NYT Times interview with Brian Kohlberger’s sister

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A major reason I don't think the family knew or tried to help him get away with it is that I have a brother who has mental health and addiction issues, and all the details that people seem to think should have ensured the family knew he was the shooter are things that could happen in my family today and be considered normal. An early morning phone call where he seems stressed and dysregulated? Totally normal, unfortunately. My parents driving cross country to facilitate something with his car that seems like it could be handled better another way? Also not really out of the ordinary. Jumpy behavior, strange habits, and the family not asking too many questions about them because he is likely to get upset and turn it into a fight? Yes, of course.

I'll also note my family is pretty imperfect. My mom is really controlling. My dad has a bad temper. There was abuse in my house growing up. I think everyone has mental health issues of some kind, including me, and if you met me you'd think I seemed like a very together, successful person.

But if a member of my family commit a horrible crime, I am sure people would look at all this and judge it all and say "come on, of course you knew" or whatever. Yet no one in my family has committed any crime at all that I'm aware of (even my brother with addiction issues is just an alcoholic -- I don't think he even uses illegal drugs) and I would be shocked and horrified to find out they had.

There are lots and lots of dysfunctional and mentally ill people in the world who are not mass murderers (thank god). They have family, and their families have acclimated to sometimes odd and troubling behavior as being normal for that person. What some of you are viewing as dramatic red flags that any one would have known was a sign of guilt here are, for lots of families, just their every day.

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Anonymous wrote:And the killer is in a Ph.D. program and decides to drive home for winter break and has his father fly to Washington so they could drive across country together. But they take the long way home because there are news reports to be on the lookout for that type of car.

It might be understandable for summer break but it makes no sense for winter break when he has to drive back to school. It would make more sense for him to fly home. And what do they do with the car. They put the college kid's car in the garage to hide it.

It is despicable the NYT article that is sympathetic. The family knows more and isn't saying anything to help the grieving families.

I would really like to know what some of you weirdos think his family owes the victims' families? There is nothing they can say or do to bring those kids back. The victim's parents probably want on the guy's family as well as all you weirdo strangers on the internet to shut their mouths and leave it alone.

They owe the family answers to why he called his mother the day of the murders and spoke for hours. What did they speak about?

Or they owe the family silence. If they aren’t going to say anything helpful to the families then say nothing about the case.

But to try to get sympathy about their situation when their family member killed 4 people in cold blood? Absolutely despicable.

Absolutely not. You condemning the family members for the actions of another person is despicable. They didn't kill anyone. They didn't hurt anyone. The way the public crucifies the families in these situations in despicable. The world in the age of social media has gone mad. Check yourself, you psycho.

Why on earth are you so worked up? We’re discussing a NYT article. “Despicable”? “Psycho”? For giving an opinion on the article and family on an Internet forum?

What vocabulary words would you use to describe what Kohberger did?

The way internet sleuths treat all the families, the families of the victims and the families of the perpetrators, as some sort of entertainment for themselves is perverse. No one owes any of you a single thing, not one iota of information to satisfy your sick curiosity. You don't get to convict the family of the perpetrator based on your gut feelings. You don't get to speak for the families of the victims. Unless you are directly tied to these people in some way, these people are none of your business.

If all you weirdos with your page long dissertations on this case would leave the perpetrators family be, they would never feel the need to give an interview like this.

The guy is in jail for the rest of his life as he should be. That's it. Leave the families on both sides to their grief.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a hard time believing that the cops didn't extensively interrogate the parents about their interactions with him after the murders, and that if there was ANY indication they knew he was the killer and acted to help him conceal his crime or hid from the police, they wouldn't be charged.

The idea that the police just let it go because he pled guilty doesn't make sense. Aiding and abetting a murderer after the fact is a serious crime and if they had evidence that the family did this, I think they'd be charging them even with the guilty plea. In part because of what people are saying here -- if the parents helped him try to get away with it, that does real harm to the families of the victims.

Which leads me to conclude that the evidence simply doesn't support this hypothetical. The family may be deeply imperfect, there may have been signs they missed, they may even have understood on some level that things were not quite right, but I really don't think they knew and I definitely don't think they tried to help him get away with it.

