No, I dont want to date women in their 40's

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did I really just read that at age 40 a woman can look good but can't really be desirable?? Wtf??

PP again - I'm glad my DH doesn't agree!

[Anonymous]

ayn rand: when i was younger but not really so much anymore. such absolutism in her views. definitely influenced my economic thinking though in college.

my country of origin: USA baby. east coast.

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Anonymous wrote:ayn rand: when i was younger but not really so much anymore. such absolutism in her views. definitely influenced my economic thinking though in college.

my country of origin: USA baby. east coast.

Yeah, I have you pegged. You're a classic case of arrested development.

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Anonymous wrote:ayn rand: when i was younger but not really so much anymore. such absolutism in her views. definitely influenced my economic thinking though in college.

my country of origin: USA baby. east coast.

Yeah, I have you pegged. You're a classic case of arrested development.

haha whatever, if i would have said i was from russia you would have said the same thing

and i have arrested development because i read ayn rand and moved on from her views?

[Anonymous]

Once again, the use of the word value. And in regards to your daughter!
Your child's value is in her spirit, her mind, her creative drive. Being pretty is great, but it will only get you do far. Attaching a value statement to any of the following things make anyone suspect, in my mind- money, where you went to university, looks, possessions, or how many sexual partners you've had. All that matters are compassion, kindness, creative works, altruism, and real love. Yes, attraction is very important, but if your main attraction to your partner is looks, age, and wealth, when you hit a rough patch in life, or as you both age and health issues come up, or any number of things..... will there be a true bond holding you together?
Your daughter needs to know these things, too. Your lady sounds lovely but you degrade her by giving her a "tier". Her money and looks are just external benefits, be happy for them, but she's no better or worse than anyone else... she's just the perfect gal for you. No need to be a douche about it.

[Anonymous]

Horrible car accident scene but can't look away....

[Anonymous]

How come you got divorced? Did your wife get too wrinkly after she had the kids? Do you want more kids with your girlfriend, or will that age her too much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:your argument also breaks down because you said that a first tier woman wouldnt date me because she is husband minded.

but then you just said these people you mentioned weren't husband minded but somehow got snatched up and married.

which is it?


and did you see who jolie married at 25? cripes! a 45 year old!

she was also married right before that - so maybe, just maybe she was interested in being married

your argument is falling apart all over the place

Jolie in her early twenties married Johnny Lee Miller who is about 40 now (i am too lazy to check). btw, I find him the most desirable of all her husbands.

The first tier woman is not going to fall in love with you.. A, because you are too old, B, because you are divorced and have kids and C, she has so many options, she will fall with someone where she doesn't need to compromise (in respect to his age, kids etc). Sooner or later she will encounter a full package eager to reciprocate her affections and fall for it.

i know you keep saying this but I know in my experience this isn't the case.

my current girlfriend is twelve years younger, absolutely gorgeous (as in everyone always always say something about it, not just in my mind), graduated from a top 20 university, has a great job, comes from real wealth, cooks, is sweet, and loves to fuck. no psychological issues, comes from an intact family household, and is the most even keeled and stable woman i've likely ever known. and yet she loves me deeply and wants kids with me.

i'm not sure how much better your check list is to make her "First tier", aside from being famous.

Well, I don't know the woman, but if she is with you, she can't be all that.

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Anonymous wrote:Once again, the use of the word value. And in regards to your daughter!
Your child's value is in her spirit, her mind, her creative drive. Being pretty is great, but it will only get you do far. Attaching a value statement to any of the following things make anyone suspect, in my mind- money, where you went to university, looks, possessions, or how many sexual partners you've had. All that matters are compassion, kindness, creative works, altruism, and real love. Yes, attraction is very important, but if your main attraction to your partner is looks, age, and wealth, when you hit a rough patch in life, or as you both age and health issues come up, or any number of things..... will there be a true bond holding you together?
Your daughter needs to know these things, too. Your lady sounds lovely but you degrade her by giving her a "tier". Her money and looks are just external benefits, be happy for them, but she's no better or worse than anyone else... she's just the perfect gal for you. No need to be a douche about it.

only reason i assigned a tier to her was in response to the PP who said i wouldn't be able to find a first tier woman to love me.

i know when i say 'value' people think i just mean tangibles and resume. but really i mean the entire package.

you wouldn't want your bright, kind, creative daughter to get with a dullard who was mean to everyone irrespective of their mutual beauty or careers. and neither would i.

like valued people, in all aspects of their being, tend to find each other. i just want my daughter to make sure she can develop into the best total package she can so she can find the same.

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Anonymous wrote:How come you got divorced? Did your wife get too wrinkly after she had the kids? Do you want more kids with your girlfriend, or will that age her too much?

ex became a sexless void. i also had my own problems which i addressed later. and many other reasons which made us long term incompatible.



already have a lovely child with the new gf.

[Anonymous]

shut up

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How come you got divorced? Did your wife get too wrinkly after she had the kids? Do you want more kids with your girlfriend, or will that age her too much?

ex became a sexless void. i also had my own problems which i addressed later. and many other reasons which made us long term incompatible.



already have a lovely child with the new gf.

Well, earlier you said "and yet she loves me deeply and wants kids with me," so you're admittedly lying if you already have a child. Not a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Real love is being self conscious about your varicose veins because you've spent your work life working hard on your feet, and your partner looks at you, sitting there naked and sad, and says, I appreciate them, they are battle scars of a strong, beautiful warrior.
Money can't buy that kind of all encompassing love. That's why talking shit about older women is shitty and why we take offense. Btw, the man that said that to me is 7 years my junior, can snag any younger lady he wants, and picked me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How come you got divorced? Did your wife get too wrinkly after she had the kids? Do you want more kids with your girlfriend, or will that age her too much?

ex became a sexless void. i also had my own problems which i addressed later. and many other reasons which made us long term incompatible.



already have a lovely child with the new gf.

Well, earlier you said "and yet she loves me deeply and wants kids with me," so you're admittedly lying if you already have a child. Not a surprise.

How are wanting kids with me and having one already mutually exclusive?

[Anonymous]

And by that mean she still wants more!