Girlfriend wants to quit her job

[Anonymous]

Best case scenario.

You don't want to be supporting a freeloader who only sees you as an ATM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We broke up and she is moving out this weekend.

Wow. That was fast.

Hope you're doing ok.
I think splitting up is the right thing to do, for what that's worth.
All her excuses and arguments do not make sense (speaking as someone who works in the medical field and has lots of medical knowledge).

OP here. We talked last night and I told her I was willing to support her financially while she transitioned to a home job, but that I don’t feel comfortable being the only one working. She got upset and this morning she told me the relationship isn’t working for her and that we need to take a break. This afternoon she texted me that she thinks a permanent end to our relationship is best and she will stay with family until she can pick up her things this weekend.

She is putting the pressure on to see if you renege.

I guess the question for you is, since you stated that you make good income, is it important to you that she contributes income-wise? Assuming she never brings home reasonable income, is that a deal-breaker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girlfriend? Her.

You said + did the right thing here OP.
She isn’t even your wife so she should not get any special privileges!

As an adult, living away from her parents she should at the very least work to support herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We broke up and she is moving out this weekend.

Wow. That was fast.

Hope you're doing ok.
I think splitting up is the right thing to do, for what that's worth.
All her excuses and arguments do not make sense (speaking as someone who works in the medical field and has lots of medical knowledge).

OP here. We talked last night and I told her I was willing to support her financially while she transitioned to a home job, but that I don’t feel comfortable being the only one working. She got upset and this morning she told me the relationship isn’t working for her and that we need to take a break. This afternoon she texted me that she thinks a permanent end to our relationship is best and she will stay with family until she can pick up her things this weekend.

She is putting the pressure on to see if you renege.

I guess the question for you is, since you stated that you make good income, is it important to you that she contributes income-wise? Assuming she never brings home reasonable income, is that a deal-breaker?

Are you actually encouraging OP to get a "stay at home girlfriend"? Wtf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see not wanting to be with a man who doesn’t support you emotionally. But to say you won’t be with one who won’t support you financially is ridiculous.
- woman

I am sure OP hurt his girlfriend’s feelings. I’m not sure how much pain she was in but I would want a more supportive significant other. I was already married at age 30 though and had 2 kids by age 35.

OP already stated he doesn’t want to support her financially. I’m a sahm now of 3 kids. I am 100% certain Dh would not have been attracted to me and certainly would not have married me if I wanted to not work before we were even engaged. He is fine with me staying home with our 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

Guys, OP, I think this is one of the best DCUM threads ever.

OP, time to deal with the relationship ending which objectively really sucks. I’m sorry.

But……winner winner winner OP!!!! You dodged a nuclear bomb my man!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We broke up and she is moving out this weekend.

Wow. That was fast.

Hope you're doing ok.
I think splitting up is the right thing to do, for what that's worth.
All her excuses and arguments do not make sense (speaking as someone who works in the medical field and has lots of medical knowledge).

OP here. We talked last night and I told her I was willing to support her financially while she transitioned to a home job, but that I don’t feel comfortable being the only one working. She got upset and this morning she told me the relationship isn’t working for her and that we need to take a break. This afternoon she texted me that she thinks a permanent end to our relationship is best and she will stay with family until she can pick up her things this weekend.

She is putting the pressure on to see if you renege.

I guess the question for you is, since you stated that you make good income, is it important to you that she contributes income-wise? Assuming she never brings home reasonable income, is that a deal-breaker?

Are you actually encouraging OP to get a "stay at home girlfriend"? Wtf

I’m not. As a working married woman w kids, I find the GF offensive. But OP never wants to have kids. He can have a great lifestyle on a lot less income than us w kids. Just asking why it is important to him that she works.

[Anonymous]

This was the best outcome for you, OP. She was never planning to go back to work and the fact that she volunteered to move out makes things easier for you.

[Anonymous]

Wow, did DCUM significantly change OP's life? Hope we just encouraged you to do what you already wanted to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, the original poster buried the lead. She has chronic pain issues stemming from an injury. That may be what she’s referring to when she said she needs a break. Speaking of someone who was once in a similar position, taking a few months to give my body a break was very helpful. I went to physical therapy, etc. That might be what she’s talking about. For example, if it’s a wrist injury or a back or neck injury, it could be hard for her to sit at a desk or computer all day long.

It is of course ridiculous usually not to work or be in school in the situation. But it sounds like she might be struggling with the health issue and that changes the analysis.

OP here. She was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease in her neck and nerve entrapment. She also has lower back issues from the same issue in her spine.

She goes to therapy herself and gets steroids shots.

She’s a physical therapist.

She needs a break. Huge and fat people come in like me. Also men come in for therapy. She has to be able to lift people, flip them etc. that’s demanding when you have ailments of your own. Sounds like you don’t want her anymore now that she’s injured.

[Anonymous]

She broke up with you via text and you live together?
Why does that make me feel so damn old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was the best outcome for you, OP. She was never planning to go back to work and the fact that she volunteered to move out makes things easier for you.

Exactly. What you proposed was reasonable. She wants to be a stay-at-home girlfriend/wife. She's not for you.

[Anonymous]

Shes a freeloading bum

[Anonymous]

Stand firm, OP. She is like PP said “applying the pressure” but you were perfectly reasonable. You dodged a bullet having this happen before marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was the best outcome for you, OP. She was never planning to go back to work and the fact that she volunteered to move out makes things easier for you.

OR he lost love of his life because forum made him skeptical and suspicious of a standard career crisis of a partner he wanted to spend his life with.