I'll believe that if they ever explain: 1) why they father flew out to drive back with him, and 2) why they were keeping the car parked in the garage.

I have read that the father already had plans to drive back with him before the murders happened. That could be confirmed by when he bought the plane ticket. I’m not sure if they ever explained why, but maybe he wanted his car to use at home over the break. In fact it seems dumb to drive the car around across country knowing it was under suspicion in a crime, so I don’t think the dad was hiding something.

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Anonymous wrote:And the killer is in a Ph.D. program and decides to drive home for winter break and has his father fly to Washington so they could drive across country together. But they take the long way home because there are news reports to be on the lookout for that type of car.

It might be understandable for summer break but it makes no sense for winter break when he has to drive back to school. It would make more sense for him to fly home. And what do they do with the car. They put the college kid's car in the garage to hide it.

It is despicable the NYT article that is sympathetic. The family knows more and isn't saying anything to help the grieving families.

I would really like to know what some of you weirdos think his family owes the victims' families? There is nothing they can say or do to bring those kids back. The victim's parents probably want on the guy's family as well as all you weirdo strangers on the internet to shut their mouths and leave it alone.

They owe the family answers to why he called his mother the day of the murders and spoke for hours. What did they speak about?

Or they owe the family silence. If they aren’t going to say anything helpful to the families then say nothing about the case.

But to try to get sympathy about their situation when their family member killed 4 people in cold blood? Absolutely despicable.

Absolutely not. You condemning the family members for the actions of another person is despicable. They didn't kill anyone. They didn't hurt anyone. The way the public crucifies the families in these situations in despicable. The world in the age of social media has gone mad. Check yourself, you psycho.

Why on earth are you so worked up? We’re discussing a NYT article. “Despicable”? “Psycho”? For giving an opinion on the article and family on an Internet forum?

What vocabulary words would you use to describe what Kohberger did?

The way internet sleuths treat all the families, the families of the victims and the families of the perpetrators, as some sort of entertainment for themselves is perverse. No one owes any of you a single thing, not one iota of information to satisfy your sick curiosity. You don't get to convict the family of the perpetrator based on your gut feelings. You don't get to speak for the families of the victims. Unless you are directly tied to these people in some way, these people are none of your business.

If all you weirdos with your page long dissertations on this case would leave the perpetrators family be, they would never feel the need to give an interview like this.

The guy is in jail for the rest of his life as he should be. That's it. Leave the families on both sides to their grief.

The sister actually touched on this in her interview, where she said she used to like “true crime” but now realizes how the true crime genre dehumanizes the people involved.

I agree with you as far as, say, calling her place of work and getting her terminated. That’s too far. People have too much time on their hands. (I do think she should re-think her career, as no one is going to trust the sibling of a depraved murderer with blue hair to give out quality mental counseling).

I disagree with you that the general public has a “sick curiosity”. It’s human nature to want to understand why he did this and what sort of family life / personality could lead to this.

I also disagree with you that you can lump the families of victims and perpetrators together in terms of suffering. My stepbrother was murdered at 16 in a school shooting. That was nearly 20 years ago. My stepmother will suffer for the rest of her life. She will never ever recover from it. This guy’s family can visit him in jail, keep up a relationship. It’s not the same.

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OK, new poster here. I will admit that when I clicked over and saw her picture I thought, oh, that's unfortunate. The heavy eye makeup, the haircut, the blue, the pose - it does sort of fit a stereotype. Very awkward.

But is it one poster who keeps going on and on about the blue hair? Frankly that seems a little unhinged. Maybe more than one person has commented but there's certainly someone who is taking this a little off the rails.

[Anonymous]

I am sure her family continues to get a lot of heat for the murders. She did the interview to put a positive spin on the family. The parents are loving. They were brought up to be loyal and do the right thing. She wants to make sure anyone reading the article knows that they are good people and knew nothing. As a pp said, this is probably impacting their job prospects. This is self-preservation.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure her family continues to get a lot of heat for the murders. She did the interview to put a positive spin on the family. The parents are loving. They were brought up to be loyal and do the right thing. She wants to make sure anyone reading the article knows that they are good people and knew nothing. As a pp said, this is probably impacting their job prospects. This is self-preservation.

