Tell me about the white Party at glen echo tomorrow night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s weird, it’s nice. It’s also good for the kids who are privileged to start doing these things. It’s a good way to raise a lot of money for a good cause, a lot more then a car wash would raise. Like it or not, this is how a very large portion of philanthropy is conducted. These kids will likely be participating in this way much of their lives. Doesn’t mean they won’t do other more direct efforts but this is part of their upbringing and there is nothing wrong with it. The kids who drank probably are the type drinking on weekend nights regardless - I agree it’s crazy, but that’s not on the event- there are far too many 14 year old kids drinking, smoking weed etc. and your naive if you don’t know this. We are very strict and on it with ours but w don’t kid ourselves either. And if they’d been drinking I absolutely would have known - what parent dropped them off knowing this is crazy. I hope those girls are ok and I hope all parents will tune in and realize many are already doing this stuff.

But there IS something wrong with it, that’s the thing. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that the way you are doing things is ‘not right’ and ‘not good’.
But I know that you will just pat yourself on the back for ‘supporting a good cause’ and then fly off for your next exotic vacation to ‘deconpress’ From your stressful life and not give it a second thought.

And yes - my kid goes to one of those schools and I see this stuff all the time and it’s vacuous and embarrassing behavior.

Ok why is there something wrong with it? And why is it wrong to take nice vacations? I don’t get it. As long as your kind, ethical, honest and yes “give back” why is any of this wrong??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s weird, it’s nice. It’s also good for the kids who are privileged to start doing these things. It’s a good way to raise a lot of money for a good cause, a lot more then a car wash would raise. Like it or not, this is how a very large portion of philanthropy is conducted. These kids will likely be participating in this way much of their lives. Doesn’t mean they won’t do other more direct efforts but this is part of their upbringing and there is nothing wrong with it. The kids who drank probably are the type drinking on weekend nights regardless - I agree it’s crazy, but that’s not on the event- there are far too many 14 year old kids drinking, smoking weed etc. and your naive if you don’t know this. We are very strict and on it with ours but w don’t kid ourselves either. And if they’d been drinking I absolutely would have known - what parent dropped them off knowing this is crazy. I hope those girls are ok and I hope all parents will tune in and realize many are already doing this stuff.

But there IS something wrong with it, that’s the thing. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that the way you are doing things is ‘not right’ and ‘not good’.
But I know that you will just pat yourself on the back for ‘supporting a good cause’ and then fly off for your next exotic vacation to ‘deconpress’ From your stressful life and not give it a second thought.

And yes - my kid goes to one of those schools and I see this stuff all the time and it’s vacuous and embarrassing behavior.

What is not right and not good? I don’t get it. A party for charity?


Ok why is there something wrong with it? And why is it wrong to take nice vacations? I don’t get it. As long as your kind, ethical, honest and yes “give back” why is any of this wrong??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD attended, she bought a dress that cost less than 20 dollars at her choosing, went with a great group of friends and had a good time. She attends public school not private. No one was drinking that she could see nor drunk and there were a lot of chaperones. She enjoyed the music and dancing with her friends and was questioning what people are writing here - conjecture made by adults who did not attend.

+1

Plus, the tickets are much more than that, so win/win. I think underprivileged children are better off having oodles of scholarship money, instead of a two hour crowded dance with a DJ. Are PPs really that shortsighted?

[Anonymous]

Ok for those disparaging the idea of a party that raises a lot of money for a good cause. Tell me, do you go to your school auction? Charity galas? Etc? Isn’t this all the same? And what’s wrong with it?

[Anonymous]

Just checked out the pictures on the website. The kids are gorgeous and clearly big-hearted to devote their time and energy to raise money for kids their age without such enormous privilege. However, the very existence of groups exclusively this white and this privileged in the dc metro area is an unconscionable problem. What the hell? The pure whiteness of those commitees tells a big story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just checked out the pictures on the website. The kids are gorgeous and clearly big-hearted to devote their time and energy to raise money for kids their age without such enormous privilege. However, the very existence of groups exclusively this white and this privileged in the dc metro area is an unconscionable problem. What the hell? The pure whiteness of those commitees tells a big story.

Where are the pictures?

[Anonymous]

On this website:

Past committees tab

http://www.dbcrfunevent.com/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On this website:

Past committees tab

http://www.dbcrfunevent.com/

So these are children of donors/committee members. Hardly a true representation of all attendees. Yes, you will have mostly white people because there are more whites than blacks in these schools. I will bet there were black children in attendance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s weird, it’s nice. It’s also good for the kids who are privileged to start doing these things. It’s a good way to raise a lot of money for a good cause, a lot more then a car wash would raise. Like it or not, this is how a very large portion of philanthropy is conducted. These kids will likely be participating in this way much of their lives. Doesn’t mean they won’t do other more direct efforts but this is part of their upbringing and there is nothing wrong with it. The kids who drank probably are the type drinking on weekend nights regardless - I agree it’s crazy, but that’s not on the event- there are far too many 14 year old kids drinking, smoking weed etc. and your naive if you don’t know this. We are very strict and on it with ours but w don’t kid ourselves either. And if they’d been drinking I absolutely would have known - what parent dropped them off knowing this is crazy. I hope those girls are ok and I hope all parents will tune in and realize many are already doing this stuff.

