Women-do you like short men?

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Anonymous wrote:Height has nothing to do with a woman's independence or a man's intellect. Women are hard wired to find masculinity attractive. It is sexy when a man can pick you up and toss you on a bed. Even if you do not need protecting, it is sexy to be with a strong man. I have never met a woman who said she preferred short men. Sure she might meet a short guy and accept him just like a man who prefers thin women might settle for chubby due to personality.

You might find it sexy to be with a physically strong man. I find it sexy to be with a clever man and successful - they tend to have all the things im looking for.

Im not saying that a preference for tall men is at all wrong. It seems to be the default for a lot of average women just like a lot of average men prefer blondes. Fact of life.

I consider myself lucky that im not average and not looking for an average man.

For the moms of short sons - height is not a deal breaker for some women. Please give your sons the confidence that they will find someone nice. Yes the pool is smaller but it probably also filled with nicer (and above average) women.

Lady, you sound totally unhinged.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Height has nothing to do with a woman's independence or a man's intellect. Women are hard wired to find masculinity attractive. It is sexy when a man can pick you up and toss you on a bed. Even if you do not need protecting, it is sexy to be with a strong man. I have never met a woman who said she preferred short men. Sure she might meet a short guy and accept him just like a man who prefers thin women might settle for chubby due to personality.

You might find it sexy to be with a physically strong man. I find it sexy to be with a clever man and successful - they tend to have all the things im looking for.

Im not saying that a preference for tall men is at all wrong. It seems to be the default for a lot of average women just like a lot of average men prefer blondes. Fact of life.

I consider myself lucky that im not average and not looking for an average man.

For the moms of short sons - height is not a deal breaker for some women. Please give your sons the confidence that they will find someone nice. Yes the pool is smaller but it probably also filled with nicer (and above average) women.

Lady, you sound totally unhinged.

Err = reading comprehension is obviously not your forte. Might be something to do with your height

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like them. I selfishly wouldn't date one because I am 5'10 and I would feel unsexy being bigger.

This is the way I feel, although I recognize that equating unsexy with being bigger is a cultural expectation I absorped which is unhealthy. I dated a terrifically smart wonderful guy who I thought was very cute, but I couldn't get comfortable with him in bed because he was my height but probably 20 pounds less than me. He never complained or gave me any indication that he thought I was unsexy, but I felt uncomfortable.

The guy I dated after him was 6'4". When he hugged me, I often felt like he was breaking my neck because of his height. Physically, I felt more comfortable in bed, but he was emotionally abusive, so really, I learned that height is meaningless against other qualities.

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Anonymous wrote:Some one above called those of us who prefer tall men shallow. I disagree. I call it biology. We are wired that way. I only dated tall guys because on a primitive animal level I wanted healthy attractive children. My son is in second grade. People always mistake him for being much older due to his height. He is taller than some fourth graders. The added bonus is that he we be less likley to be bullied which is good because he is quiet.

There was a study done with kindergarten teachers. They perceive tall boys as being smarter. Tall men also make more money.

You might not like it but society in general prefers taller men. It is no different than men preferring thin women.

Short men come off feminine to me and they are usually nasty shrews.

I like tall men because I think they would be better protectors also. Height is a huge advantage in a fight, and unfortunately as women, our safety and protection is something we have been raised our whole life (necessarily) to be aware and hyper vigilant about

I was not raised to be aware of safety or hypervigilant at all. Nor in my 40 years of life have I ever felt that I was unsafe or that I was in need of protection. I have traveled the world lived alone, walked to and from work at late hours (worked shift work), and never had a problem at all. I wasn't raised to see fear around every corner (my parents didn't conceptualize female as weak or victim at all) and so I haven't lived my life through that lens. Bad things can happen to anyone, either due to randomness (nothing you could do about it anyways ) or poor decisions (you could have made better choices).

That would be great if we lived in a fantasy world. I have travelled the world alone too, walked to and from work, the grocery store, etc, and I am still aware that because of my sex- female- I am a target. I'm also aware that because of my diminished size and muscular/due structure, due to being female, it's harder for me to fight back on a physical level. This is called being a rational human being.

I guess I live in a fantasy world then! To me it is a choice to choose to go through life seeing yourself as a target or a victim in waiting. Of course then the world is scary because every fast footstep, every shadow, ever side glance is danger, danger. It just isn't how I live my life. How often in your life have you had to physically fight back? If it is often, you likely live a very different life than I do. Trying to protect myself in physical fights isn't something that is even part of my life or that I ever think about.