If you read the NY Times article, you'll see that she was just graduating when her brother was arrested and had a job offer as a counselor, which was withdrawn because the employer got a lot of calls with 'concerns' about her hiring.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed this case a few years ago, and it was said Brian wanted to drive his car to PA for Christmas so he could transport some items from the family home back to his apartment. This sounds very plausible to me, as we often drive, instead of fly, to take items our kid left at home to their new apartment.

Also, I'm sure after some difficult years of Brian not fitting in and fighting addiction, the parents probably thought things were looking up, with him getting into a PhD program. If the dad is retired, I can totally understand him wanting to fly out and help with the long drive back to PA. It's safer with 2 drivers and lots of hours for quality time to chat with your adult son.

I saw the video of the police stop for Brian following a car too closely. The Dad looks relaxed and says they are both feeling "punchy" from driving for hours. He's chit chatting the cop, telling him what they plan to eat for lunch. Nothing suspicious to me. Meanwhile, Brian looks like a cornered animal. I'm sure he thought the police were on to him and he was about to get arrested. Meanwhile he's shooting daggers at his Dad for continuing to talk to the cop (who was at the passenger window).

Once home, putting a car in the garage is normal. When I visit my son, we put my new car in his garage and leave his old run-down car in the driveway in case of vandalism or theft. If snow is in the forecast, we put the car we plan to drive in the garage and park the extra car off to the side.

If Brian was walking around the house with gloves and the family took it in stride, I would say he's had quirky habits in the past and they just shrugged it off. If it was completely new and weird, I'd wonder if my kid was developing OCD, but I would never jump to "he just committed a murder".

From Brian's perspective, I think he was perhaps worried about exactly what happened - police getting his DNA from household trash. Yes, him putting some trash in the neighbor's can was probably him hoping the cops wouldn't look there. He didn't realize they were already watching the house and saw this. But I've never heard that his parents saw him using the neighbor's trash can.

Back to the morning of the murder, I do not find it odd that he called his mother. If a person has just done a really bad thing like murder, their stress level is off the charts and they are probably in need of some regulation. Calling mom is a form of comfort, trying to feel normal again. Maybe even worried if you get arrested, this could be the last time you talk to her when she thinks everything is fine.

From her POV, it may have been normal for her loner kid to call her when he needed some connection. Her biggest worry was probably that he might use drugs again, or that he was having personality issues with his professors or fellow students. So if he wants to talk at 6am, then she's going to be there for him. After Alex Murdaugh killed his wife and son, he drove right to his mother's house. Moms represent comfort and safety.

I highly doubt Brian confessed to her that morning. Certainly she would have told her husband, and Dad wouldn't have been so chipper and it's doubtful he would get in a car with a murderer. Brian wanted to do the perfect crime and get away with it. I think he planned it months in advance.

And in the winter if you are crossing the country, don't you take the southern route, even if it's a bit longer, to avoid icy driving conditions on a northern route? Again, something I have done more than once in January.

The sister provided nothing of value with this interview. I didn't want to hear about them celebrating Brian's birthday with a cake and candles or giving him a paper heart to hold in court (why was that allowed?). For someone who was about to get a job providing mental health counseling, she came across as very clueless. Making the argument that Brian wasn't violent by saying he held her hands back to de-escalate a fight between them kind of said the opposite. That they were both getting physical and he used his strength to overpower her. So they both come to blows over something? Sounds very dysfunctional.

I'm sure it's traumatic to find out a family member has committed a crime that's all over the national news and to have reporters staking out your house and to have the social media crowd accusing your family of knowing and trying to hide it. And imagine the PTSD the parents feel from having a SWAT team breaking their windows at 2am and coming in guns blazing then carting off your son in handcuffs. And you were sleeping, maybe not fully dressed and suddenly have lights in your face and flashbangs ringing in your ears. And then to realize your son murdered 4 lovely young college students and will now serve life in prison. My God, their stress levels must be off the charts.

