DH is taking unpaid vacation

[Anonymous]

Taking a leave of absence is always risky, unless you have tenure. He should make finding a new job a priority...if he's so unhappy at work then why plan to go back? Just doesn't make sense. If he takes leave without pay I think he should ultimately expect to lose his job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Taking a leave of absence is always risky, unless you have tenure. He should make finding a new job a priority...if he's so unhappy at work then why plan to go back? Just doesn't make sense. If he takes leave without pay I think he should ultimately expect to lose his job.

You clearly haven't read the whole thread. The OP's husband apparently "can't" get fired, but also can't get another job.

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Anonymous wrote:Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

Oh my god, PPs! I didn't realize this was PERSONAL and SERIOUS!

OP, please forgive us. OF COURSE you would take your PERSONAL and SERIOUS problem (of needing advice on cancelling cable and clipping coupons) to an anonymous forum!

Holy crap, I really, sincerely hope your PERSONAL and SERIOUS coupon clipping and cable cancelling goes well. Very best wishes on the very PERSONAL and SERIOUS nature of this problem.

That's what she does! It starts out "my husband is taking an unpaid vacation, how can we save money" to "this is one of the hardest times in our lives, and it's very personal and serious." She's crazy. It's not rocket science how to save money. She just wants to open up a thread - any thread - to start spilling all of her personal and serious problems.

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Anonymous wrote:Taking a leave of absence is always risky, unless you have tenure. He should make finding a new job a priority...if he's so unhappy at work then why plan to go back? Just doesn't make sense. If he takes leave without pay I think he should ultimately expect to lose his job.

You clearly haven't read the whole thread. The OP's husband apparently "can't" get fired, but also can't get another job.

He also can't eat Chiptole in the car. Don't ask why, though. It's personal

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

Mocking bc of a health condition? Who mentioned a health condition? You know if YOU stop, this thread will disappear, right?

Another q you won't answer - where are your kids right now? Alone at Chipotle?

See? This is exactly what I'm talking about. You come here all entitled, rude and mocking me and you want answers? Go back to your work, lady. Are you being paid to browse DCUM?

NP here. I am nice. I would also like to know where your kids are. You do seem to post an awful lot, and are always right there with a response. Which is great. But, I am a SAHM to one very easy child. She is playing alone right now. And, I barely get time to read through the most popular threads every day, and feel guilty enough about that. In one of your threads last week you wrote that you can't even go to the bathroom alone because of your two young children. So, what gives?

[Anonymous]

Wow. Just WOW!

Mocking someone because of their physical disability is the lowest point someone can get IMO. And you go there and back just to hurt someone you don't even know.

I wonder if you women are this mean IRL. I thought the thread were I talked about my health was a fluke but seems like this is how every thread ends up. You're all snakes in a pit waiting for someone to attack.

I'm glad we won't be around for long.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, can't people ever be nice on this board???

You all don't know if this is actually CL unless Jeff comes out and says it and even if she were, is she not allowed to post ever?? Come on, can't we be sympathetic to her situation instead of piling crap onto her?

OP, I really don't have much advice. Yes, obviously your dh should get a job before quitting, but sounds like there are some obstacles in the way.

Is it possible to skip the pre-school? I work, but I know even SAH parents can't do it all and would want a break, or need to run errands, etc or you may just be putting your child in school for the learning, enrichment, socialization, etc. Can you swap child care? On Care.com there is a section to meet up with other families in the area to swap care so maybe that could be an option.

Good luck with everything and hope your dh's situation improves.

you know she wrote this, right? Why I'm[sic] not surprised? (insert eye roll)

Anyway, after this past week when people has been calling me out on my threads I can't imagine what kind of boring lives you ladies live that you can just spend the entire day pulling out people's threads like this. What else do you do in your lives? This is an honest question... How many hours per day do you spend here? Is this the most exciting part of your day?

She can't control her kids, though she is a SAHM, and seems to have oodles of time to come on here and respond in broken English to every comment she doesn't like, while ignoring pointed questions posters need answers to in order to give her the help she pretends to want.

Those actually trying to help - it's sweet of you, but misguided. She's a nutjob.

Excuse me. I'm doing my best here to not be rude to people being intentionally mean to me, not because they deserve anything but because I want to respect those who came with helpful advice. I've said several times that I don't want friends or neighbors wondering if it's us so that's why I'm not going to respond to posters asking about certain details.

I will say once again PLEASE STOP and I mean it in the nicest way possible. I was having fun and laughing along with the other threads but this stuff is personal and serious. I'm not sharing details about our life and I ask you to please respect my decision.

Again, to the ladies who came with helpful advice I thank you for taking the time to post. It's been one of the hardest times we've faced as a family so far and we're still weighing our options. DH is so unhappy it's affecting his health. The guy who was always so strong and happy is now depressed, getting sick very often and it breaks my heart to see the man I love feeling like this. I'm not doing well myself but still I want to do my best to support him in any way I can and I appreciate you coming here sharing tips to help me through this.