But there IS something wrong with it, that’s the thing. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that the way you are doing things is ‘not right’ and ‘not good’.
But I know that you will just pat yourself on the back for ‘supporting a good cause’ and then fly off for your next exotic vacation to ‘deconpress’ From your stressful life and not give it a second thought.

And yes - my kid goes to one of those schools and I see this stuff all the time and it’s vacuous and embarrassing behavior.

Ok why is there something wrong with it? And why is it wrong to take nice vacations? I don’t get it. As long as your kind, ethical, honest and yes “give back” why is any of this wrong??

You need to spend some time learning about and experiencing those you are supporting. You can’t do that by just throwing money at a cause by partying one night. It’s wrong because if you spent some time immersing yourself in the ‘cause’ you are supporting you might actually change some of your day to day life because of it after thinking about the issue or someone else’s life .

My child goes to a school that values service, but as it turns out they only value or remember service during those set ‘volunteer hours’ or during those set ‘projects’ or ‘events’. When it came time to react to a real life situation it was a diasaster for our family because the administration at said school clearly hadn’t internalized those values. You have to think and experience other people’s lives more deeply, not just throw money at causes or compartmentalize your ‘volunteering’ into a three hour session and then turn back to your privileged life. You have to think more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok for those disparaging the idea of a party that raises a lot of money for a good cause. Tell me, do you go to your school auction? Charity galas? Etc? Isn’t this all the same? And what’s wrong with it?

It is the same and those events are uncomfortable for our family and we stopped going. Thanks to those that throw a few hundred bucks into the scholarship fund though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok for those disparaging the idea of a party that raises a lot of money for a good cause. Tell me, do you go to your school auction? Charity galas? Etc? Isn’t this all the same? And what’s wrong with it?

It is the same and those events are uncomfortable for our family and we stopped going. Thanks to those that throw a few hundred bucks into the scholarship fund though.

Ok. If you feel uncomfortable, that is your choice not to attend, but do you really know how much money gets raised by events like these? I have sat on the committees for school auctions, and charity galas. School auctions can bring in 200K plus that goes towards scholarships. I think that's pretty cool. Galas can bring in has much as 2million for a cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s weird, it’s nice. It’s also good for the kids who are privileged to start doing these things. It’s a good way to raise a lot of money for a good cause, a lot more then a car wash would raise. Like it or not, this is how a very large portion of philanthropy is conducted. These kids will likely be participating in this way much of their lives. Doesn’t mean they won’t do other more direct efforts but this is part of their upbringing and there is nothing wrong with it. The kids who drank probably are the type drinking on weekend nights regardless - I agree it’s crazy, but that’s not on the event- there are far too many 14 year old kids drinking, smoking weed etc. and your naive if you don’t know this. We are very strict and on it with ours but w don’t kid ourselves either. And if they’d been drinking I absolutely would have known - what parent dropped them off knowing this is crazy. I hope those girls are ok and I hope all parents will tune in and realize many are already doing this stuff.

But there IS something wrong with it, that’s the thing. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that the way you are doing things is ‘not right’ and ‘not good’.
But I know that you will just pat yourself on the back for ‘supporting a good cause’ and then fly off for your next exotic vacation to ‘deconpress’ From your stressful life and not give it a second thought.

And yes - my kid goes to one of those schools and I see this stuff all the time and it’s vacuous and embarrassing behavior.

Ok why is there something wrong with it? And why is it wrong to take nice vacations? I don’t get it. As long as your kind, ethical, honest and yes “give back” why is any of this wrong??

You need to spend some time learning about and experiencing those you are supporting. You can’t do that by just throwing money at a cause by partying one night. It’s wrong because if you spent some time immersing yourself in the ‘cause’ you are supporting you might actually change some of your day to day life because of it after thinking about the issue or someone else’s life .


OK that might be ideal, but I would let the perfect stand in the way of the good. I appreciate your idealism, but you shouldn't judge and close off other mechanisms to raise money for worthy causes. I am sure you are a nice person, but frankly you sound rather sanctimonous.