But not as much as 4 families who have no answer as to why their beautiful children had to suffer such a horrible death. Their grief will never end. And Miss mental health counselor with the edgy blue hair thinks it's ok for these families to hear that she loves her brother and will blow out his birthday candles since he can't be there. Just ick. Go away. And take my kid's birthday reminder out of your digital calendar.

As one of the PPs, thanks, this sounds pretty reasonable. I still think that the early morning call, the last-minute cross-country drive, and the garage parking were all weird, but this family seems pretty oblivious. I think you're probably right that they would have accepted any excuse he gave.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure her family continues to get a lot of heat for the murders. She did the interview to put a positive spin on the family. The parents are loving. They were brought up to be loyal and do the right thing. She wants to make sure anyone reading the article knows that they are good people and knew nothing. As a pp said, this is probably impacting their job prospects. This is self-preservation.

A poor attempt... This certainly didn't help. I can't be too critical of the NYT, though. I'm sure they did a hard sell, but this was a very sympathetic article given all the topics they apparently agreed not to cover. But it still isn't a good look for the family.

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Anonymous wrote:And the killer is in a Ph.D. program and decides to drive home for winter break and has his father fly to Washington so they could drive across country together. But they take the long way home because there are news reports to be on the lookout for that type of car.

It might be understandable for summer break but it makes no sense for winter break when he has to drive back to school. It would make more sense for him to fly home. And what do they do with the car. They put the college kid's car in the garage to hide it.

It is despicable the NYT article that is sympathetic. The family knows more and isn't saying anything to help the grieving families.

I would really like to know what some of you weirdos think his family owes the victims' families? There is nothing they can say or do to bring those kids back. The victim's parents probably want on the guy's family as well as all you weirdo strangers on the internet to shut their mouths and leave it alone.

They owe the family answers to why he called his mother the day of the murders and spoke for hours. What did they speak about?

Or they owe the family silence. If they aren’t going to say anything helpful to the families then say nothing about the case.

But to try to get sympathy about their situation when their family member killed 4 people in cold blood? Absolutely despicable.

Absolutely not. You condemning the family members for the actions of another person is despicable. They didn't kill anyone. They didn't hurt anyone. The way the public crucifies the families in these situations in despicable. The world in the age of social media has gone mad. Check yourself, you psycho.

Why on earth are you so worked up? We’re discussing a NYT article. “Despicable”? “Psycho”? For giving an opinion on the article and family on an Internet forum?

What vocabulary words would you use to describe what Kohberger did?

The way internet sleuths treat all the families, the families of the victims and the families of the perpetrators, as some sort of entertainment for themselves is perverse. No one owes any of you a single thing, not one iota of information to satisfy your sick curiosity. You don't get to convict the family of the perpetrator based on your gut feelings. You don't get to speak for the families of the victims. Unless you are directly tied to these people in some way, these people are none of your business.

If all you weirdos with your page long dissertations on this case would leave the perpetrators family be, they would never feel the need to give an interview like this.

The guy is in jail for the rest of his life as he should be. That's it. Leave the families on both sides to their grief.

The sister actually touched on this in her interview, where she said she used to like “true crime” but now realizes how the true crime genre dehumanizes the people involved.

I agree with you as far as, say, calling her place of work and getting her terminated. That’s too far. People have too much time on their hands. (I do think she should re-think her career, as no one is going to trust the sibling of a depraved murderer with blue hair to give out quality mental counseling).

I disagree with you that the general public has a “sick curiosity”. It’s human nature to want to understand why he did this and what sort of family life / personality could lead to this.

I also disagree with you that you can lump the families of victims and perpetrators together in terms of suffering. My stepbrother was murdered at 16 in a school shooting. That was nearly 20 years ago. My stepmother will suffer for the rest of her life. She will never ever recover from it. This guy’s family can visit him in jail, keep up a relationship. It’s not the same.

