Are you Allowing your Senior go to Beach Week?

[Anonymous]

No. We can't afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We moved to this area from Ohio. No beach week was not heard of in Ohio. I would guess it had something to do with the fact that beaches are nowhere near Ohio. I guess kids could have all stayed at a motel by the quarry but it doesn't sound as cool. The beaches here are all about 2-3 hours away.

The parent proposing beach week with mom is having a hard time realizing that at a certain point you are no longer the center of your child's world. The parent who thinks college is a more controlled environment is having delusions.

The parent who is pleased that her daughter has no interest should talk to her kid. It is sad but beach week is a continuation of popularity circles. Lots of kids have a wonderful time but for the socially awkward kids or kids that feel like a third wheel it yet another one of those painful things where they feel left out. I remember knowing a few kids who said they were not interested in beach week and wanted to do other things. It seemed normal to me at the time. Years later, I was talking with these people and they mentioned how left out they felt in high school and avoided beach week as another one of those things for the "cool" kids. I'm not saying that you should anyway try to talk your daughter into going to beach week but you may want to try talking to her about whether she is feeling left out, bullied, or unpopular.

In other words, you are saying there is something wrong with a kid who does not want to get sh@tfaced, have massive casual sex or hang out with young people who are partaking in these behaviors. I soooooooo hope my kid is not going to school with your kid.

+1 Some kids are just not into that crap. Not all kids follow the popular train and have no idea who they really are. My 14yr old hates the drama and stays far away from the backstabbing crew. She is very smart and athletic and just replies no to 2 of the groups that she likes to avoid. She isn't mean to them, they don't hate her and there is no feeling left out or bullied. She just likes to hang with certain kids only and that is that. Not every kids is super popular or a total geek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. We can't afford it.

Not questioning you but just to let you know that my DCs beach week was pretty inexpensive. They had 10 in the house and I think our share was less than $300. They got their full deposit back. They went to costco for food and our share of that was $90. That was it for our expenses. I think they were there 6 nights. Maybe split it with your kid or have him work it off somehow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahahaha all you parents think just because you don't let them go to beach week they won't have sex, do drugs, and drink. BULLSHIT. I've done more than some of you parents and I'm only 16 and my dad and family still have no idea other than dating a girl (btw im a girl) and getting a tattoo. There not the" i dont give a shit" families either, their the "stuck up i go to church every sunday and never curse" family. I lived with my mom and dad every other year. I did bad stuff with dad but sneaked around but told my mom everything and she just guided me through and made sure i was safe because she knows im gonna do it she just want to make sure im doing stuff to limits and safely. Its 2014. Times are different. When i stayed with my dad i almost got hurt and nothing ever happened with my mom. I know a lot of the stuff ive done is horrible but its make me who i am today and im learned alot and don't have any interest in doing drugs or having sex anymore for a long time. 6 months clean sobar and not sexuality active but i am going to beach week this year and will drink but im going with my mom and a good girl. who will make sure im safe and will too badly regret. No need for any comments on my statement. Just remember you might think you know your kids but they don't tell you everything and if you ground them for life for doing something most teens do then you'll never know everything they have done.

Never mind about sex, drugs, and rock and roll. I am more worried that you are a 16-year-old dredging up an ancient thread on DCUM at 5:21 am on a Monday morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. We can't afford it.

Not questioning you but just to let you know that my DCs beach week was pretty inexpensive. They had 10 in the house and I think our share was less than $300. They got their full deposit back. They went to costco for food and our share of that was $90. That was it for our expenses. I think they were there 6 nights. Maybe split it with your kid or have him work it off somehow?

Who is they? Parents don't really spend the money for their kids to do this, do they? If my senior wants to do this, they will spend their own money to go. Oh wait most seniors are still coddled by Mommy and Daddy and don't have jobs yet, correct? The poor kids are so busy to work.

[Anonymous]

My kids are only 10, but I don't think I'd let them go. I don't think they'd want to go. I'd offer a different outing. Maybe hiking with a friend? Sierra club trip? Either with or without me. I think they'd enjoy it more. (our kids are introverts)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. We can't afford it.

Not questioning you but just to let you know that my DCs beach week was pretty inexpensive. They had 10 in the house and I think our share was less than $300. They got their full deposit back. They went to costco for food and our share of that was $90. That was it for our expenses. I think they were there 6 nights. Maybe split it with your kid or have him work it off somehow?

Who is they? Parents don't really spend the money for their kids to do this, do they? If my senior wants to do this, they will spend their own money to go. Oh wait most seniors are still coddled by Mommy and Daddy and don't have jobs yet, correct? The poor kids are so busy to work.

I appreciate the suggestion to split costs. That was our original plan. Our teen has worked part time for most of this year, but has not had steady employment doing that do to the business he has worked for cutting back. He would like to work now, is looking, and will find something, but at the moment he simply cannot find anything (we live in Northeast DC). Normally I am happy to subsidize such trips if I can. I am willing in this case because I see how hard he tries, and I think it's a nice gesture for all the hard work he has put in school, getting good grades while working. Unfortunately, I am not able. My workplace has cut back and I am also looking for work. I'm a single parent and money is tight.

