Do you think there is a perfect height ratio between men and women?

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Anonymous wrote:I am naturally ugly (woman). This is not a sought-after trait in the dating market. Its not my fault, I have no control over it, I just have to make the best of all my other assets and accept the fact that life is unfair and I will never be sought-after by men who are highly sought-after themselves.

Short or shorter men need to realize that they will find some compatible people, but they need to set their sights lower to take into account the unappeal of their immutable shortness.

It seems like even ugly women who are fit can have guys lined up to date them. Lots of guys (even the sought after ones) seem to like women whether they're pretty or not as long as they are reasonably fit. I think it comes back to the previous posters comments on making the best of what you got in the genetic lottery.

Unattractive women who are fit can get guys, they just might be all around "5s" or "6s". Just like short guys can get women, maybe just not the women they wish they could get.

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Anonymous wrote:I am naturally ugly (woman). This is not a sought-after trait in the dating market. Its not my fault, I have no control over it, I just have to make the best of all my other assets and accept the fact that life is unfair and I will never be sought-after by men who are highly sought-after themselves.

Short or shorter men need to realize that they will find some compatible people, but they need to set their sights lower to take into account the unappeal of their immutable shortness.

It seems like even ugly women who are fit can have guys lined up to date them. Lots of guys (even the sought after ones) seem to like women whether they're pretty or not as long as they are reasonably fit. I think it comes back to the previous posters comments on making the best of what you got in the genetic lottery.

Unattractive women who are fit can get guys, they just might be all around "5s" or "6s". Just like short guys can get women, maybe just not the women they wish they could get.

That's not true. I can think of 3 of them that range in age from 39-46. We work together and use the same gym. I'm good friends with the 46 year old and she's got guys trying to date her ALL.THE.TIME. It may be that she's very social but she's got lots of prospects. She goes out with the other two and apparently they do pretty well also.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the 5'10" pp above. I feel like all those women who want very tall men are missing out. I also have no idea why someone would want to be shorter than her partner. Seems to be pretty common through.

This x 200

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman who admits to me that she cares about height is a deal-breaker for me. I'm 5'11" so it's not an issue for me on a personal level, but it usually signals both a lack of intelligence and boringly conventional thinking. The sort of thing a woman who'd wear pearls and J Crew would think.

Plenty of women don't prefer to date men shorter than them. I doubt they are all lacking in intelligence, they just have a preference that makes you uncomfortable. Own it without trying to make them wrong.

I'm a woman but actually agree with the OP's thinking in this case. Women like this seem shallow to me.

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Anonymous wrote:How tall are you, and how tall is your partner/spouse? Do you think it is an optimal height ratio?

I'm a female on the shorter side (5 foot 3) and find myself mostly attracted to taller men (6 feet +)

No, but there's an optimal ratio between the size of a woman's breasts and the height of a man she attracts. So, OP: How big are your breasts?

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman who admits to me that she cares about height is a deal-breaker for me. I'm 5'11" so it's not an issue for me on a personal level, but it usually signals both a lack of intelligence and boringly conventional thinking. The sort of thing a woman who'd wear pearls and J Crew would think.

As long as you don't care about her weight, fine.

I don't, as long as she's physically fit -- which is generally something within her control and indicative of her approach to life. Height has nothing to do with your approach to life and it's purely genetic.

Saying "I only date men of X height" would be like saying "I only date men of X race" or "I only date men with X hair color". It marks you as a vapid moron.

Not really.

+1

If you want tall offspring with all the social and health benefits that entails, a tall husband is a smart choice.

Right. Like a white husband. Can't get white privilege without a white father.

I haven't seen an argument in favor of height that doesn't track pretty much exactly with an argument in favor of being of the dominant race. Tall people, like white people, have unearned privileges. Short men, like non-whites, are the subject of discrimination. You are perfectly free to express that you only want to date tall men just as you are perfectly free to express that you don't want to date non-whites. But, people might think you are small minded in each situation.

Great point. I read an article that pointed out just that recently how shorter men are promoted less, paid less and sought after less but they say its not discrimination. But if you have a preference for light skinned or whites you're racist and it's not the same lol. What B.S.

Here is the article where a guy stands up for being called a racist by saying being heightist is the same thing: http://shortguycentral.com/P-58/ladies-if-you-can-have-height-requirements-we-can-have-color-requirements

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Haha. There is actually a website called "Short Guy Central". Hilarious....

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Anonymous wrote:Haha. There is actually a website called "Short Guy Central". Hilarious....

How is that any different than those black women websites like Maddame Noir and lipstick alley. Short guys have their own sets of challenges and discrimination is one of them. Sexual preferences come from internalized prejudice just like the black guys who choose non black women over their own. Nice to see a site like that exist.

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Great point. I read an article that pointed out just that recently how shorter men are promoted less, paid less and sought after less but they say its not discrimination. But if you have a preference for light skinned or whites you're racist and it's not the same lol. What B.S.

Here is the article where a guy stands up for being called a racist by saying being heightist is the same thing: http://shortguycentral.com/P-58/ladies-if-you-can-have-height-requirements-we-can-have-color-requirements

Great article. Men are allowed to have color preferences. You can't change your height nor can you change your color. Both have wide social implications.

