How are you preparing your children for downward mobility?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

If she can’t afford books she has much bigger problems. Teach her to cook from scratch, grow vegetables, or something remotely useful to prepare for hard times or living hand to mouth.

DP here. I love to read and buying books is a huge waste of money and just creates clutter. Libraries are awesome. We are high income and high net worth. Wealthy areas have amazing libraries. If my library doesn’t have a book I want, I literally tell them and they order it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.

Influencing teaches digital marketing, which is a very desirable skill set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

If she can’t afford books she has much bigger problems. Teach her to cook from scratch, grow vegetables, or something remotely useful to prepare for hard times or living hand to mouth.

DP here. I love to read and buying books is a huge waste of money and just creates clutter. Libraries are awesome. We are high income and high net worth. Wealthy areas have amazing libraries. If my library doesn’t have a book I want, I literally tell them and they order it!

That's great but reading books doesn't make you forget you're hungry in hard times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.

Much like being an actor, musician, model, athlete etc. But there will always be people who go that route.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.

Much like being an actor, musician, model, athlete etc. But there will always be people who go that route.

Yes, and they are usually the entitled children who think the world owes them something and that money grows on trees. I wold never support this for my own kids because that is not how families maintain their wealth. It is complete disrespectful and unappreciative of everything my family has done to build what we have now. Unless you are the child of a a celebrity, being an influencer is incredibly unlikely to be a viable career path.

[Anonymous]

Also make sure your kid does not marry down. Your kids (and grandkids) life will be much more difficult than it needs to be if they make a bad choice for marriage. Don't let them fall for the idealistic nonsense that the financial position of their spouses family does not matter.

[Anonymous]

Not my kid. He already makes more than I do as a teacher with 17 yrs of experience and he's been out of college for two years. No student loans because he worked lots of jobs on the side to pay them off quickly while living at home. I inherited my mom's house (I could never afford one as a single parent teacher) and he will inherit it when I die. Now he lives in a group house and pays $800 for rent/utilities. He still works his side gigs because he likes them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.

It’s creative and fun. Not everything is about money. Imagine that someone doing short videos for creativity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.

That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.

So what does preparing her for real life look like?

There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?

Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.

I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.

Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.

Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.

You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.

But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.

Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.

Much like being an actor, musician, model, athlete etc. But there will always be people who go that route.

I have a ton of friend who do those things in addition to a job because it’s fun. 😳 😮

[Anonymous]

We’re UMC, but we buy a lot of things used. The kids know we buy some Christmas presents from yard sales, but that’s only for gifts to family. For example, one of my presents was a book I’d picked up from the library sale. It was in great shape. It cost $4. I’m excited to read it. I have a whole room of furniture that I don’t care for, but the sellers left it for free. I’ll never replace it, though we could afford to, because our kids need to see us saving money, even on items that are importantly to us.

We’re also talking about saving/investing/financial stewardship in an organic matter. We’re trying to encourage a good work ethic. We go to a Boy Scout troop in a MC part of town, so our kids have friends beyond our posh neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

I'm just trying to focus on instilling in my children to have good work ethic, growth, mindset, and managing our resources wisely

[Anonymous]

One kid wants to be a pilot, so they will never get to DH or my salary level, but there are ways we can and will set them up to do well, like starting ground school as a teen and paying for their regular degree and flight training so they can get started and make captain as soon as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re UMC, but we buy a lot of things used. The kids know we buy some Christmas presents from yard sales, but that’s only for gifts to family. For example, one of my presents was a book I’d picked up from the library sale. It was in great shape. It cost $4. I’m excited to read it. I have a whole room of furniture that I don’t care for, but the sellers left it for free. I’ll never replace it, though we could afford to, because our kids need to see us saving money, even on items that are importantly to us.

We’re also talking about saving/investing/financial stewardship in an organic matter. We’re trying to encourage a good work ethic. We go to a Boy Scout troop in a MC part of town, so our kids have friends beyond our posh neighborhood.

You are completely tone death.