Can someone explain why some moms/parents

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Anonymous wrote:Because snack culture is out of control, and my kids don’t eat snacks at after-school activities due to allergies.

Kids really will live without stuffing Goldfish into their faces every five seconds.


“Every five seconds” or.. you know once between the hours of 12:30 and 5.
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That story doesn't make sense because the idea of a classroom with an "unlimited snacks" policy, where the snacks are Doritos is insane. And if that kid is eating 3 bags of chips daily at school, then by your logic, wouldn't they eventually STOP eating those chips because now they have access to them? Or at least moderate. But they don't, do they? Perhaps that kid is the sort who will never be content with occasional junk food, and binges on it as long as it's available.


My kid gets occasional junk food at home and if she was offered unlimited junk food at school, would gorge on it daily. Junk food is designed specifically to make people do that.

What if, crazy idea I know, we didn't offer Doritos (which have absolutely no nutritional value) as a snack at school?


No it just sounds like your kid is hungry. May have a bigger appetite but isn't getting enough food because it sounds like you are controlling and tell them how much they need. They aren't binging just because it's there. They're either hungry or doing it because of they want what they can't have. That was the PPs point that was completely missed.
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So, some SAHM moms might skip signing up for snack duty at school events 'cause life gets pretty busy, you know? Between running errands, juggling schedules, and all the other mom stuff, it's easy to forget or feel swamped. Plus, maybe they're not too keen on the snack options or have other ways they'd rather pitch in. It's not always about control—just different priorities and situations for different folks
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That story doesn't make sense because the idea of a classroom with an "unlimited snacks" policy, where the snacks are Doritos is insane. And if that kid is eating 3 bags of chips daily at school, then by your logic, wouldn't they eventually STOP eating those chips because now they have access to them? Or at least moderate. But they don't, do they? Perhaps that kid is the sort who will never be content with occasional junk food, and binges on it as long as it's available.


My kid gets occasional junk food at home and if she was offered unlimited junk food at school, would gorge on it daily. Junk food is designed specifically to make people do that.

What if, crazy idea I know, we didn't offer Doritos (which have absolutely no nutritional value) as a snack at school?


No it just sounds like your kid is hungry. May have a bigger appetite but isn't getting enough food because it sounds like you are controlling and tell them how much they need. They aren't binging just because it's there. They're either hungry or doing it because of they want what they can't have. That was the PPs point that was completely missed.


It's weird how some of you equate the availability of junk food with the availability of food generally.

The snacks I serve my kids are mostly not allowed on "snack duty." Fresh fruit is not permitted because it will go bad, plus is generally not individually packaged the way they need it to be. Cheese and yogurt are nos because they must be refrigerated. Nuts and anything nut related are allergens. Granola is okay but you have to find a way to individually package it. Dense whole grain bread is not a crowd pleaser and is also hard to package.

I hate the prepackaged snacks. Not only are most of them just empty, useless junk that will in no way satiate a kid's hunger or give them energy, they are also usually packaged in a way to maximize how much garbage they produce. My kid doesn't really benefit from a little pack of pretzels or goldfish. It doesn't fill their stomach, it doesn't help them focus. I am happy to pack them a snack, but I don't want to buy a bunch of Pirate's Booty for the class -- I don't think that serves any purpose.

If the school or an activity thinks it's really important for kids to have access to chips and crackers and juice, they are welcome to solicit financial contributions and even though I don't really agree with this goal, I will be a team player and give money. But I'm not going to go buy a bunch of garbage just so we can all collectively pretend like we are caring for kids by making sure they have some processed trash between lunch and dinner.
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Anonymous wrote:do not sign up to send in snacks and drinks to school events related to an after school activity?

Is it a control thing? These are wealthy sahm moms too. The signups are created by the teachers running the programs.


Cheap and lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Because I don't want to. I'd rather give money at the start of the year once, and have them use that to get snacks.


$5.00 does buy very much,!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:do not sign up to send in snacks and drinks to school events related to an after school activity?

Is it a control thing? These are wealthy sahm moms too. The signups are created by the teachers running the programs.


Because they’re disorganized and they forget about the sign up genius.

I remember often and sometimes forget.
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Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.


+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.


No, they learn to eat good food when they’re hungry, not mindlessly stuff their faces with corn like a farm animal because someone has put a bag in front of them. It’s really disgusting if you think about it for more than a minute.


My kid's 4th grade class has an "unlimited snacks" policy, allowing kids to snack at any time in class, and they ask parents to bring in class snacks multiple times per month. Her friend who is restricted from junk at home regularly eats 3 bags of chips per day in class. My kid who is allowed Doritos and things on occasion doesn't even care for the snacks because she's not hungry in between her meals. It is always the kids who are restricted who eat the most junk when they get access.


My kid gets lots of treats at home, we eat ice cream and homemade cake and cookies and other “junk” food. She has a serious allergy so she’s limited in that respect.

But we don’t eat salted GMO corn out of bag because we’re not farm animals.
Anonymous
Because all of my son’s baseball games end at 6:30 or 7:30pm and kids should go home and eat dinner - not sugary drinks and chips.
Anonymous
Honestly, I just get too many requests from the schools and I need to prioritize their importance. Please, for the love of God, just charge me an activity fee at the beginning of the year that will cover all class parties, snacks, etc.
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Anonymous wrote:Because I don't want to. I'd rather give money at the start of the year once, and have them use that to get snacks.

This. It would be so much more efficient to do things this way!!


Who is the "them" that you are volunteering to do this? You are basically saying I want somewhat else to spend time collecting money, shopping, transporting each time. You are not willing to do it even once.
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Why don’t you wonder why the dads don’t sign up? They are presumably just as wealthy as their wives?


+1000


Plus - enough already! Kids don't need all these snacks!!!
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Anonymous wrote:Because I don't want to. I'd rather give money at the start of the year once, and have them use that to get snacks.

This. It would be so much more efficient to do things this way!!


Who is the "them" that you are volunteering to do this? You are basically saying I want somewhat else to spend time collecting money, shopping, transporting each time. You are not willing to do it even once.


How about the people who think snacks at these activities are so deeply important? Some of us are fine with our kids not getting after school snacks from an activity -- I pack my kid a healthy, filling lunch and put a healthy snack (usually fruit) in the pocket of her backpack every day. I view my parenting duty to make sure she doesn't go hungry fulfilled.

Some of you obviously feel it is essential for kids to get chips and pretzels and Gatorade and what have you at after-school activities. That is not important to me and I'm not going to sign up to provide these things to your kid. You can either provide them on an individual basis yourself, or if you think it's so important all kids get them, you can organize to collect funds and buy them yourself.

Stop trying to outsource your image of what childhood is supposed to look like to other parents who don't have these same priorities.
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Why don’t you wonder why the dads don’t sign up? They are presumably just as wealthy as their wives?


+1000


Plus - enough already! Kids don't need all these snacks!!!


Agreed. It is hilarious to me that people are willing to die on this hill. This is just pointless make-work that some of you has decided is an indication of whether or not you are a good mom and, and those of us opting out are onto the ruse.
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Anonymous wrote:We can’t afford to. And my work hours don’t line up with all the daytime pta volunteer stuff. We don’t all work from home.


The time it takes you to post here can be used to plan ahead for your child and his/her classroom.


AYFKM?

Go have some goldfish. You’re punchy.
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