My child goes to a school that values service, but as it turns out they only value or remember service during those set ‘volunteer hours’ or during those set ‘projects’ or ‘events’. When it came time to react to a real life situation it was a diasaster for our family because the administration at said school clearly hadn’t internalized those values. You have to think and experience other people’s lives more deeply, not just throw money at causes or compartmentalize your ‘volunteering’ into a three hour session and then turn back to your privileged life. You have to think more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s weird, it’s nice. It’s also good for the kids who are privileged to start doing these things. It’s a good way to raise a lot of money for a good cause, a lot more then a car wash would raise. Like it or not, this is how a very large portion of philanthropy is conducted. These kids will likely be participating in this way much of their lives. Doesn’t mean they won’t do other more direct efforts but this is part of their upbringing and there is nothing wrong with it. The kids who drank probably are the type drinking on weekend nights regardless - I agree it’s crazy, but that’s not on the event- there are far too many 14 year old kids drinking, smoking weed etc. and your naive if you don’t know this. We are very strict and on it with ours but w don’t kid ourselves either. And if they’d been drinking I absolutely would have known - what parent dropped them off knowing this is crazy. I hope those girls are ok and I hope all parents will tune in and realize many are already doing this stuff.

But there IS something wrong with it, that’s the thing. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that the way you are doing things is ‘not right’ and ‘not good’.
But I know that you will just pat yourself on the back for ‘supporting a good cause’ and then fly off for your next exotic vacation to ‘deconpress’ From your stressful life and not give it a second thought.

And yes - my kid goes to one of those schools and I see this stuff all the time and it’s vacuous and embarrassing behavior.

Ok why is there something wrong with it? And why is it wrong to take nice vacations? I don’t get it. As long as your kind, ethical, honest and yes “give back” why is any of this wrong??

You need to spend some time learning about and experiencing those you are supporting. You can’t do that by just throwing money at a cause by partying one night. It’s wrong because if you spent some time immersing yourself in the ‘cause’ you are supporting you might actually change some of your day to day life because of it after thinking about the issue or someone else’s life .

My child goes to a school that values service, but as it turns out they only value or remember service during those set ‘volunteer hours’ or during those set ‘projects’ or ‘events’. When it came time to react to a real life situation it was a diasaster for our family because the administration at said school clearly hadn’t internalized those values. You have to think and experience other people’s lives more deeply, not just throw money at causes or compartmentalize your ‘volunteering’ into a three hour session and then turn back to your privileged life. You have to think more.



OK that might be ideal, but I would not let the perfect stand in the way of the good. I appreciate your idealism, but you shouldn't judge and close off other mechanisms to raise money for worthy causes. I am sure you are a nice person, but frankly you sound rather sanctimonous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s weird, it’s nice. It’s also good for the kids who are privileged to start doing these things. It’s a good way to raise a lot of money for a good cause, a lot more then a car wash would raise. Like it or not, this is how a very large portion of philanthropy is conducted. These kids will likely be participating in this way much of their lives. Doesn’t mean they won’t do other more direct efforts but this is part of their upbringing and there is nothing wrong with it. The kids who drank probably are the type drinking on weekend nights regardless - I agree it’s crazy, but that’s not on the event- there are far too many 14 year old kids drinking, smoking weed etc. and your naive if you don’t know this. We are very strict and on it with ours but w don’t kid ourselves either. And if they’d been drinking I absolutely would have known - what parent dropped them off knowing this is crazy. I hope those girls are ok and I hope all parents will tune in and realize many are already doing this stuff.

But there IS something wrong with it, that’s the thing. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that the way you are doing things is ‘not right’ and ‘not good’.
But I know that you will just pat yourself on the back for ‘supporting a good cause’ and then fly off for your next exotic vacation to ‘deconpress’ From your stressful life and not give it a second thought.

And yes - my kid goes to one of those schools and I see this stuff all the time and it’s vacuous and embarrassing behavior.

Ok why is there something wrong with it? And why is it wrong to take nice vacations? I don’t get it. As long as your kind, ethical, honest and yes “give back” why is any of this wrong??

You need to spend some time learning about and experiencing those you are supporting. You can’t do that by just throwing money at a cause by partying one night. It’s wrong because if you spent some time immersing yourself in the ‘cause’ you are supporting you might actually change some of your day to day life because of it after thinking about the issue or someone else’s life .

My child goes to a school that values service, but as it turns out they only value or remember service during those set ‘volunteer hours’ or during those set ‘projects’ or ‘events’. When it came time to react to a real life situation it was a diasaster for our family because the administration at said school clearly hadn’t internalized those values. You have to think and experience other people’s lives more deeply, not just throw money at causes or compartmentalize your ‘volunteering’ into a three hour session and then turn back to your privileged life. You have to think more.




In response to your "you have to think more" . Actually, no, no one has to do any of this. But thank goodness they do. I say this a person who went to school on full scholarship. I am forever grateful to those that gave to the fund at my school, and the full pay families that likely subsidized my education. As a full pay family now, we have a fund set up for scholarship at our child's school. Are you suggesting that is wrong? If all giving that isn't "in the trenches" volunteering is wrong, you would see a lot of generous giving in this country go away.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of "service" trips.