DH is taking unpaid vacation

[Anonymous]

OP,

This isn't making much sense. I have lots of friends who get calls/emails 24/7. Lots of people feel underpaid. What is he hoping to accomplish? This could make for long-term unemployment. This could mean for poor recommendations. They could fire him while he's on leave. How does he explain his leave if he interviews? This story is not going to add up to prospective employers.

Yes, drop cable.

[Anonymous]

I'm the poster that thought your DH's boss would still be bothering him during his vacation, but the clients thing makes sense - hopefully he'll get some relief without all the client calls.

The idea to drop cable for Netflix is great! Thanks!

The school thing I'm not sure. Hiring a mothers helper for those 3 hours a day would cost me the same and besides so needs the interaction and I'm not being able to give it to her.

We don't pay mortgage and right now moving is impossible. The fines for breaking the lease are just too much.

We don't have a car but we use rentals on DH's points so has is a small expense.

I really appreciate you taking the time to share your suggestions.

I agree with dropping cable.

Another thought about the school and mother's helpers. You really should look at the numbers again. If you're truly talking about a mother's helper (and not babysitter) it shouldn't cost you more than about $10 an hour - I can't imagine there's a school that is that cheap. If the school tuition is a big expense, you should consider getting together with other SAHMs in the area and doing a babysitting coop. You take their kid 2 mornings a week and they take your kid 2 mornings a week. Your child will get the needed socialization and it won't cost you anything (but time to take care of another toddler on your days).

there are also other more formalized babysitting coops where you earn "points" for babysitting - then you cash in those points to get babysitting. You could babysit some kids on weekend nights to earn a lot of points (and you usually get more points for more kids) and you could babysit older kids, which can be a little easier. Then cash in those points by having your kid go to someone's house (with similar aged kids) for babysitting. Again - totally free.

If your DH is on sabatical - I'm guessing he won't need to rent cars as much, so there's another savings.

Another suggestion (I'm assuming you can't work because of Visa issues and not physical issues) but are you good at crafts? You could make a few things and try and sell them on etsy or ebay - it may not bring in a ton of money, but it could be some exra cash for miscellaneous things you might want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

This isn't making much sense. I have lots of friends who get calls/emails 24/7. Lots of people feel underpaid. What is he hoping to accomplish? This could make for long-term unemployment. This could mean for poor recommendations. They could fire him while he's on leave. How does he explain his leave if he interviews? This story is not going to add up to prospective employers.

Yes, drop cable.

I'm not the OP, but I'm guessing that her DH is on some type of work Visa that prevents him for switching jobs so he's stuck and if he's taking an unpaid leave, I'm assuming he'll be getting that approved by his employer before he does it, so that his job isn't in jepordy. I'm also assuming that's why OP can't work (visa issues).

[Anonymous]

Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

[Anonymous]

Don't forget "Typical DCUM bitch" when someone wrote one thing she didn't like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

See 11:10.

[Anonymous]

If you wanted advice about saving money, why is the thread entitled "DH is taking unpaid vacation". That title just begs questions and makes people go "off topic" immediately (clearly). My advice is to title your threads more succinctly and not to give out any details about your personal life if you don't want to discuss it with anonymous strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

Mocking bc of a health condition? Who mentioned a health condition? You know if YOU stop, this thread will disappear, right?

Another q you won't answer - where are your kids right now? Alone at Chipotle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't forget "Typical DCUM bitch" when someone wrote one thing she didn't like.

No. It's actually whenever someone acts typically like a DCUM bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you wanted advice about saving money, why is the thread entitled "DH is taking unpaid vacation". That title just begs questions and makes people go "off topic" immediately (clearly). My advice is to title your threads more succinctly and not to give out any details about your personal life if you don't want to discuss it with anonymous strangers.

Oh, you're new here, aren't you?

People love digging up OPs for details and call them trolls, liars and nuts if they don't share them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

Mocking bc of a health condition? Who mentioned a health condition? You know if YOU stop, this thread will disappear, right?

Another q you won't answer - where are your kids right now? Alone at Chipotle?

See? This is exactly what I'm talking about. You come here all entitled, rude and mocking me and you want answers? Go back to your work, lady. Are you being paid to browse DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

Oh my god, PPs! I didn't realize this was PERSONAL and SERIOUS!

OP, please forgive us. OF COURSE you would take your PERSONAL and SERIOUS problem (of needing advice on cancelling cable and clipping coupons) to an anonymous forum!

Holy crap, I really, sincerely hope your PERSONAL and SERIOUS coupon clipping and cable cancelling goes well. Very best wishes on the very PERSONAL and SERIOUS nature of this problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you wanted advice about saving money, why is the thread entitled "DH is taking unpaid vacation". That title just begs questions and makes people go "off topic" immediately (clearly). My advice is to title your threads more succinctly and not to give out any details about your personal life if you don't want to discuss it with anonymous strangers.

Oh, you're new here, aren't you?

People love digging up OPs for details and call them trolls, liars and nuts if they don't share them.

LOL, no I'm not new here, and I am totally entertained by these threads.