Did anyone listen to or look out their window today? Why is your son in shorts and a sweatshirt?

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Why do you care?

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes kids make their own decisions. And allowing them learn from their mistakes makes you a better parent than micromanaging their every move.

Yes, you let them practice with this kind of stuff where the stakes are low.

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Anonymous wrote:you must be the perfect parent then, and your kids always do what you tell them to do.

She is the mom of a 5 year old girl.

LOL

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. For everyone else making excuses, are you a parent or something else? At some point you have to stop being “friends” with your child and parent them.

+1000

Yes, being a parent is letting your kid makes choices on their own. You clearly have little kids. If you are still dictating what your teenagers wears on a daily basis you have not done your job as a parent. As a matter of fact, I dont even micromanag whe my 9yr old wears. He has only wore pants one day this year and what was when it snowed. He is old enough to know when he is cold. I do not need to tell him if he's cold or not. Hes not special needs.

Yiur attitude is what creates man children and adults who cant make their way out of a paper bag. Sadly there's a lot of that. Momagers like yourself even getting involved with them finding g jobs out of college.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, you saw my son! He has a coat, gloves, snow pants, and boots in his closet. My job is to provide - his is to dress his own darn self. He’s 12. If he wants to be cold, have at it. Not my body. Life has been much more pleasant at our place when we stopped commenting on clothes.

Can we be friends?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, you saw my son! He has a coat, gloves, snow pants, and boots in his closet. My job is to provide - his is to dress his own darn self. He’s 12. If he wants to be cold, have at it. Not my body. Life has been much more pleasant at our place when we stopped commenting on clothes.

Can we be friends?

This is me as well. And it goes for my elementary-age kids as well. They all have very nice, warm clothing and if they choose to dress like orphans, I have bigger fish to fry. Their teeth are brushed, their homework done, they've been served a breakfast (even if they choose not to eat it.) I am well aware of the judgmental looks they are getting - fortunately they are oblivious.

It doesn't help that their father doesn't feel cold and will happily shovel snow in his shorts and Tevas.

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Anonymous wrote:So kids can learn from their mistakes instead of being told what to do all the time and having their hand held.

+1 He'll figure out what to do when he's freezing his bits off. I have bigger fish to fry.

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Anonymous wrote:So kids can learn from their mistakes instead of being told what to do all the time and having their hand held.

+1 He'll figure out what to do when he's freezing his bits off. I have bigger fish to fry.

For lots of kids it's more important to look cool, so I wouldn't hold my breath.

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I've seen elementary kids (boys and girls) wearing shorts and no coat in snowy weather being dropped off by a parent for school. If they are so capable of making their own decisions about their bodies then why not let them stand out in the snow in the apparel of their choice and wait for the bus or walk to school?

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I think the exact same thing for every middle age woman I see wearing flats with bare feet in winter.

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Anonymous wrote:If I see my toddler shivering, doctor, should I ignore it if he doesn't want his coat on?

They aren't toddlers. And actually some of those hoodies are made for cold weather. My DC has one that is waterproof and rated to below 30.

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Anonymous wrote:Young boys run hot. I see boys in shorts basically year round.

Has nothing to do with body temperature. It's just teen boys trying to look defiant.

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Anonymous wrote:Tween/teen boys are not middle aged women. Their bodies are heaters and they simply do not get cold like we do.

My own kids have been known to wear shorts and a light jacket on sub zero days. Drives me nuts.

Although, I dunno. They appear to be suffering from hot flashes ...

It's called a high metabolism. Their bodies stay warm. If they bundled themselves up as you would like to see them bundled up they would feel sweaty, hot and uncomfortable.

A tween/teen boy is old enough to dress himself and he is old enough to figure out if he needs to wear pants or feels fine in shorts. It is strange that you don't appear to trust your own son to figure this stuff out for himself. I am going to guess that your own children are under the age of 10.

This is bull. They ARE cold. They're just being defiant and challenging (parental) boundaries.

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Anonymous wrote:Young boys run hot. I see boys in shorts basically year round.

Has nothing to do with body temperature. It's just teen boys trying to look defiant.

Welcome back, mom of the 5 year old girl.

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Anonymous wrote:I've seen elementary kids (boys and girls) wearing shorts and no coat in snowy weather being dropped off by a parent for school. If they are so capable of making their own decisions about their bodies then why not let them stand out in the snow in the apparel of their choice and wait for the bus or walk to school?

I teach elementary school and have dismissal duty outside every afternoon. One of the 5th grade patrols came up to me and complained that she had to stand outside on post today since it was cold. She wasn't wearing a coat. I asked her where her coat was since that would make her warmer and she said she doesn't like wearing coats so she didn't bring one. I know for a fact she has one. She signed up to be a patrol, so I guess natural consequences will be at play here. Sometimes they have to figure it out for themselves.