On the other hand ... Why do men put up with women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

Yep. And as much as they bluster on about "Y do u worry about da dishes? Just let em pile up in da sink!" Lord knows it would turn into a hoarder situation if that happened. So it's just a damn lie that conveniently relieves them of actually having to show appreciation for their wife.

Because if they actually acknowledged how crucial those myriad boring chores are to the running of a household, then they would have to admit that they would do far, far less.

But they dont want to do that- so it's just the "Ugh, why do you even care?" schtick. Very predictable and transparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

Yep. And as much as they bluster on about "Y do u worry about da dishes? Just let em pile up in da sink!" Lord knows it would turn into a hoarder situation if that happened. So it's just a damn lie that conveniently relieves them of actually having to show appreciation for their wife.

Because if they actually acknowledged how crucial those myriad boring chores are to the running of a household, then they would have to admit that they would do far, far less.

But they dont want to do that- so it's just the "Ugh, why do you even care?" schtick. Very predictable and transparent.

You do know there's an entire thread right next to this one devoted to man bashing, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

Yep. And as much as they bluster on about "Y do u worry about da dishes? Just let em pile up in da sink!" Lord knows it would turn into a hoarder situation if that happened. So it's just a damn lie that conveniently relieves them of actually having to show appreciation for their wife.

Because if they actually acknowledged how crucial those myriad boring chores are to the running of a household, then they would have to admit that they would do far, far less.

But they dont want to do that- so it's just the "Ugh, why do you even care?" schtick. Very predictable and transparent.

You do know there's an entire thread right next to this one devoted to man bashing, right?

Thanks, saw that one. Some definitely truth being spilled. Awesome.

[Anonymous]

oops ^definite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Ewwww I make my own money.

You all say that. You don't say that when selecting a mate nor going through a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Not really. You just think it's working, but she's probably banging some young strange on the side.

Fine with me. I'm not married to her. I just have sex with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Not really. You just think it's working, but she's probably banging some young strange on the side.

Fine with me. I'm not married to her. I just have sex with her.

As long as you dont care, then it's a win/win for both!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ewwww I make my own money.

You all say that. You don't say that when selecting a mate nor going through a divorce.

Hah. During divorce proceedings, everyone gets poor as a church mouse. Damn near unemployable too -- mostly because of how darn much they sacrificed for their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ewwww I make my own money.

You all say that. You don't say that when selecting a mate nor going through a divorce.

That is correct. I do not want to support a man financially. I also don't expect him to support me. Hence, I make my own money. Does that help you understand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

I refuse to believe this that most men only talk about themselves, their work, and their stuff. RE-FUSE.

Yep. And as much as they bluster on about "Y do u worry about da dishes? Just let em pile up in da sink!" Lord knows it would turn into a hoarder situation if that happened. So it's just a damn lie that conveniently relieves them of actually having to show appreciation for their wife.

Because if they actually acknowledged how crucial those myriad boring chores are to the running of a household, then they would have to admit that they would do far, far less.

But they dont want to do that- so it's just the "Ugh, why do you even care?" schtick. Very predictable and transparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

Yep. And as much as they bluster on about "Y do u worry about da dishes? Just let em pile up in da sink!" Lord knows it would turn into a hoarder situation if that happened. So it's just a damn lie that conveniently relieves them of actually having to show appreciation for their wife.

Because if they actually acknowledged how crucial those myriad boring chores are to the running of a household, then they would have to admit that they would do far, far less.

But they dont want to do that- so it's just the "Ugh, why do you even care?" schtick. Very predictable and transparent.

You do know there's an entire thread right next to this one devoted to man bashing, right?

seriously! Just because you have a bad husband or one you don't get along with, doesn't mean all husbands are like that. Mine is awesome. He works his ass for his family. he's sexy, funny, and does everything for us. i feel lucky to have him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

LOL right that's why all the shopping malls are always filled with men compulsively shopping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

LOL right that's why all the shopping malls are always filled with men compulsively shopping.

Is there something wrong with shopping? Or do you dumpster dive for everything you own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them, they just care if they have sex. I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it.

You are right, but it is bigger than that: Men don't care about anything but themselves or things that immediately and directly affect them.

Think about it, when a husband opens his mouth what does he say? Things about himself! Things about his work! Things about his stuff! Things he wants to buy, for himself! Never about his wife, his kids, his house.

Other than that, actions speak louder than words.

LOL right that's why all the shopping malls are always filled with men compulsively shopping.

Is there something wrong with shopping? Or do you dumpster dive for everything you own?

There's nothing wrong with shopping. It's the resulting credit card debt that's the problem.