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman who admits to me that she cares about height is a deal-breaker for me. I'm 5'11" so it's not an issue for me on a personal level, but it usually signals both a lack of intelligence and boringly conventional thinking. The sort of thing a woman who'd wear pearls and J Crew would think.

As long as you don't care about her weight, fine.

I don't, as long as she's physically fit -- which is generally something within her control and indicative of her approach to life. Height has nothing to do with your approach to life and it's purely genetic.

Saying "I only date men of X height" would be like saying "I only date men of X race" or "I only date men with X hair color". It marks you as a vapid moron.

Not really.

+1

If you want tall offspring with all the social and health benefits that entails, a tall husband is a smart choice.

Right. Like a white husband. Can't get white privilege without a white father.

I haven't seen an argument in favor of height that doesn't track pretty much exactly with an argument in favor of being of the dominant race. Tall people, like white people, have unearned privileges. Short men, like non-whites, are the subject of discrimination. You are perfectly free to express that you only want to date tall men just as you are perfectly free to express that you don't want to date non-whites. But, people might think you are small minded in each situation.

Great point. I read an article that pointed out just that recently how shorter men are promoted less, paid less and sought after less but they say its not discrimination. But if you have a preference for light skinned or whites you're racist and it's not the same lol. What B.S.

Here is the article where a guy stands up for being called a racist by saying being heightist is the same thing: http://shortguycentral.com/P-58/ladies-if-you-can-have-height-requirements-we-can-have-color-requirements

I'm a black woman who has no issue with men having race or skin tone preferences, just like I have no problem with women having height preferences. We're not talking job or housing discrimination here! I wouldn't want someone to fight against what really turns them on in the name of being 'open-minded". Relationships have too many other complications to add never really being attracted to your partner in the first place to the mix.

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman who admits to me that she cares about height is a deal-breaker for me. I'm 5'11" so it's not an issue for me on a personal level, but it usually signals both a lack of intelligence and boringly conventional thinking. The sort of thing a woman who'd wear pearls and J Crew would think.

As long as you don't care about her weight, fine.

I don't, as long as she's physically fit -- which is generally something within her control and indicative of her approach to life. Height has nothing to do with your approach to life and it's purely genetic.

Saying "I only date men of X height" would be like saying "I only date men of X race" or "I only date men with X hair color". It marks you as a vapid moron.

Not really.

+1

If you want tall offspring with all the social and health benefits that entails, a tall husband is a smart choice.

Right. Like a white husband. Can't get white privilege without a white father.

I haven't seen an argument in favor of height that doesn't track pretty much exactly with an argument in favor of being of the dominant race. Tall people, like white people, have unearned privileges. Short men, like non-whites, are the subject of discrimination. You are perfectly free to express that you only want to date tall men just as you are perfectly free to express that you don't want to date non-whites. But, people might think you are small minded in each situation.

Great point. I read an article that pointed out just that recently how shorter men are promoted less, paid less and sought after less but they say its not discrimination. But if you have a preference for light skinned or whites you're racist and it's not the same lol. What B.S.

Here is the article where a guy stands up for being called a racist by saying being heightist is the same thing: http://shortguycentral.com/P-58/ladies-if-you-can-have-height-requirements-we-can-have-color-requirements

I'm a black woman who has no issue with men having race or skin tone preferences, just like I have no problem with women having height preferences. We're not talking job or housing discrimination here! I wouldn't want someone to fight against what really turns them on in the name of being 'open-minded". Relationships have too many other complications to add never really being attracted to your partner in the first place to the mix.

+ a zillion!

[Anonymous]

I'm 5 feet tall event and my husband is 6 feet tall. The other serious boyfriend I had as an adult was also 6 feet. People used to always try to pawn their short friends off on me, but I wanted none of it. Since I'm short, I can date anyone I want! It's your short friend's problem that he's stuck with short chicks.

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Anonymous wrote:How tall are you, and how tall is your partner/spouse? Do you think it is an optimal height ratio?

I'm a female on the shorter side (5 foot 3) and find myself mostly attracted to taller men (6 feet +)

No, but there's an optimal ratio between the size of a woman's breasts and the height of a man she attracts. So, OP: How big are your breasts?

I'm not OP, but at 5'5 with 36DD boobs, I've never had trouble attracting tall men.

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It's a lovely thing to reach a point in your life when you read some of these responses and think: "Jeezmajoe, why do people give a F about something so stupid?!?" It sounds like something ripped of a "lifestyle" magazine cover.

I'm a woman who's dated tall, short, and in-between. A good man is a good man, and that's all that matters. One thing you don't want to care about: "looking" any particular way, this or that. You could be learning Mandarin or taking an old lady's dog for a walk with all that wasted time and energy.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a lovely thing to reach a point in your life when you read some of these responses and think: "Jeezmajoe, why do people give a F about something so stupid?!?" It sounds like something ripped of a "lifestyle" magazine cover.

I'm a woman who's dated tall, short, and in-between. A good man is a good man, and that's all that matters. One thing you don't want to care about: "looking" any particular way, this or that. You could be learning Mandarin or taking an old lady's dog for a walk with all that wasted time and energy.

Because a lot of the sexless marriages on DCUM are the result of people who have lost the attraction for each other.