Good. Maybe you grew up very protected. I grew up in DC, my parents both grew up in major cities, and my mom always urged me to be vigilant, aware of my surroundings, and aware of risk. If you want to go through life blissfully unaware of risk... knock yourself out! I'll continue to do what I feel is smart and certainly won't be shamed for it. I like being alive, and I'm aware of the risks posed at me by virtue of being an attractive woman. I think most other women are too.

I didn't grow up in an neighborhood where violence and protection was needed for survival. I am sure if I had lived somewhere where I had to physically fight to survive, I would feel differently. I haven't lived a protective life but I did grow up in a safe neighborhood. More men die from homicide and are physically assaulted than women, so I don't think being smaller / bigger is a protection of any kind. I am also not sure there is really any evidence that being attractive puts you at higher risk of being attacked. Again I haven't lived anywhere where fending off attackers is part of my daily life so I can't say how I would feel in that scenario.

Being attractive draws attention to you and being noticed by more people does put an attractive person at a higher risk than someone nondscript who doesn't stand out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Height has nothing to do with a woman's independence or a man's intellect. Women are hard wired to find masculinity attractive. It is sexy when a man can pick you up and toss you on a bed. Even if you do not need protecting, it is sexy to be with a strong man. I have never met a woman who said she preferred short men. Sure she might meet a short guy and accept him just like a man who prefers thin women might settle for chubby due to personality.

You might find it sexy to be with a physically strong man. I find it sexy to be with a clever man and successful - they tend to have all the things im looking for.

Im not saying that a preference for tall men is at all wrong. It seems to be the default for a lot of average women just like a lot of average men prefer blondes. Fact of life.

I consider myself lucky that im not average and not looking for an average man.

For the moms of short sons - height is not a deal breaker for some women. Please give your sons the confidence that they will find someone nice. Yes the pool is smaller but it probably also filled with nicer (and above average) women.

Lady, you sound totally unhinged.

Err = reading comprehension is obviously not your forte. Might be something to do with your height

You certainly not average. More like well below.

[Anonymous]

I generally prefer average height and up, but it's certainly not a deal breaker. A guy who was a little shorter than me was one of the great loves of my life.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally prefer average height and up, but it's certainly not a deal breaker. A guy who was a little shorter than me was one of the great loves of my life.

^ I should add that personality goes a LONG way in my book. Some of the people I have been most attracted to in my life were super funny/smart, not necessarily physically attractive according to general standards.

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While the comments in the short women thread are opinionated the comments here are just plain mean. So for all you lady jerks here, I guess dating Tom Cruise, Bruno Mars, or Usher is out of the question.

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How many women who anonymously post here that they would not date shorter men would complain about a man as shallow if he said he wouldn't date a women whose breasts were not of a sufficient size or had some other single physical attribute over which they had no control? When you are in bed height only matters in case of very extreme disparities. All else equal, Would you rather have a tall lover who didn't know what he was doing or a short one who was a magician in bed?

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Anonymous wrote:How many women who anonymously post here that they would not date shorter men would complain about a man as shallow if he said he wouldn't date a women whose breasts were not of a sufficient size or had some other single physical attribute over which they had no control? When you are in bed height only matters in case of very extreme disparities. All else equal, Would you rather have a tall lover who didn't know what he was doing or a short one who was a magician in bed?

NP.. honestly, men have pretty low standards as far as boobs are concerned. This is what my DH told me.

[Anonymous]

I have never been attracted to "short" guys although I am short. I don't know why. It's like not being attracted to light haired guys as much as dark haired guys, even though I ended up marrying a light haired guy.

[Anonymous]

Most desired are
White

Women blonde 5-3 to 5-7

Men dark hair 5-11 to 6 2.5


Barbi and Ken

[Anonymous]

I am 5'10" and husband 5'7". He is wonderful in all the ways important to me. Our kids are taller than husband.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'8" and my only serious boyfriend was also 5'8" so when I wore heels I was taller. I thought he was attractive, he was muscular but not over the top. We were actually a pretty cute couple but then he broke up with me lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most desired are
White

Women blonde 5-3 to 5-7

Men dark hair 5-11 to 6 2.5


Barbi and Ken

I would say the range is shorter for women and brunettes also. But other than that yes.