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Anonymous wrote:What are people using to set the baby down in during the day? Newborn DS sleeps at night in the bassinet (lucky us!) if we use the RNP during the day in the living room. We’ll probably continue doing that at least until he rolls over. We used it much longer with DC1, but may not do that again.
Question is - if we ditch the RNP, where do we set him during the day? Swings, car seats, etc all have the same incline/positional asphyxiation risk, don’t they?
The people who go by the same standards for themselves as licensed day cares won’t set baby in anything. They put baby on the floor on a rubber mat, or hold them, or use an Ergo or another carrier, or the crib/flat surface pack and play. That’s it. I think it’s unrealistic but that’s all that’s technically “recommended” for maximum safety.
My baby had reflux until he was 1! I still didn't have him sleep in a freaking rnp. Guess what? He's alive now!
My baby slept in a RNP for 2 months. Also alive, just like the 99.999999995% of children that used it. Best part is that I didn’t careen into PPD. Lack of sleep is a trigger for depression for me and I was really, really concerned. With the RNP, my nursing child slept 5-6 hrs straight from week one. Balancing the very real risk of postpartum psychosis vs the infinitesimal chance a weak-necked child would die in the RNP vs swing or car seat, I took the chance and would take it again.
How would you, general you, feel if your baby died in it....knowing the risk?
I'm a PP defending the rock n play. My brother died in a tragic accident at 17. He was hit by a car on a bike not wearing a helmet.
It was horrible, but it wasn't any one persons fault. It was bad luck. A sleepy street, a blind turn he'd taken a million times less then a football field length from our house. His schoolmate and friend's mom was the driver. She wasn't speeding. This is life, 99.999% of the time you take the turn fine, and tragedy strikes that other .0001%.
My parents were rigid strict safety crazy people. 17 years of safety erased in a moment.
What did I learn from this tragedy? That you can't spend your life running from that moment. You will have some of those moments in your life, everyone does. Some will be worse than others, some people will have it worse than others. Would he have been better off afraid to leave the house because of a tragic accident? "A man afraid to fly, packed his suitcase kissed his kids goodbye, waited his whole life to take that flight and as the plane crashed does thought well isn't this nice"
This fearfulness pervades our parenting and you spend your time afraid instead of grateful. I know terrible things are always a blind turn and a lazy ride from falling apart. I chose to live doing the best I can in a way that also allows me to enjoy and appreciate the life I have. It's good in this moment. I'm savoring it instead of fending off bad random luck.
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