Different people will feel comfortable with different therapists. If you don't follow normal conventions, the sister's appearance and background might give you comfort that she's not one to judge.

Admittedly, I find it a little off-putting, but I don't think everyone would.

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Anonymous wrote:And the killer is in a Ph.D. program and decides to drive home for winter break and has his father fly to Washington so they could drive across country together. But they take the long way home because there are news reports to be on the lookout for that type of car.

It might be understandable for summer break but it makes no sense for winter break when he has to drive back to school. It would make more sense for him to fly home. And what do they do with the car. They put the college kid's car in the garage to hide it.

It is despicable the NYT article that is sympathetic. The family knows more and isn't saying anything to help the grieving families.

I would really like to know what some of you weirdos think his family owes the victims' families? There is nothing they can say or do to bring those kids back. The victim's parents probably want on the guy's family as well as all you weirdo strangers on the internet to shut their mouths and leave it alone.

They owe the family answers to why he called his mother the day of the murders and spoke for hours. What did they speak about?

Or they owe the family silence. If they aren’t going to say anything helpful to the families then say nothing about the case.

But to try to get sympathy about their situation when their family member killed 4 people in cold blood? Absolutely despicable.

Absolutely not. You condemning the family members for the actions of another person is despicable. They didn't kill anyone. They didn't hurt anyone. The way the public crucifies the families in these situations in despicable. The world in the age of social media has gone mad. Check yourself, you psycho.

Why on earth are you so worked up? We’re discussing a NYT article. “Despicable”? “Psycho”? For giving an opinion on the article and family on an Internet forum?

What vocabulary words would you use to describe what Kohberger did?

The way internet sleuths treat all the families, the families of the victims and the families of the perpetrators, as some sort of entertainment for themselves is perverse. No one owes any of you a single thing, not one iota of information to satisfy your sick curiosity. You don't get to convict the family of the perpetrator based on your gut feelings. You don't get to speak for the families of the victims. Unless you are directly tied to these people in some way, these people are none of your business.

If all you weirdos with your page long dissertations on this case would leave the perpetrators family be, they would never feel the need to give an interview like this.

The guy is in jail for the rest of his life as he should be. That's it. Leave the families on both sides to their grief.

The sister actually touched on this in her interview, where she said she used to like “true crime” but now realizes how the true crime genre dehumanizes the people involved.

I agree with you as far as, say, calling her place of work and getting her terminated. That’s too far. People have too much time on their hands. (I do think she should re-think her career, as no one is going to trust the sibling of a depraved murderer with blue hair to give out quality mental counseling).

I disagree with you that the general public has a “sick curiosity”. It’s human nature to want to understand why he did this and what sort of family life / personality could lead to this.

I also disagree with you that you can lump the families of victims and perpetrators together in terms of suffering. My stepbrother was murdered at 16 in a school shooting. That was nearly 20 years ago. My stepmother will suffer for the rest of her life. She will never ever recover from it. This guy’s family can visit him in jail, keep up a relationship. It’s not the same.

Different people will feel comfortable with different therapists. If you don't follow normal conventions, the sister's appearance and background might give you comfort that she's not one to judge.

Admittedly, I find it a little off-putting, but I don't think everyone would.

I can’t imagine what help she could provide when she couldn’t recognize trouble in her own family.

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Anonymous wrote:And the killer is in a Ph.D. program and decides to drive home for winter break and has his father fly to Washington so they could drive across country together. But they take the long way home because there are news reports to be on the lookout for that type of car.

It might be understandable for summer break but it makes no sense for winter break when he has to drive back to school. It would make more sense for him to fly home. And what do they do with the car. They put the college kid's car in the garage to hide it.

It is despicable the NYT article that is sympathetic. The family knows more and isn't saying anything to help the grieving families.

I would really like to know what some of you weirdos think his family owes the victims' families? There is nothing they can say or do to bring those kids back. The victim's parents probably want on the guy's family as well as all you weirdo strangers on the internet to shut their mouths and leave it alone.

They owe the family answers to why he called his mother the day of the murders and spoke for hours. What did they speak about?

