All the dads obviously crushing on this one (married) mom - why?

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Anonymous wrote:I hear you. Somewhat different circumstances, but I once saw three married men in a friend group literally trip over each other in a rush to walk next to a woman similar to the one you described.

I work with someone like that - the guys love her! She is not what anyone would call a conventional beauty - she is petite, light eyes (not buggy - some blue eyes look bug eyed to me), light brown hair, well dressed (conservative and business like), natural looking, but striking. I also know a blonde who is thin and authentic looking but pale - honestly, I think the former is much more attractive, but the guys who fawn over the latter don't seem to get out much LOL. In either case, I don't think she does anything to discourage it.

authentic = athletic LOL

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

So it's a better look to be a suspicious cow?

I get this a lot b.c I am a happily married woman who actually likes football. If I start talking to DH's buddies too much...all the wives start freaking out. Pathetic.

I agree and the topics the wives talk about are so tedious and bitchy. I'd rather just keep it light than heard all the gossip from neighborhood and school.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

So it's a better look to be a suspicious cow?

I get this a lot b.c I am a happily married woman who actually likes football. If I start talking to DH's buddies too much...all the wives start freaking out. Pathetic.

You do know women like football too, lol!

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Lol! Thank God I’m single.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

What a sad way to live. You can’t talk to other men in group social settings and are suspicious of those who do? Must be exhausting going through life so incredibly insecure.

I am not talking about myself, I am talking about my observations. There is nothing "sad" about how I live, though you might wish otherwise.

I’m confused. So you ARE one of those women who talks to both genders including (gasp!) other people’s husbands at social events, and you also think it’s “not a good look” and men and women should split into separate groups instead? Which is it?

It is not a good look for anyone to throw themselves at someone else's spouse. You are an adult. Act like one.

Exactly. OP said "crushing" so I envision a few idiots that are acting like teens.

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Op it must have something to do with her personality. I know a cute thin blonde who is very attractive but who scares men away. It is because she comes across as bitchy and unfriendly. This woman must be very nice and friendly. Men love that.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

So it's a better look to be a suspicious cow?

I get this a lot b.c I am a happily married woman who actually likes football. If I start talking to DH's buddies too much...all the wives start freaking out. Pathetic.

You do know women like football too, lol!

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Doesn't mean I have to talk primarily to the dads under the guise of talking football.

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Anonymous wrote:Op it must have something to do with her personality. I know a cute thin blonde who is very attractive but who scares men away. It is because she comes across as bitchy and unfriendly. This woman must be very nice and friendly. Men love that.

The one I know is often grinning kind of stupidly, so I agree this could be the case. Some men like women to "yes" them all day long, but who push comes to shove, they need a woman who can get out of her own way.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

So it's a better look to be a suspicious cow?

I get this a lot b.c I am a happily married woman who actually likes football. If I start talking to DH's buddies too much...all the wives start freaking out. Pathetic.

You do know women like football too, lol!

eh.. I'm glad I'm married to a great man. He never ogles women in front of me. Cars, yes, women, no. Not saying he doesn't look. Heck, I look, just not so glaringly obvious.

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Anonymous wrote:You described the ideal white woman for white men.

Ideal woman for all men on the planet, actually.

hm.. so when men say they like Asian women, that's a fetish, but a blonde white women is considered "ideal" worldwide? OK.

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My sister is like the woman OP wrote about. She is very pretty, but not gorgeous, and she is trim but not busty at all. But she is an incredibly engaging conversationalist and people, especially men, love to chat with her. She is very non judge mental so people will tell her things they might not tell anyone else. It’s freaking uncanny! I don’t know if all of the dads are crushing on her but her husband hears from them how lucky he is all the time so you never know.

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Anonymous wrote:You described the ideal white woman for white men.

Ideal woman for all men on the planet, actually.

hm.. so when men say they like Asian women, that's a fetish, but a blonde white women is considered "ideal" worldwide? OK.

Certain kinds of men like Asians.

Marrying white, for many cultural groups, is considered "marrying up". Not saying I agree.

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Married woman, size 6 jeans, XL boobs (DD) that don't sag (lift weights, don't run & never breastfeed). I smile & talk to everyone. If the "girls" are in the kitchen, that's where I am. I do not call , hang out or joke with any men, other than my DH, dad or brother. I don't want DH calling, hanging out or joking with other women other than his mom (he has no sister). Does that make me insecure? Nope. It makes me respectful. My DH & I have boundaries. If I don't want him to do it, I don't & vice versa.

My DH could think a friend is attractive, but he keeps it to himself. He doesn't gawk or comment. If I see a younger more attractive woman, "holding court", I think "good for her". I know my husband isn't there & doesn't care.

If your husband is gawking or part of the "court", your problem is with him disrespecting you & your marriage. Spend your time /energy to fix that instead of hating a younger, more attractive woman. And guess what? The longer you are married, the more younger, better looking women are around,

BTW As a natural DD, I wear the "matronly" look shirt to AVOID gawking & rude comments. I wear a bikini in my home hot tub now that kids are out of the house - not to the public pool. I wear fitted, sexy clothes for my 6 ft 2, 250 lb weight lifting DH, not with family & friends. I'm not interested in being sexual attractive to other men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my social circle, we are all married, mid thirties to late forties, with kids ranging from preschool to middle school. We see each other at various school events, pool/swim team, neighborhood get togethers, and scheduled backyard barbecues and date nights. It has become glaringly obvious to me over the last year or so that all the men are attracted to this one woman who is just another mom in the circle. I don’t really get it. I mean, she is pretty and one of the youngest in our group, but I wouldn’t think of her as a bombshell type. She is blonde, very thin and fit, but while she has some shape from working out, her breasts are very small. She is very nice and smiles a lot, but I would not say she is flirty. Meanwhile, I notice all the men practically falling over themselves to talk to her, be close to her, I see their stares, etc. It’s almost embarrassing, considering she is married and our kids all play together. What is the deal? Why would men be so drawn to her?

Maybe her husband is looking to get rid of her, so he doesn't saying anything, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married woman, size 6 jeans, XL boobs (DD) that don't sag (lift weights, don't run & never breastfeed). I smile & talk to everyone. If the "girls" are in the kitchen, that's where I am. I do not call , hang out or joke with any men, other than my DH, dad or brother. I don't want DH calling, hanging out or joking with other women other than his mom (he has no sister). Does that make me insecure? Nope. It makes me respectful. My DH & I have boundaries. If I don't want him to do it, I don't & vice versa.

My DH could think a friend is attractive, but he keeps it to himself. He doesn't gawk or comment. If I see a younger more attractive woman, "holding court", I think "good for her". I know my husband isn't there & doesn't care.

If your husband is gawking or part of the "court", your problem is with him disrespecting you & your marriage. Spend your time /energy to fix that instead of hating a younger, more attractive woman. And guess what? The longer you are married, the more younger, better looking women are around,

BTW As a natural DD, I wear the "matronly" look shirt to AVOID gawking & rude comments. I wear a bikini in my home hot tub now that kids are out of the house - not to the public pool. I wear fitted, sexy clothes for my 6 ft 2, 250 lb weight lifting DH, not with family & friends. I'm not interested in being sexual attractive to other men.

+1

Agree.