Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

[Anonymous]

Is this really a good idea op? Is there a smoke detector? You are opening yourself up to massive liability.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your kid invited the other kid without making clear the conditions (rent etc). It's not really an invite, it's a leasing opportunity. Having set the conditions (whether or not they are fair), it's weird to me that you approached the mom rather than conveying them to your kid and having him explain them to his friend.

Finally, is this a remote location or in a bustling beach town? If it's an employment center, maybe the rent is justifiable. If it's more remote, I wouldn't call it nominal rent.

[Anonymous]

$333/month is $11 per day. That's an appropriate rate to live in a bungalow with A/C and electricity at the beach during peak summer season. The kid will be using the kitchen, bathroom, and living area in the main house all summer. Plus utilities.

Frankly, I'd be annoyed that these boys are using the house for the entire summer! When does the rest of the family get to hang out?

Also, this house is gonna be party-central for all the seasonal teen and college-age workers. Ooof. How many noise complaints and tickets do you think the boys will get? I'm guessing no less than 8.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

OP here. The friend would use the kitchen, baths, electricity, water, and gas like all the others and undoubtedly hang out in the house all the time he wasn't sleeping. The other boys are living for free because... their family owns the house.

Eye roll? I imagine that other lady is giving you and eye roll and much more!

Do you really think the marginal cost of that boy staying in the bunk shed is $1000 for the summer? Is this your son's good friend? And why do your charge him unless DH's family is that hard up for $$??
What does DS think?

I would have been mortified if my parents did this to a friend of mine.

Same here.

Also, it's likely not a legal rental (no water or plumbing), so the "lease" would be illegal and unenforceable. But, if it is enforceable, I hope the kid treats it as such. So when the AC goes out, he calls you BIL and tells him it needs to be fixed, and withholds rent for every day it isn't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky to charge him rent in this situation. I'd ask that all the boys do a certain group of chores and tasks - mow the lawn, paint the shed, etc.

And $1000 for a college kid is not a nominal amount.

This is cheap, cheap, cheap in a beach town where the kids work jobs.

I agree it’s cheap and doable. But it’s going to cause conflict. It already has. I bet the kid doesn’t love his mom ending his place to stay at the beach for the summer.

[Anonymous]

OP strikes me as the kind of person who, when she visits her kid at college, she invites his roommates out to dinner, and then asks for separate checks.

[Anonymous]

I would never assume my college-aged kid would live scot-free for an entire summer in a beach town. But as a few other PPs have mentioned I have to wonder if other family members on DH's side are annoyed that your son is hogging the house all summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never assume my college-aged kid would live scot-free for an entire summer in a beach town. But as a few other PPs have mentioned I have to wonder if other family members on DH's side are annoyed that your son is hogging the house all summer.

OP says the cousins are coming too so sounds like the whole family is giving it up for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP strikes me as the kind of person who, when she visits her kid at college, she invites his roommates out to dinner, and then asks for separate checks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never assume my college-aged kid would live scot-free for an entire summer in a beach town. But as a few other PPs have mentioned I have to wonder if other family members on DH's side are annoyed that your son is hogging the house all summer.

OP says the cousins are coming too so sounds like the whole family is giving it up for the kids.

How noble of them. But they still want to make money off of someone else's kid.

[Anonymous]

Disinvite this kid. It’s only going to cause trouble. I don’t get where PPs think kid should live rent free in summer at the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never assume my college-aged kid would live scot-free for an entire summer in a beach town. But as a few other PPs have mentioned I have to wonder if other family members on DH's side are annoyed that your son is hogging the house all summer.

OP says the cousins are coming too so sounds like the whole family is giving it up for the kids.

How noble of them. But they still want to make money off of someone else's kid.

Living in a shed. The only kid without a toilet is also the only one paying money towards the water bill. Sick and twisted really.

[Anonymous]

I bet the kid is PISSED that mom got involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disinvite this kid. It’s only going to cause trouble. I don’t get where PPs think kid should live rent free in summer at the beach.

Because he isn’t being offered rentable space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird because the friend was invited and THEN asked to pay rent. If your son already invited him giving the impression he could live for free I’d look weird at you too.

1. The kids are technically adults, so they should work it out among themselves
2. But since we are treating them like children, do you always take all invites your kids receive at face value? I think it is reasonable for the mom of the free loader to be skeptical and ask “are you going to chip in for utilities?” Or something like that.
3. And since these boys need some assistance in learning how to be adults, how about ALL of them split utilities for the summer?