer in a beach town. But as a few other PPs have mentioned I have to wonder if other family members on DH's side are annoyed that your son is hogging the house all summer.

OP says the cousins are coming too so sounds like the whole family is giving it up for the kids.

How noble of them. But they still want to make money off of someone else's kid.

Yeah, this is the really messed up part. It clearly isn't a money issue - if they needed the income, they would have told the kids to get jobs at home, and rented the house out over the entire summer. This is just . . . greed? spite? . . . I don't even know, on the part of first the BIL, and then the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My college age kids are paying $1200/mon to live in a city and do an internship. OP Your friend is crazy.

In an illegal rental? Then they’re getting robbed

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have asked them to pay, but I also wouldn't have reacted if someone asked me to pay. And I truly don't understand why this is a conversation between parents and not the kids. Weird people involved, all around.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is your husband's property. Together with your brother-in-laws (plural, right?). So at least three men. You married into the family so why are you the primary person dealing with this? Tell your husband to handle it. And move on to another kid, ditch the one with this awful, gossipy, easily-offended, entitled, rude mother.

And while I don't mean to sound rude, this supposedly amazing beach house sounds like a bit of a shitbox, which is perfect for college boys. Why does anyone have to live in the shed. If your son is the only one of the cousins bringing a friend into the mix, why don't they share a room? Every beachouse in the world has at least one bedroom with bunk beds.

[Anonymous]

I can't understand why everyone opposed to the idea of using the bunkhouse is pretending that the kid wont have the same access to a bathroom, kitchen, fridge, washer dryer, TV, etc that all the other kids have.Maybe theyre just too stupid to understand it.

When I was 20 I would have killed for this deal.

To all of you claiming its illegal I suggest you go to law school. Its not illegal. The state of Virginia rents yurts and cabins even more rustic that this. Many of them have no electricity at all. I know because I've rented them.

Are you claiming Virginia is breaking the law?

Youre dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't understand why everyone opposed to the idea of using the bunkhouse is pretending that the kid wont have the same access to a bathroom, kitchen, fridge, washer dryer, TV, etc that all the other kids have.Maybe theyre just too stupid to understand it.

When I was 20 I would have killed for this deal.

To all of you claiming its illegal I suggest you go to law school. Its not illegal. The state of Virginia rents yurts and cabins even more rustic that this. Many of them have no electricity at all. I know because I've rented them.

Are you claiming Virginia is breaking the law?

Youre dumb.

I did go to law school. If you had, you might realize that landlord-tenant law is not federal, it is state law. North Carolina states that a landlord for a residential property has an obligation to provide running water.

[Anonymous]

I thought this was post was going to go a very different way! I actually did this with my friends at my parent's beach house about 13 years ago. Neither friend paid a dime of rent, which my mom will still bring up to this day because neither family ever offered any sort of compensation, including taking me out to eat when their parents were in town! So yeah... people are cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't understand why everyone opposed to the idea of using the bunkhouse is pretending that the kid wont have the same access to a bathroom, kitchen, fridge, washer dryer, TV, etc that all the other kids have.Maybe theyre just too stupid to understand it.

When I was 20 I would have killed for this deal.

To all of you claiming its illegal I suggest you go to law school. Its not illegal. The state of Virginia rents yurts and cabins even more rustic that this. Many of them have no electricity at all. I know because I've rented them.

Are you claiming Virginia is breaking the law?

Youre dumb.

I did go to law school. If you had, you might realize that landlord-tenant law is not federal, it is state law. North Carolina states that a landlord for a residential property has an obligation to provide running water.

Well your law school failed you because NC Department of Natural Resources rents cabins and yurts all over the state. And water is provided in this instance. The kid will have the exact same access to water as the other kids. I've stayed in cabins in Buxton, NC and they did not have electricity or water.

[Anonymous]

Is this where everyone pretends that all living arrangements are above board a compliant with leases? lol. I lived in a fraternity house in college that should have been condemned. I lived in a van one summer in Colorado. That same summer 3 of us lived illegally with a childhood friend in his house in Missoula, Mt.

It seems like everyone is just jealous and wants to crap on it.

Who wouldn't want to be 20 again and living at the beach for the summer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't understand why everyone opposed to the idea of using the bunkhouse is pretending that the kid wont have the same access to a bathroom, kitchen, fridge, washer dryer, TV, etc that all the other kids have.Maybe theyre just too stupid to understand it.

When I was 20 I would have killed for this deal.

To all of you claiming its illegal I suggest you go to law school. Its not illegal. The state of Virginia rents yurts and cabins even more rustic that this. Many of them have no electricity at all. I know because I've rented them.

Are you claiming Virginia is breaking the law?

Youre dumb.

I did go to law school. If you had, you might realize that landlord-tenant law is not federal, it is state law. North Carolina states that a landlord for a residential property has an obligation to provide running water.

Well your law school failed you because NC Department of Natural Resources rents cabins and yurts all over the state. And water is provided in this instance. The kid will have the exact same access to water as the other kids. I've stayed in cabins in Buxton, NC and they did not have electricity or water.

LOL at the idea that NCDNC = landlord. You know farmers sometimes rent fallow land for grazing, right? That doesn't mean they're subject to landlord tenant laws. Keep posting, it's cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like your kid invited the other kid without making clear the conditions (rent etc). It's not really an invite, it's a leasing opportunity. Having set the conditions (whether or not they are fair), it's weird to me that you approached the mom rather than conveying them to your kid and having him explain them to his friend.

Finally, is this a remote location or in a bustling beach town? If it's an employment center, maybe the rent is justifiable. If it's more remote, I wouldn't call it nominal rent.

For any accomodations within 10 miles of a beach town this is nominal rent.