Upcoming Wedding of a 22 yo couple

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Anonymous wrote:We will be attending a wedding of a 22 year old couple and it feels like a train wreck. They just graduated from college a couple months ago. They are immature and the parents are religious so they were probably pressured. I feel bad that they won’t have a chance to grow up before making this commitment.

Kids marrying way younger today from UMC families. Good for them. No date that later marriages last longer. I doubt they were pressured if they just left college. They grow up together. Seems like a gift.

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Anonymous wrote:Twenty-two is grown up. It's a real problem in this country that OP and others think 22 years old are not yet adults.

Most young people today live at home until they are in their late 20's -30s. A 22 year old does not have good judgement. If the relationship is meant to be, they should wait a few years and if they are still going strong, go ahead and make it legal.

They do not live at home. Not in the numbers you think. Certainly not most young people. No they should nto wait.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents married really young but built a fantastic life, uncles and aunts on both sides, married in late 30's or early 40's, no one did well, two divorced. Just anecdotes but formed my opinion that, being mature and being of mature age aren't the same.

Kind of irrelevant since OP specifically said they ate NOT mature and also marrying due to family pressure and religious expectations.

OP knows none of that. She is making it up.

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I am 34. A solid third of the couples I know from college who got married right after graduation due to parental pressure or religious reasons are now divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:If they are a good match otherwise, with family and community support for their decision they are more likely to succeed then if they were not taken seriously or believed to “just” be doing it due to religious reasons. Plenty of marriages fail even when begun at 30 or 50!

Sure - but they are both still children at age 22.

The adult brain does not form until age 25, which is why it’s such a horrible ideal to let these 2 children get “married.”

Do they drive? Do they live away for college? Did they go for semester abroad? Do they drink? Do they have sex? Do they have a college degree? If yes then they sure can

They would not be allowed to.

Under age 25 = still a juvenile.

Yet a quarter of our military is under 25. We need to make up our minds.

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I got married at age 24, still married 16 years later

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I got married at 22.
Both families supported the marriage and we just celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary.
Also, we were all the things you are concerned about: clueless, immature, “pressured” to not have sex until marriage due to religious upbringing. It works for some and not for others. For us, it worked out and we are very happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 34. A solid third of the couples I know from college who got married right after graduation due to parental pressure or religious reasons are now divorced.

That’s pretty good statistic though! That means 66% are still married. And the national divorce rate is 50%.
So I guess the conclusion is that people who get married right after college are more likely to stay married, right?

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Anonymous wrote:It should be illegal to get married that young.

People are still juveniles until they reach age 26

Their body their choice though, right?

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Anonymous wrote:We will be attending a wedding of a 22 year old couple and it feels like a train wreck. They just graduated from college a couple months ago. They are immature and the parents are religious so they were probably pressured. I feel bad that they won’t have a chance to grow up before making this commitment.

Kids marrying way younger today from UMC families. Good for them. No date that later marriages last longer. I doubt they were pressured if they just left college. They grow up together. Seems like a gift.

Wish I'd met DH sooner and had kids even sooner than I did. Would love to be as young as possible as a grandmother to help future grandkids. There's nothing I did when I was single that was as meaningful as raising my own family.

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Getting married at 22 is inappropriate because people lack the requisite maturity and experience at that young age.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 34. A solid third of the couples I know from college who got married right after graduation due to parental pressure or religious reasons are now divorced.

That’s pretty good statistic though! That means 66% are still married. And the national divorce rate is 50%.
So I guess the conclusion is that people who get married right after college are more likely to stay married, right?

Well, poster is only 34. Though I agree - I think divorce typically happens under 10 years into marriage, and this would be past the 10 year mark. Definitely something to think about

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Anonymous wrote:It should be illegal to get married that young.

People are still juveniles until they reach age 26

Their body their choice though, right?

People are find with them hooking up with strangers every night and find it safe.

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Is there a question here or are you just a jerk?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 34. A solid third of the couples I know from college who got married right after graduation due to parental pressure or religious reasons are now divorced.

And how many couples is that, exactly? I’m 41 and a solid zero percent of the couples I know got married due to parental pressure or for religious reasons, regardless of their age at marriage.