Do women love their kids more than their husbands ?

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Anonymous wrote:I love my husband but I love my daughter more. It is fierce and primal. She is like a part of me.

+1, exactly how I feel. I'd do anything for my kid. If she disappoints me I will still love her and support her. If my husband disappoints for something like cheating, I couldn't ever forgive him. I love them both to the core, but my DD more.

Both of these posts are dead on for me. Sums it up perfectly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of guys are ATMs to their wives, but they stay for the kids, regardless of the sexless marriage.

Why do you assume that so many marriages are sexless?

there is no point of sex other than reproduction.

PP, you're doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read the whole thread, just the first couple of posts. But why does it gave to be a competition? I love my children and I love my husband. Sometimes the kids have to come first because they're young and needy. But over time, they become less so and your priority can slowly shift back to your relationship.

We have a weekly date night. We put tv on for the kids on Sat afternoon so we can have some sexy time. Whether we put them first or ourselves just depends on the circumstances.

I agree

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No i love them both equally

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Anonymous wrote:No i love them both equally

+1

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I love dd way more than I love my husband and I know he feels the same. She is the light of his life , and of mine. I think we both wish it were different and that we had a stronger marriage because I firmly believe that would be better for all of us. But I'm not sure we can get there. As it is we are in danger of over investing in her emotionally in a way that becomes burdensome for her. Honestly I am jealous of those who can honestly say you love your spouses more than your kids. You should know how fortunate you are.

[Anonymous]

A lot of these posts surprise me. I certainly consider myself a feminist, but don't understand the women who don't get that it is normal for a husband to want some attention when a child is 2 or 3 years old.

I was widowed young, and my kids are older, but I do remember how I felt the first time I left my son for a few hours (for a dinner out with my spouse). When I returned home, I could smell the babysitter's perfume on my baby. I had a visceral, negative reaction. I guess it is nature's way; primal.

But, things change. And, it's a cliche, but it really is so much better to work on the marriage if it's at all possible. I just find it sad that these particular men who truly love their wives and are committed are being attacked. And, I don't think they sound like babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of these posts surprise me. I certainly consider myself a feminist, but don't understand the women who don't get that it is normal for a husband to want some attention when a child is 2 or 3 years old.

I was widowed young, and my kids are older, but I do remember how I felt the first time I left my son for a few hours (for a dinner out with my spouse). When I returned home, I could smell the babysitter's perfume on my baby. I had a visceral, negative reaction. I guess it is nature's way; primal.

But, things change. And, it's a cliche, but it really is so much better to work on the marriage if it's at all possible. I just find it sad that these particular men who truly love their wives and are committed are being attacked. And, I don't think they sound like babies.

I am so sorry to know that. And yes i agree with you completely. What kind of marriage would you have if you are constantly ignoring your husband and calling him childish for wanting some attention.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of these posts surprise me. I certainly consider myself a feminist, but don't understand the women who don't get that it is normal for a husband to want some attention when a child is 2 or 3 years old.

I was widowed young, and my kids are older, but I do remember how I felt the first time I left my son for a few hours (for a dinner out with my spouse). When I returned home, I could smell the babysitter's perfume on my baby. I had a visceral, negative reaction. I guess it is nature's way; primal.

But, things change. And, it's a cliche, but it really is so much better to work on the marriage if it's at all possible. I just find it sad that these particular men who truly love their wives and are committed are being attacked. And, I don't think they sound like babies.

I am so sorry to know that. And yes i agree with you completely. What kind of marriage would you have if you are constantly ignoring your husband and calling him childish for wanting some attention.

Not IGNORING. The question was about loving more (or differently). It was posed as a relativity thing, not as a synaptic fire: on or off.

[Anonymous]

I love my children more.

I know I will come off as insane, but I strongly believe that true love between a man in a woman doesn't exist. You find a man that you want to have children with, that's it. Men can't stay in monogamous relationships.

[Anonymous]

Yes, except just before to orgasm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my children more.

I know I will come off as insane, but I strongly believe that true love between a man in a woman doesn't exist. You find a man that you want to have children with, that's it. Men can't stay in monogamous relationships.

Um, then why did my dad, my husband, my brothers-in-law (actually in one case, a BIL's wife cheated on him), my grandfathers, and pretty much every husband of a friend stay monogamous? I think you're hanging out with the wrong crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my children more.

I know I will come off as insane, but I strongly believe that true love between a man in a woman doesn't exist. You find a man that you want to have children with, that's it. Men can't stay in monogamous relationships.

You are in denial.

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I don't believe im generalizing

[Anonymous]

Yes