Dating at gender-lopsided universities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone's child having success with dating? My daughter and friends aren't asked out by boys or even propositioned for hook-ups when drinking, etc (the later being a very good thing). And they're very cute, well-dressed, whatever else one might think is needed to attract the opposite sex.
It's weird. Very different from when I was young.

Girls have successfully conditioned boys not to “bother” them. So they don’t. It’s not weird that they are doing what you say you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?

That's not going to go well

Why not?

I'm surprised you don't know this. Men want to do the choosing. If they want to date you they will ask. If they don't ask they won't want you. And I don't want to hear about the one man who was asked out because this true of the majority of men!

This isn’t really the problem. What men want is a signal from the woman that she’s interested and wants to be asked. Women are pretty terrible at doing this. Girls don’t even know they should do this let alone how to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?

That's not going to go well

Why not?

I'm surprised you don't know this. Men want to do the choosing. If they want to date you they will ask. If they don't ask they won't want you. And I don't want to hear about the one man who was asked out because this true of the majority of men!

This isn’t really the problem. What men want is a signal from the woman that she’s interested and wants to be asked. Women are pretty terrible at doing this. Girls don’t even know they should do this let alone how to do it.

This rings true. My daughter went to a Catholic girls school and so there were zero organic encounters with boys at school (no sitting next to someone in math class and gradually meeting him that way.) So the only ones who dated were either extremely outgoing or had a friend spell it out to a boy "XX likes you."

[Anonymous]

What can top schools (top 50-60-ish) do to attract more men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone's child having success with dating? My daughter and friends aren't asked out by boys or even propositioned for hook-ups when drinking, etc (the later being a very good thing). And they're very cute, well-dressed, whatever else one might think is needed to attract the opposite sex.
It's weird. Very different from when I was young.

Some boys are inexperienced (for now). Tell her to be assertive with a guy she thinks is cute but shy. It will be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone's child having success with dating? My daughter and friends aren't asked out by boys or even propositioned for hook-ups when drinking, etc (the later being a very good thing). And they're very cute, well-dressed, whatever else one might think is needed to attract the opposite sex.
It's weird. Very different from when I was young.

Some boys are inexperienced (for now). Tell her to be assertive with a guy she thinks is cute but shy. It will be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.

I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges

DP. I think Georgia Tech is 60/40 m/f. Here are some others that are close:

Colorado School of Mines - 68/32
Caltech - 57/43
Virginia Tech - 57/43

How many at these schools are actually dateable? These schools are disproportionally male due to engineering majors. HS DD is in higher level math and physics classes and many of her male classmates don't bathe regularly. Google engineering and BO or look on Reddit. It's a thing.

My daughter attends one of those schools as a humanities major. She has not complained about anyone's hygiene and has plenty of guy friends, as well as one or two she has dated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?

That's not going to go well

Why not?

I'm surprised you don't know this. Men want to do the choosing. If they want to date you they will ask. If they don't ask they won't want you. And I don't want to hear about the one man who was asked out because this true of the majority of men!

This really is true. Sure, they want to know there's a reciprocal interest from the woman in question - but the men prefer to do the asking.
DP

[Anonymous]

It worked out well for my son's gf at W&M. They met while dancing at a fraternity party last spring. She wasn't afraid to dance with him, and she let him know she was interested. Go out, get involved. There are enough people to meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.

I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges

DP. I think Georgia Tech is 60/40 m/f. Here are some others that are close:

Colorado School of Mines - 68/32
Caltech - 57/43
Virginia Tech - 57/43

How many at these schools are actually dateable? These schools are disproportionally male due to engineering majors. HS DD is in higher level math and physics classes and many of her male classmates don't bathe regularly. Google engineering and BO or look on Reddit. It's a thing.

It's usually only 1 or 2, but they sure make the room reek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone's child having success with dating? My daughter and friends aren't asked out by boys or even propositioned for hook-ups when drinking, etc (the later being a very good thing). And they're very cute, well-dressed, whatever else one might think is needed to attract the opposite sex.
It's weird. Very different from when I was young.

Girls have successfully conditioned boys not to “bother” them. So they don’t. It’s not weird that they are doing what you say you want.

Omg. Yes, Girl bosses. Having all sons grow up in the everything “girl” era—girls on the run, girls in stem, etc, etc. and being told boys suck, no recess, me too. And at a public MS where pronouns were shoved down their throat and 15 out of 24 kids had pronouns other than ‘he/him, she/her’ in 8th grade and made to feel like a “toxic male”…..hmmmm how did we get here?

And- we are an independent household. Oldest son (20) and parents voted for Harris (though only because the alternative was too awful). My Senior in HS was not a Kirk fan. I had never heard of him. He said “he debates dumb college kids to look smart—but there are YouTube videoed of him getting squashed when he is up against an intelligent one.” We put our sons in an all-male Catholic HS because it was the most moderate.

Boys have been falling behind for decades which is why Laura Bush started the reading programs for young boys—-but that went out the door.

So —don’t know what to tell you. But the rush sorority girls and grad wives are just as bad—my sons have zero interest in dumb girls.

[Anonymous]

^ trad wives

[Anonymous]

And to cut off the trolls- sons are athletes, over 6 feet, good looking and at Ivies (2 older ones). Not recruited- in on academics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone's child having success with dating? My daughter and friends aren't asked out by boys or even propositioned for hook-ups when drinking, etc (the later being a very good thing). And they're very cute, well-dressed, whatever else one might think is needed to attract the opposite sex.
It's weird. Very different from when I was young.

Some boys are inexperienced (for now). Tell her to be assertive with a guy she thinks is cute but shy. It will be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.

I did this more than once in college and the "cute but shy" guys went along with it at first but ended up dumping me because "I'm really only into Asian women but I thought I'd give you a chance." This happened more than once!! Don't let your daughter be treated like a second option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?

That's not going to go well

Why not?

I'm surprised you don't know this. Men want to do the choosing. If they want to date you they will ask. If they don't ask they won't want you. And I don't want to hear about the one man who was asked out because this true of the majority of men!

The 1950s have spoken.