And to the posters with just too much time in your hands, please feel free to bump the other threads and go have fun there. I just hope my children are not growing up with children of people who think it's OK to mock someone because a health condition or lifestyle choices that they don't "agree" with.

Mocking bc of a health condition? Who mentioned a health condition? You know if YOU stop, this thread will disappear, right?

Another q you won't answer - where are your kids right now? Alone at Chipotle?

See? This is exactly what I'm talking about. You come here all entitled, rude and mocking me and you want answers? Go back to your work, lady. Are you being paid to browse DCUM?

NP here. I am nice. I would also like to know where your kids are. You do seem to post an awful lot, and are always right there with a response. Which is great. But, I am a SAHM to one very easy child. She is playing alone right now. And, I barely get time to read through the most popular threads every day, and feel guilty enough about that. In one of your threads last week you wrote that you can't even go to the bathroom alone because of your two young children. So, what gives?

I have a phone with internet access. I can type and breastfeed at the same time. My other child is eating her lunch. She's old enough to feed herself. Do you need any more details?

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OP, this isn't healthy for you. I suggest you abandon this thread. I think you sound crazy and hostile and DCUM can smell that 10 miles away. And yes, cancel the cable, put it in a college fund.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking a leave of absence is always risky, unless you have tenure. He should make finding a new job a priority...if he's so unhappy at work then why plan to go back? Just doesn't make sense. If he takes leave without pay I think he should ultimately expect to lose his job.

You clearly haven't read the whole thread. The OP's husband apparently "can't" get fired, but also can't get another job.

He also can't eat Chiptole in the car. Don't ask why, though. It's personal

and SERIOUS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Just WOW!

Mocking someone because of their physical disability is the lowest point someone can get IMO. And you go there and back just to hurt someone you don't even know.

I wonder if you women are this mean IRL. I thought the thread were I talked about my health was a fluke but seems like this is how every thread ends up. You're all snakes in a pit waiting for someone to attack.

I'm glad we won't be around for long.

Huh? No one is mocking her for a disability. Actually it seems most people dont realize the reason she cant work is due to psoriasis on her feet. People are mocking her because she seems completely unhinged and crazy. And as a pp pointed out, awhile back she admitted to creating posts when she was bored just to get reactions from people. People are just egging her on. But at no point in this thread has she been made fun of for her psoriasis.

[Anonymous]

Another inconsistency: In one thread you said your DD was starting preschool in October, but then you started another thread and said she was starting the next day, and you needed advice about how to navigate preschool for a young 2-year-old in the states. Are you trollin'?

[Anonymous]

12:10, did you come off as a nutjob in your post too? If yes, that's why people made fun of you.

[Anonymous]

Listen twatwaffle, it's easy. Here, let me educate you on saving money:

Tip 1) MAKE money. You not working? Your husband taking unpaid leave? Both of these things go against this rule.
Tip 2) Cut cable. Either cut it drastically, or go to internet and get netflix/hulu.
Tip 3) Eat out less. This includes Chipotle.
Tip 4) Don't send your DC to "school" a few mornings a week. I don't care how cheap it is; if neither you nor your husband is earning ANY money, then that school is an unnecessary expense.

There. The idiot's guide to saving money. If you'd like to go for the advanced class, you can look into tips such as:
-selling items around the house that you don't need. Garage sales, ebay, craigslist
-coupon clipping. Careful! This requires scissors. Not sure you have the brain power for this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Just WOW!

Mocking someone because of their physical disability is the lowest point someone can get IMO. And you go there and back just to hurt someone you don't even know.

I wonder if you women are this mean IRL. I thought the thread were I talked about my health was a fluke but seems like this is how every thread ends up. You're all snakes in a pit waiting for someone to attack.

I'm glad we won't be around for long.

Huh? No one is mocking her for a disability. Actually it seems most people dont realize the reason she cant work is due to psoriasis on her feet. People are mocking her because she seems completely unhinged and crazy. And as a pp pointed out, awhile back she admitted to creating posts when she was bored just to get reactions from people. People are just egging her on. But at no point in this thread has she been made fun of for her psoriasis.

Oh please, people were making fun of me in the thread itself and someone even asked here if I was missing an eye because I could not work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen twatwaffle, it's easy. Here, let me educate you on saving money:

Tip 1) MAKE money. You not working? Your husband taking unpaid leave? Both of these things go against this rule.
Tip 2) Cut cable. Either cut it drastically, or go to internet and get netflix/hulu.
Tip 3) Eat out less. This includes Chipotle.
Tip 4) Don't send your DC to "school" a few mornings a week. I don't care how cheap it is; if neither you nor your husband is earning ANY money, then that school is an unnecessary expense.

There. The idiot's guide to saving money. If you'd like to go for the advanced class, you can look into tips such as:
-selling items around the house that you don't need. Garage sales, ebay, craigslist
-coupon clipping. Careful! This requires scissors. Not sure you have the brain power for this one.

Do you have kids?
Poor them!

I bet you're divorced.