Spin Off - Do a Kids’ Parents Political Views Impact You Allowing A Friendship?

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

So close minded. Way to raise your kids in a vacuum. Exposure to a diversity of views is good for all of us.

I’m UNAPOLOGETICALLY not open minded about a racist, sexist, rapist POS. My children live in the real world, watch the news, and read newspapers and books, so they have been exposed to a “diversity of views” their entire lives. They also live in Washington, DC so they’ve had front row seats to 4 years of the s-show also known as the Trump administration.

We will not welcome those who hold these abhorrent views into our personal lives. However, you’re free to do so.

Oh boy. Good luck to your children who have to live in this country and deal with people of all persuasions, as we all do. You are not preparing them well for this world.

I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them. I work with one Trump supporter that has no idea I find him detestable. I don’t live where I work, so I have no problem keeping our professional relationship cordial and at an acceptable distance. My children are able to do the same.

Good luck to your children because mine are doing great!

Trust me, your colleague knows. You clearly are incapable of hiding your feelings.

I say hello/goodbye, and we have cordial, but very brief chats (I keep my distance so these chats are fairly rare). I would never have a discussion about politics with him (however, I’ve overheard him sharing his political viewpoints).

If he knows that I dislike him, then good. I think he’s a toad of a human being.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

Wow. You're a horrible person.

- not a Trump supporter

Unfortunately, you are a Trump supporter. If you think being closed to the idea of befriending those who support a racist and sexist rapist makes me a bad person, then you just told on yourself. Your projection is a confession.

DP. Unfortunately? What does that mean? We are free to support whoever we want in this democracy of ours. What are you going to do when Trump wins this election in two weeks time? Are you prepared to emigrate? Because if not, you will have some serious adjusting to do and you do not seem at all ready for it my dear.

I regard Trump supporters as unfortunate. Do you struggle with reading comprehension? Where did I say that you or others aren’t free to support whatever POS you want in this democracy. Btw, if Trump wins, it won’t be a democracy for long.

If the racist, sexist rapist wins, I’ll do the same things I did the last time he was in office. My ancestors helped build this country, so I’m not going to be run off by Trump, a child of an immigrant who hates **certain immigrants**. I will continue to live and thrive in the Nation’s Capital, as I’ve always done.
However, I will never befriend a Trump supporter.

You are the intolerant one, you do know that right?

Yes, I’m proudly intolerant of a racist, sexist, raping bigot. You sound like you are a trump supporter, so I wouldn’t tolerate you either.

[Anonymous]

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

What on earth? Many African Americans support Trump. Many LGBTQ support Trump. You really do love in a bubble.

There are words to describe those people: ignorant and self-hating come to mind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!

If you support trump, you are indeed my enemy and I will treat you as such.

Thats exactly how I feel about Liberals. I avoid them like the plague.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is mind-blowing.

You are no different than a racist parent 75 years ago not letting their kid play with a black child from school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!

To be clear, are you saying that in your opinion people should embrace those who openly tell you they are racist? Sexist? OK with rapists in power? Or do you disagree that these are correct descriptions of Trump?

And you don’t think that people can support a presidential candidate for reasons completely unrelated to those things? Like maybe they prefer his substantive policies? Should they vote for someone whose politics are completely different than their own just because some Liberals have tried to brand Trump a sexist and a racist (which he is not)?

If you support trump you’re too accepting of racism, sexism and rape. F your bs support of the “substantive policies” of a lying convicted felon who is trying to avoid prison.

If you support trump, and your child tries to befriend mine, that relationship is DOA. I will also have nothing but frosty side-eyes for you. If you try to approach me about said thwarted friendship, you’ll regret doing so.

[Anonymous]

My kids and I have friends on all lengths of the political spectrum. We work to make sure they know how to think through difficult topics, question sources, have discussions, listen and think before reacting, and be civil when controversial topics arise.

We teach them it is Ok to say "I don't know" or "I was wrong." And it's OK, in fact vital, to do some more researching and thinking and maybe even change your mind. Being a citizen of this country is hard work sometimes, and it requires us to teach some skills.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread and you posters are horrible. I mean, if we are at a point where you believe that children of the Republican candidate are so evil that they cannot play with your children, you are the narrow minded one and playing an essential role in the demise of our democracy. It’s horrendous to me the vitriol on both sides; respectful disagreement is the only reason democracy will actually survive and being friends and sociable with people with other viewpoints without demonizing them is essential to being able to forge a compromise. Our system of government is predicated on compromise. One of the things I absolutely love about my child’s private school is that diversity of viewpoints is encouraged and valued and it’s truly a community of actually differing opinions. I think it makes for a wonderful academic experiences for my child and one of the reasons why GDS (and Sidwell to a lesser extend) sort of turn me off. And I am a democrat. With lots of republican friends!

It is not about being a republican. It is about supporting Trump and Trumpism. Would you let your kids associated with Confederates or Nazis?

Well, the Confederacy existed 175 years ago. Are you asking me to engage in a historical thought exercise? And comparing Trump to Nazis is as insult to the millions who died in WWII, including my relatives, and I take deep offense at your casual and dangerous rhetoric.

Trump is a modern day Hitler. If you support trump AND had relatives who died at Hitler’s hands, then shame on you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a raging liberal and work for the Democratic Party and I would not deny my children friendships over their parent's political party. Many children grow up having alternate views of their parents and that's because of their friendships. See: Claudia Conway

Good, that works for you. I’m not taking any chances. I don’t want KellyAnn “the Crypt Keeper” Conway’s daughters anywhere near mine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!

If you support trump, you are indeed my enemy and I will treat you as such.

Thats exactly how I feel about Liberals. I avoid them like the plague.

Good! May we and our children never share the same spaces. Amen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is mind-blowing.

You are no different than a racist parent 75 years ago not letting their kid play with a black child from school.

Only members of trump’s cult would type something as stupid and ahistorical as this nonsense—the level of false equivalency is both sad and laughable.

Btw, if you support trump, then you are an actual racist. Reason #1,000 why our children will NEVER be friends.

[Anonymous]

I don't punish kids because of who or what their parents are. I know a couple of Trump supporters. They don't say racist, sexist, or homophobic things and neither do their kids. If their kids did, then I would stop the friendship. That said, I don't know the political beliefs of 75,% of DS' friends' parents. I'm surprised it comes up that often for others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

What on earth? Many African Americans support Trump. Many LGBTQ support Trump. You really do love in a bubble.

There are words to describe those people: ignorant and self-hating come to mind.

Modern day kapos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:This thread and you posters are horrible. I mean, if we are at a point where you believe that children of the Republican candidate are so evil that they cannot play with your children, you are the narrow minded one and playing an essential role in the demise of our democracy. It’s horrendous to me the vitriol on both sides; respectful disagreement is the only reason democracy will actually survive and being friends and sociable with people with other viewpoints without demonizing them is essential to being able to forge a compromise. Our system of government is predicated on compromise. One of the things I absolutely love about my child’s private school is that diversity of viewpoints is encouraged and valued and it’s truly a community of actually differing opinions. I think it makes for a wonderful academic experiences for my child and one of the reasons why GDS (and Sidwell to a lesser extend) sort of turn me off. And I am a democrat. With lots of republican friends!

It is not about being a republican. It is about supporting Trump and Trumpism. Would you let your kids associated with Confederates or Nazis?

Well, the Confederacy existed 175 years ago. Are you asking me to engage in a historical thought exercise? And comparing Trump to Nazis is as insult to the millions who died in WWII, including my relatives, and I take deep offense at your casual and dangerous rhetoric.

Trump himself is an insult to all who died for the US, including the og American Revolution.