Top regrets in life

[Anonymous]

Currently, it was deciding to open the Halloween candy for “just one fun size snickers!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish I studied abroad.

I loved my study abroad so much that the next year I volunteered in the advising office and encouraged others.
There were so many young women who didn't want to go because "I would miss my boyfriend too much"

NP. That was me! And I still consider passing on study abroad as one of my greatest regrets.

My other is taking COVID too seriously without realizing the harm that isolation was causing for me and especially for my kids. I totally thought I was doing the right thing, keeping our family and the community safe. But it was too much, and addressing the harm has been an excruciating process.

[Anonymous]

I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

[Anonymous]

Parking everything in the G fund for the first 12 years of my working life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

[Anonymous]

I regret where I went to college and my major. My parents lived (still live) in a nice suburban area and I should have gone to the college close to home while still living on campus. It would have been 1000x easier in terms of internships. The college close to their home was not as competitive as where I went (which was also not that competitive but the hometown college was basically open admissions for in state). I think I was more into the “atmosphere” of the college I went to and the appeal of “going away” to college but it just wasn’t a super great experience overall. The little college towns in rural areas are great in theory but really limit your work options especially with all the funding cuts, they just don’t have career-related positions/internships for 15k+ undergrads.

I regret the house we bought. We should have stretched the top of our budget at the time and we would have definitely grown into it. Now we’re stuck in a too small place with a 3% interest rate, and the places that were in budget but stretches before Covid are out of budget now. At least our schools and neighborhood are decent I guess.

[Anonymous]

Raising kids in Arlington. Toxic cesspool of entitled parents raising mostly s-heads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently, it was deciding to open the Halloween candy for “just one fun size snickers!”

Haha, truth!

[Anonymous]

Not losing weight when I was younger. I was a fat kid and that affected my self esteem which led me to make really poor decisions throughout my life.

[Anonymous]

Becoming a teacher.

[Anonymous]

Not getting both of my kids neuropsych tested at a young age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Abortion a couple of months after graduating from college.

It's understandable to have feelings of regret, but I hope you understand that the other path could have gone very, very badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