Top regrets in life

[Anonymous]

Starting a trade war with the whole world. Tariffing penguins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to Wharton instead of Bucknell.

Undergrad? I thought at Penn you get into Wharton ugrad once you’re there, for years 3 or 4. Did that change to during the initial application process?
I did a joint program so that’s how I did it, as an add on to engineering. Anyhow.

[Anonymous]

I regret not accepting the IB job on Wall Street out of college. Instead I chose a path as a drone in corporate America to stay closer to my dysfunctional and limiting family who never dare to dream. Wasted potential. Changed the trajectory of my entire life, and I regret that decision every day.

How do I get past this? Already done therapy for the family stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret not accepting the IB job on Wall Street out of college. Instead I chose a path as a drone in corporate America to stay closer to my dysfunctional and limiting family who never dare to dream. Wasted potential. Changed the trajectory of my entire life, and I regret that decision every day.

How do I get past this? Already done therapy for the family stuff.

Start developing love for money.

[Anonymous]

Regret not dumping my college boyfriend earlier and letting him strung me along for four more years. Eventually met a good guy and got married, but by then my fertility was shot and we couldn't have kids.

Don't waste your time in your 20s on anyone who doesn't know if you are "the one" after a year or so.

[Anonymous]

Joining the HOA board. So much drama over such mundane things. Never again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Joining the HOA board. So much drama over such mundane things. Never again.

Oh my this! Too much time in these people's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Going to Wharton instead of Bucknell.

Undergrad? I thought at Penn you get into Wharton ugrad once you’re there, for years 3 or 4. Did that change to during the initial application process?
I did a joint program so that’s how I did it, as an add on to engineering. Anyhow.

NP, I went to Penn in the 90s. You apply to a specific undergraduate school. There are 4: College, Wharton, Engineering and Nursing. Its possible to transfer within schools once enrolled, but not at all automatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I studied abroad.

+1. I plan on encouraging my DS to have the opportunity if he is interested when he is older.

[Anonymous]

Candy Crush. Addictive time sink. Never should have opened the app.

[Anonymous]

Not staying with my mom overnight in the the night she died. She had a routine surgery and was in a lot of pain afterwards. I planned to sit in the chair with her overnight but I suddenly got very ill and went home instead because I was sick and exhausted. Suddenly, around 2:15 a.m., I woke up and couldn’t figure out why and I thought “I hope that is not my mom coming to say bye to me.” And then dozed back to sleep. While sleeping, I got a call a little after 3:00 a.m. that my mom was having a “critical event.” When I finally arrived and I saw the medical staffs' faces, I knew she had died. I feel like overnight they did something wrong and if I had been there, I would have been able to catch it or push them to act more quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regret not dumping my college boyfriend earlier and letting him strung me along for four more years. Eventually met a good guy and got married, but by then my fertility was shot and we couldn't have kids.

Don't waste your time in your 20s on anyone who doesn't know if you are "the one" after a year or so.

So sorry and this is so true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret not accepting the IB job on Wall Street out of college. Instead I chose a path as a drone in corporate America to stay closer to my dysfunctional and limiting family who never dare to dream. Wasted potential. Changed the trajectory of my entire life, and I regret that decision every day.

How do I get past this? Already done therapy for the family stuff.

Two things:

1. Surely there are things you enjoy about your life as it is. Try to notice them, appreciate them.

2. If you feel like you're not where you want to be, identify - to the extent possible - where you would like to be. Or where it's realistic for you to get to from where you are now. Then start working toward that. Part of what drags us all down is feeling stuck but not having any sense of how to get unstuck. Work on that!

[Anonymous]

Not moving out of DC earlier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regret not dumping my college boyfriend earlier and letting him strung me along for four more years. Eventually met a good guy and got married, but by then my fertility was shot and we couldn't have kids.

Don't waste your time in your 20s on anyone who doesn't know if you are "the one" after a year or so.

This may have saved you from the regret of having kids, which sucks for a lot more than 4 years.