[Anonymous]

Ha! My parents would NEVER bankroll or sanction this. Once I'm "on my own" as a college student, fine, do what you want.

Their rationale makes total sense to me:

1) They would hate staying in a hotel with a bunch of unsupervised teenagers to the left and right of them, so, no, they're not going to encourage adding to this misery.

2) Sure, you're a "good kid," but why would I knowingly put you in the middle of a bunch of other stupid kids who are setting the tone, ethos, and culture for the whole experience?

3) A bunch of drunk or drug using people = bad news; add youth to the mix and you could get yourself in serious trouble.

4) Go during the off season. It's less expensive, go with your good group of responsible, reasonable friends, have fun, make us proud, don't orient yourself toward a sh!tty north star of adolescent inebriation. And, if you do this, I'll pay your way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! My parents would NEVER bankroll or sanction this. Once I'm "on my own" as a college student, fine, do what you want.

Their rationale makes total sense to me:

1) They would hate staying in a hotel with a bunch of unsupervised teenagers to the left and right of them, so, no, they're not going to encourage adding to this misery.

2) Sure, you're a "good kid," but why would I knowingly put you in the middle of a bunch of other stupid kids who are setting the tone, ethos, and culture for the whole experience?

3) A bunch of drunk or drug using people = bad news; add youth to the mix and you could get yourself in serious trouble.

4) Go during the off season. It's less expensive, go with your good group of responsible, reasonable friends, have fun, make us proud, don't orient yourself toward a sh!tty north star of adolescent inebriation. And, if you do this, I'll pay your way.

I completely agree!! What parent spends money for their kid to go get wasted, have drunk sex, throw-up, flash people, possibly get arrested, etc... Crazy!!

You want to go - you pay for it, 100%. Lets see how bad they really want to go.

[Anonymous]

You all go, have a good time. I'm happy for those who can afford it.

[Anonymous]

I went in 1996 after graduating high school, along with my then-boyfriend and a bunch of other kids. Everyone who went paid their own way; no way would our parents have funded that! With ten people in a house, it wasn't too expensive. Yeah, there was some drinking, a little pot smoking and sex, which also happened during high school at home. I've since married that same guy--14 years as of last summer-- and we have three kids (none were conceived during Beach Week!), life is good, we're still friends with everyone who went on that trip, and I'm not at all sorry I went. If my kids are 18 and can pay for it themselves, they're free to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ha! My parents would NEVER bankroll or sanction this. Once I'm "on my own" as a college student, fine, do what you want.

Their rationale makes total sense to me:

1) They would hate staying in a hotel with a bunch of unsupervised teenagers to the left and right of them, so, no, they're not going to encourage adding to this misery.

2) Sure, you're a "good kid," but why would I knowingly put you in the middle of a bunch of other stupid kids who are setting the tone, ethos, and culture for the whole experience?

3) A bunch of drunk or drug using people = bad news; add youth to the mix and you could get yourself in serious trouble.

4) Go during the off season. It's less expensive, go with your good group of responsible, reasonable friends, have fun, make us proud, don't orient yourself toward a sh!tty north star of adolescent inebriation. And, if you do this, I'll pay your way.

I completely agree!! What parent spends money for their kid to go get wasted, have drunk sex, throw-up, flash people, possibly get arrested, etc... Crazy!!

You want to go - you pay for it, 100%. Lets see how bad they really want to go.

Are you not going to pay for college? What do you think they do at college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ha! My parents would NEVER bankroll or sanction this. Once I'm "on my own" as a college student, fine, do what you want.

Their rationale makes total sense to me:

1) They would hate staying in a hotel with a bunch of unsupervised teenagers to the left and right of them, so, no, they're not going to encourage adding to this misery.

2) Sure, you're a "good kid," but why would I knowingly put you in the middle of a bunch of other stupid kids who are setting the tone, ethos, and culture for the whole experience?

3) A bunch of drunk or drug using people = bad news; add youth to the mix and you could get yourself in serious trouble.

4) Go during the off season. It's less expensive, go with your good group of responsible, reasonable friends, have fun, make us proud, don't orient yourself toward a sh!tty north star of adolescent inebriation. And, if you do this, I'll pay your way.

I completely agree!! What parent spends money for their kid to go get wasted, have drunk sex, throw-up, flash people, possibly get arrested, etc... Crazy!!

You want to go - you pay for it, 100%. Lets see how bad they really want to go.

Are you not going to pay for college? What do you think they do at college?

Yes because paying for a beach week of sex and underage drinking is the same as paying for college. Go away 16yr old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went in 1996 after graduating high school, along with my then-boyfriend and a bunch of other kids. Everyone who went paid their own way; no way would our parents have funded that! With ten people in a house, it wasn't too expensive. Yeah, there was some drinking, a little pot smoking and sex, which also happened during high school at home. I've since married that same guy--14 years as of last summer-- and we have three kids (none were conceived during Beach Week!), life is good, we're still friends with everyone who went on that trip, and I'm not at all sorry I went. If my kids are 18 and can pay for it themselves, they're free to go.

My DC will be 17 during beach week. No way would I let them go.