Or they owe the family silence. If they aren’t going to say anything helpful to the families then say nothing about the case.

But to try to get sympathy about their situation when their family member killed 4 people in cold blood? Absolutely despicable.

Absolutely not. You condemning the family members for the actions of another person is despicable. They didn't kill anyone. They didn't hurt anyone. The way the public crucifies the families in these situations in despicable. The world in the age of social media has gone mad. Check yourself, you psycho.

Why on earth are you so worked up? We’re discussing a NYT article. “Despicable”? “Psycho”? For giving an opinion on the article and family on an Internet forum?

What vocabulary words would you use to describe what Kohberger did?

The way internet sleuths treat all the families, the families of the victims and the families of the perpetrators, as some sort of entertainment for themselves is perverse. No one owes any of you a single thing, not one iota of information to satisfy your sick curiosity. You don't get to convict the family of the perpetrator based on your gut feelings. You don't get to speak for the families of the victims. Unless you are directly tied to these people in some way, these people are none of your business.

If all you weirdos with your page long dissertations on this case would leave the perpetrators family be, they would never feel the need to give an interview like this.

The guy is in jail for the rest of his life as he should be. That's it. Leave the families on both sides to their grief.

The sister actually touched on this in her interview, where she said she used to like “true crime” but now realizes how the true crime genre dehumanizes the people involved.

I agree with you as far as, say, calling her place of work and getting her terminated. That’s too far. People have too much time on their hands. (I do think she should re-think her career, as no one is going to trust the sibling of a depraved murderer with blue hair to give out quality mental counseling).

I disagree with you that the general public has a “sick curiosity”. It’s human nature to want to understand why he did this and what sort of family life / personality could lead to this.

I also disagree with you that you can lump the families of victims and perpetrators together in terms of suffering. My stepbrother was murdered at 16 in a school shooting. That was nearly 20 years ago. My stepmother will suffer for the rest of her life. She will never ever recover from it. This guy’s family can visit him in jail, keep up a relationship. It’s not the same.

Different people will feel comfortable with different therapists. If you don't follow normal conventions, the sister's appearance and background might give you comfort that she's not one to judge.

Admittedly, I find it a little off-putting, but I don't think everyone would.

I can’t imagine what help she could provide when she couldn’t recognize trouble in her own family.

She wasn't her brother's therapist and in fact therapists are not supposed to treat family members specifically because it is accepted that your personal connection and history with them would cloud your ability to help them in a professional capacity.

Also it is not the job of a therapist to "recognize trouble." No one knows why Brian did what he did. He might not even know. It is natural for people to want to impose some kind of order on a crime like this that will make you feel like it could never happen to you or someone you love. You want to believe that if you were in the sister's shoes, that you would have known what her brother was going to do and could have prevented it, or would have seen his guilt and figured it out and turned him in. But the truth is you probably wouldn't have. And that freaks you out.

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Anonymous wrote:Not understanding the hate for BK family. Even if he was a weirdo and possibly violent wtf were they supposed to do about it? You can’t jail a psychopath prior to the crime. And it’s debatable his parents had any clue since the people article mentions he called his mother regularly so not sure that him chatting with her on the phone that day proves absolutely anything. The judgment here is disgusting.

Don't be naive. It was 6am. Of course she knew. It's understandable they didn't know what would happen, but they certainly knew it after it happened.

He apparently frequently called his mom as early as 4 am. I think it's odd behavior, but it doesn't sound like it was out of the ordinary for him at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Not understanding the hate for BK family. Even if he was a weirdo and possibly violent wtf were they supposed to do about it? You can’t jail a psychopath prior to the crime. And it’s debatable his parents had any clue since the people article mentions he called his mother regularly so not sure that him chatting with her on the phone that day proves absolutely anything. The judgment here is disgusting.

Don't be naive. It was 6am. Of course she knew. It's understandable they didn't know what would happen, but they certainly knew it after it happened.

He apparently frequently called his mom as early as 4 am. I think it's odd behavior, but it doesn't sound like it was out of the ordinary for him at all.

