Have you decided to age naturally, gracefully- no botox, etc.?

[Anonymous]

I am fifty~seven & simply do not have the funds to do cosmetic surgery, Botox or fillers/injectables, etc.

If I did I imagine I would likely get my face lasered (to remove dark spots), get an upper/lower bleth to remove unsightly (to me!) eye bags & drooping lids plus maybe a light Botox for my forehead wrinkles.
But I imagine the upkeep would be chaotic so maybe it’s nice that I am not loaded.

Lol.
Regardless I AM a slave to coloring my hair. 😭
My natural hair color is a very dark black hue and my gray hair is like 100% now.
My grays are actually a very bright white hue so coloring my hair every nine days is like my second job.

I miss the days of only coloring my hair for fun - now it’s purely out of necessity.
And vanity too I suppose.

I would love to embrace my grays, however when I attempt to grow it out even for as little as three weeks the color differentiates are so opposite that I attract negative stares from even strangers!

So I slave on every nine days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol at the poster who thinks she’s spared for being Asian. Every Asian woman past menopause…

I live in an area with a lot of Asians and from the ones I know, they all look much younger than their actual ages!
This is the truth. Not even one of them looks their age > they all look ten years younger.

Black and other dark/skinned races also age well.

Color me jealous.

[Anonymous]

I do nothing. Woman who Botox and use fillers look clownish and actually look older to me. Yeah, I 'm getting older. But- using stuff to try and look younger does what? It changes nothing. Who are we doing this for?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my 40s, I get asked by friends what I "do" but it is genes. I don't do Botox, wear sunscreen, I don't dye my hair, no fillers, no procedures yet.

I do have crow's feet around my eyes when I smile but I just don't want to get started on this slippery slope. My mom aged naturally and doesn't do anything except dye her hair.

You haven’t reached an age yet where you have started looking “old.” Wait till you hit mid 50’s.

Fair enough, but I get asked this because I look a lot younger than I am. Even people in their teens and 30s think I am in my 20s, that's why.

I did too! Things started to age on me mid 60's. Collagen and hair thinning. Plus eyelid and neck sagging. Nothing lasts forever. I won't give up the hair dye but doubtful I'll do anything else unless I can't see past the saggy eyelids anymore.

+1

+2. I didn't have jowls until about a year ago. I am 64. My neck is getting a few wrinkles, which I moisturize. I am part-Asian and have a lot of Asian friends/relatives who are also experience this 60s aging. I still color my hair because my natural gray is so white, it is translucent. I look bald where the white is growing in. I like my colorist but going in every 3 weeks is a drag. There is no doubt I look younger with my original brown. My mother and MIL colored their hair into their late 80s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do nothing. Woman who Botox and use fillers look clownish and actually look older to me. Yeah, I 'm getting older. But- using stuff to try and look younger does what? It changes nothing. Who are we doing this for?

Just do it for yourself. That's what I do. I color my hair because I like how brown hair looks with my skin and eyes. No makeup just sunscreen and lip balm most days.

[Anonymous]

One thing that did bother me was losing my hair beginning in my mid-50s. I always had plenty of hair and even drawing a brush through my hair started to hurt. So I began oral minoxidil and biotin. It helped and I have some fullness back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my sixties, botoxing, using fillers, small amount of plastic surgery.

I’m tired of it, never ending. I’ve decided to age naturally, wrinkles and all. It will be tough, all my friends are sculpted.

Anyone else tired of beautifying?

I've even though I can afford it. Its just feels too shallow. I rather focus on health than vanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do nothing. Woman who Botox and use fillers look clownish and actually look older to me. Yeah, I 'm getting older. But- using stuff to try and look younger does what? It changes nothing. Who are we doing this for?

I’m under no impression that I look younger with Botox, but I do look less angry. My 11s are crazy and I really like the softer look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am fifty~seven & simply do not have the funds to do cosmetic surgery, Botox or fillers/injectables, etc.

If I did I imagine I would likely get my face lasered (to remove dark spots), get an upper/lower bleth to remove unsightly (to me!) eye bags & drooping lids plus maybe a light Botox for my forehead wrinkles.
But I imagine the upkeep would be chaotic so maybe it’s nice that I am not loaded.

Lol.
Regardless I AM a slave to coloring my hair. 😭
My natural hair color is a very dark black hue and my gray hair is like 100% now.
My grays are actually a very bright white hue so coloring my hair every nine days is like my second job.

I miss the days of only coloring my hair for fun - now it’s purely out of necessity.
And vanity too I suppose.

I would love to embrace my grays, however when I attempt to grow it out even for as little as three weeks the color differentiates are so opposite that I attract negative stares from even strangers!

So I slave on every nine days.

The grow out period is awkward but eventually it ends and then you are no longer a slave to the hair color. It was worth it to me, even though I definitely look and feel my age with the natural color.

[Anonymous]

I'm 53. I dye my hair every 4 to 6 weeks (found a box dye I like) and I work out to stay reasonably fit and strong. I'll probably embrace the gray when I retire. It helps that I was never pretty so there is no vanity to get past or anything to "preserve."

[Anonymous]

I'm almost 60. Never done fillers, Botox, lifts, nothing. I just use face cream, sunscreen, and wear a wide-brim hat in the summer. Also, I keep my stress level as low as possible and get seven hours of sleep every night, if possible, as much as possible. I think a lot of the celebrity women who do these facial procedures begin to look like replicants eventually. They don't even look fully human and it's a bit unsettling. I may have a few wrinkles, but I've earned every single one, it's a sign of life lived. A too-smooth face at 60 is just sort of creepy. It doesn't look normal, and you can look at their neck and hands and guess the age, anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Just people are polite enough not to mention your messed up fillers doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:lol at the poster who thinks she’s spared for being Asian. Every Asian woman past menopause…

I live in an area with a lot of Asians and from the ones I know, they all look much younger than their actual ages!
This is the truth. Not even one of them looks their age > they all look ten years younger.

Black and other dark/skinned races also age well.

Color me jealous.

You have just announced that you are incredibly unobservant and can only see the differences in white people, but not in any non-white people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Just people are polite enough not to mention your messed up fillers doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

That's really mean. Why are women saying these kinds of things? It's the patriarchy getting us to fight.

I probably won't ever get fillers, Botox, etc, but I don't know why we're tearing each other down. I don't think either way is right or says something larger about society. It's the mommy wars continued.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm aging gracefully with Botox, hair dye, and whatever else makes me feel good.

+1 million

I don’t know why some ascribe moral high ground to not using various superficial tools. It’s just Botox and hair dye. Yes it’s pricey and requires time and maintenance and money, but what’s the big deal?

Use these tools or don’t. But keep morality out of it. So ridiculous.

You WANT to believe people are “ascribing” morality to this and they aren’t. Stop being a b. Itch if women don’t go down this road. It’s an “investment” of literally thousands of dollars, likely tens of thousands, over time, and even here most people can’t afford it. And since you’re a grimy azzhole, Beauty and Fashion can involve things besides injectables, procedures, surgery, or even hair dye.

Ma’am step away from the Chardonnay.