Not redshirting our May birthday boy?

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Anonymous wrote:This is getting out of hand. My daughter started K having just turned 5. A boy in her Kindergarten class turned 7 before Christmas. My daughter won't be 7 until 2nd grade!! He'll be 9 - have you ever heard of a 9 year old second grader?? He'll have his learner's permit to drive in middle school!!

My nine year old just finished 4th. He will start 4th as a 9 year old and turn 10 in the fall. I cannot imagine him being in second grade.

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Anonymous wrote:This is getting out of hand. My daughter started K having just turned 5. A boy in her Kindergarten class turned 7 before Christmas. My daughter won't be 7 until 2nd grade!! He'll be 9 - have you ever heard of a 9 year old second grader?? He'll have his learner's permit to drive in middle school!!

My nine year old just finished 4th. He will start 4th as a 9 year old and turn 10 in the fall. I cannot imagine him being in second grade.

My brother was 9 in second grade. He had been pulled from Kindergarten at 5 and held back in first grade. He had serious LDs and ADHD. He ended up graduating from college with an English Lit degree. He was never a great student but he was a good student. It took him longer then others to learn to read and to figure out how he processed information.

There are good reasons for some kids to be older in a classroom. I would argue that my brother was the exception and should not be the rule.

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Anonymous wrote:My nine year old just finished 4th. He will start 4th as a 9 year old and turn 10 in the fall. I cannot imagine him being in second grade.

Look at it this way: my daughter, with a March birthday, on recommendation of the school, went through a pre-first class. She will turn 10 in the spring of third grade, so she’s age-wise just half a grade year behind your son. Is that so hard to imagine?

In her case, it was for social-emotional development reasons and I think it was a good choice. Academically, she would have been fine but I can see that this year (in first) she’s been able to cope with anxiety and challenges much more effectively than she did last year, although still only on par with her classmates. If she’d been in first last year, she’d have gotten called out a lot for being disruptive and immature. This year, she was able to cope with the grade-level demands, and it’s given her more confidence and continued improvement in those skills than being beaten down all the time would have done.

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Anonymous wrote:My nine year old just finished 4th. He will start 4th as a 9 year old and turn 10 in the fall. I cannot imagine him being in second grade.

Look at it this way: my daughter, with a March birthday, on recommendation of the school, went through a pre-first class. She will turn 10 in the spring of third grade, so she’s age-wise just half a grade year behind your son. Is that so hard to imagine?

In her case, it was for social-emotional development reasons and I think it was a good choice. Academically, she would have been fine but I can see that this year (in first) she’s been able to cope with anxiety and challenges much more effectively than she did last year, although still only on par with her classmates. If she’d been in first last year, she’d have gotten called out a lot for being disruptive and immature. This year, she was able to cope with the grade-level demands, and it’s given her more confidence and continued improvement in those skills than being beaten down all the time would have done.

The PP you responded to was not clear but I think was saying the child will turn 10 in fall of 5th grade. Not sure. My daughter is on the young side with an end of July birthday and she will turn 10 this summer after completing 4th and before starting 5th. That’s almost a year and a half after spring of 3rd grade.

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We are holding back our late July son (Sept 1 cutoff). After talking with our pediatrician, it was suggested that we hold him back UNLESS he has a group of friends entering K and he would feel left out.

[Anonymous]

We did not redshirt our June boy and ate not redshirting our early September girl (cut off is 9/30).

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Anonymous wrote:We are holding back our late July son (Sept 1 cutoff). After talking with our pediatrician, it was suggested that we hold him back UNLESS he has a group of friends entering K and he would feel left out.

Really, friends...most kids don't stay with the same friends and they switch year to year. Worst suggestion ever. Why dumb down your child?

[Anonymous]

My September first DS started in time, so was actually 4 the first couple weeks of kindergarten. Absolutely no regrets academically or socially. He was a 5’11” freshman last year and got a 4.0 at one of our state’s top schools.

Turning 7 in kindergarten is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:There should be a rule that you can't turn 7 in kindergarten. That is just crazy old. There are plenty of second graders who are 7!

We held our son back. There should be rule that Kindergarten should be designed to accommodate boy behaviors.

Instead, Kindergarten is designed for kids who will sit still - and my son wasn't ready to do that yet.

Don't blame parents for Red-shirting a boy, blame the school system for not adjusting to young boy behavior.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFpYj0E-yb4

Please don’t be so sexist. Neither I nor my boys appreciate it. I am sure some “wiggly” girls and their parents equally don’t appreciate it.

I have a girl who is a wiggle worm. She actually has a hard time sitting still for long periods. She's also the youngest in her class. We talked to her teachers, and they all agreed that it was age-appropriate, worked with her to develop coping strategies (a small object she could fidget with, a weighted pillow), giving her chances to move (asking her to hand out items for projects, allowing her to stand when working at a table rather than insisting that she sit), and making sure that they weren't asking the entire class to sit too long without movement breaks. IME, therefore, kindergarten and even first-grade teachers are willing to accommodate "boy" behaviors, if by "boy" behaviors you mean children's natural need for movement. Many, many teachers and schools have learned (or re-learned) the importance of movement, and build movement into class activities or schedule regular movement breaks throughout the day for just that reason.

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NP here: My district has an Oct 10 cutoff but may be changing to Sept 1 in the future. I have a 6 yr old DS who has an Oct 1 bday and some learning issues that require speech, ot, etc. I held him back even though 10 days from the cutoff doesnt really feel like holding back. He was not significantly older than many kids. There were a handful of April/May bdays but otherwise they were all fall/winter bdays.

However, my just turned 4 yr old (with no known issues as of yet) is a mid June bday and my plan is to send him on time, but Im nervous that the trend is skewing towards holding June babies back and then he can end up being a year younger than kids in his grade. UGH

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Anonymous wrote:We did not redshirt our June boy and ate not redshirting our early September girl (cut off is 9/30).

Hi- I have a June boy. Are you happy with your decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here: My district has an Oct 10 cutoff but may be changing to Sept 1 in the future. I have a 6 yr old DS who has an Oct 1 bday and some learning issues that require speech, ot, etc. I held him back even though 10 days from the cutoff doesnt really feel like holding back. He was not significantly older than many kids. There were a handful of April/May bdays but otherwise they were all fall/winter bdays.

However, my just turned 4 yr old (with no known issues as of yet) is a mid June bday and my plan is to send him on time, but Im nervous that the trend is skewing towards holding June babies back and then he can end up being a year younger than kids in his grade. UGH

PP here: Also just to clarify, my ds was 5 when he started K and turned 6 the following month. No regrets at all, as he was in a special preschool program due to his learning needs during that "extra year" and was finally ready for K when K started for him. But its weird to think my June kid will be 5 all of K while my October kid was 6 all of K.

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Anonymous wrote:We did not redshirt our June boy and ate not redshirting our early September girl (cut off is 9/30).

Hi- I have a June boy. Are you happy with your decision?

DS is a late June birthday and we started him on time. He is doing great. Most of his classmates started on time, there were a few who did not for a variety of reasons but mainly an academic or speech issue. We are happy with the decision.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did not redshirt our June boy and ate not redshirting our early September girl (cut off is 9/30).

Hi- I have a June boy. Are you happy with your decision?

DS is a late June birthday and we started him on time. He is doing great. Most of his classmates started on time, there were a few who did not for a variety of reasons but mainly an academic or speech issue. We are happy with the decision.

Thanks for your feedback!