+1, he was obviously a troubled guy who engaged in some strange or frustrating behavior, but it's wild some people seem to to think that if you had a son call you at 6am, your first thought would be "oh my kid you murdered someone." Of course it wouldn't be, even if you knew your son had problems.

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Anonymous wrote:And the killer is in a Ph.D. program and decides to drive home for winter break and has his father fly to Washington so they could drive across country together. But they take the long way home because there are news reports to be on the lookout for that type of car.

It might be understandable for summer break but it makes no sense for winter break when he has to drive back to school. It would make more sense for him to fly home. And what do they do with the car. They put the college kid's car in the garage to hide it.

It is despicable the NYT article that is sympathetic. The family knows more and isn't saying anything to help the grieving families.

I would really like to know what some of you weirdos think his family owes the victims' families? There is nothing they can say or do to bring those kids back. The victim's parents probably want on the guy's family as well as all you weirdo strangers on the internet to shut their mouths and leave it alone.

They owe the family answers to why he called his mother the day of the murders and spoke for hours. What did they speak about?

Or they owe the family silence. If they aren’t going to say anything helpful to the families then say nothing about the case.

But to try to get sympathy about their situation when their family member killed 4 people in cold blood? Absolutely despicable.

Absolutely not. You condemning the family members for the actions of another person is despicable. They didn't kill anyone. They didn't hurt anyone. The way the public crucifies the families in these situations in despicable. The world in the age of social media has gone mad. Check yourself, you psycho.

Why on earth are you so worked up? We’re discussing a NYT article. “Despicable”? “Psycho”? For giving an opinion on the article and family on an Internet forum?

What vocabulary words would you use to describe what Kohberger did?

The way internet sleuths treat all the families, the families of the victims and the families of the perpetrators, as some sort of entertainment for themselves is perverse. No one owes any of you a single thing, not one iota of information to satisfy your sick curiosity. You don't get to convict the family of the perpetrator based on your gut feelings. You don't get to speak for the families of the victims. Unless you are directly tied to these people in some way, these people are none of your business.

If all you weirdos with your page long dissertations on this case would leave the perpetrators family be, they would never feel the need to give an interview like this.

The guy is in jail for the rest of his life as he should be. That's it. Leave the families on both sides to their grief.

The sister actually touched on this in her interview, where she said she used to like “true crime” but now realizes how the true crime genre dehumanizes the people involved.

I agree with you as far as, say, calling her place of work and getting her terminated. That’s too far. People have too much time on their hands. (I do think she should re-think her career, as no one is going to trust the sibling of a depraved murderer with blue hair to give out quality mental counseling).

I disagree with you that the general public has a “sick curiosity”. It’s human nature to want to understand why he did this and what sort of family life / personality could lead to this.

I also disagree with you that you can lump the families of victims and perpetrators together in terms of suffering. My stepbrother was murdered at 16 in a school shooting. That was nearly 20 years ago. My stepmother will suffer for the rest of her life. She will never ever recover from it. This guy’s family can visit him in jail, keep up a relationship. It’s not the same.

Different people will feel comfortable with different therapists. If you don't follow normal conventions, the sister's appearance and background might give you comfort that she's not one to judge.

Admittedly, I find it a little off-putting, but I don't think everyone would.

I can’t imagine what help she could provide when she couldn’t recognize trouble in her own family.

She wasn't her brother's therapist and in fact therapists are not supposed to treat family members specifically because it is accepted that your personal connection and history with them would cloud your ability to help them in a professional capacity.

Also it is not the job of a therapist to "recognize trouble." No one knows why Brian did what he did. He might not even know. It is natural for people to want to impose some kind of order on a crime like this that will make you feel like it could never happen to you or someone you love. You want to believe that if you were in the sister's shoes, that you would have known what her brother was going to do and could have prevented it, or would have seen his guilt and figured it out and turned him in. But the truth is you probably wouldn't have. And that freaks you out.

I have a disturbed brother. Nothing would shock me. I’m not a therapist and also not out to lunch. There were problems in the Kohberger family. Look at the type of people who go into mental health for starters, they always have a ton of baggage.