Girlfriend wants to quit her job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's going on with her, she doesn't want to work, doesn't want to go back to school, doesn't want to stay with you if you don't agree. Is she depressed?

OP here. She isn’t depressed. She deals with some chronic pain issues stemming from am injury. She likes her career but it is a demanding job. She wanted to advance her degree and has decided it’s too much for her. I think she should get a less labor intensive job.

How long since you've known her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems a lot like LW2 of Ask Amy today:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/04/02/ask-amy-close-kids-husband-annoyed/

OP here. My girlfriend name isn’t Amy.

Um… never suggested she was. Did you actually click on the link? And scroll down to the second letter writer…???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you both?


Is this your first serious relationship?

OP here. She’s 30 and I’m 35. We have both been in multiple serious relationship before we started dating.

[Anonymous]

Well if she is not a leech, she's probably pretty bummed that she didn't make the school thing work, and now she feels like you're kinda kicking her while she's down. If you think your relationship is worth saving just be outwardly supportive, see if she comes up with a plan, but yeah don't get married if she doesn't figure out being an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems a lot like LW2 of Ask Amy today:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/04/02/ask-amy-close-kids-husband-annoyed/

OP here. My girlfriend name isn’t Amy.

Um… never suggested she was. Did you actually click on the link? And scroll down to the second letter writer…???

OP here. No. I don’t know what you’re talking about and I don’t click on random links.

[Anonymous]

Guys, the original poster buried the lead. She has chronic pain issues stemming from an injury. That may be what she’s referring to when she said she needs a break. Speaking of someone who was once in a similar position, taking a few months to give my body a break was very helpful. I went to physical therapy, etc. That might be what she’s talking about. For example, if it’s a wrist injury or a back or neck injury, it could be hard for her to sit at a desk or computer all day long.

It is of course ridiculous usually not to work or be in school in the situation. But it sounds like she might be struggling with the health issue and that changes the analysis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's going on with her, she doesn't want to work, doesn't want to go back to school, doesn't want to stay with you if you don't agree. Is she depressed?

OP here. She isn’t depressed. She deals with some chronic pain issues stemming from am injury. She likes her career but it is a demanding job. She wanted to advance her degree and has decided it’s too much for her. I think she should get a less labor intensive job.

How long since you've known her?

OP here. We have been together for 2 years. We met in early 2022.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, the original poster buried the lead. She has chronic pain issues stemming from an injury. That may be what she’s referring to when she said she needs a break. Speaking of someone who was once in a similar position, taking a few months to give my body a break was very helpful. I went to physical therapy, etc. That might be what she’s talking about. For example, if it’s a wrist injury or a back or neck injury, it could be hard for her to sit at a desk or computer all day long.

It is of course ridiculous usually not to work or be in school in the situation. But it sounds like she might be struggling with the health issue and that changes the analysis.

OP here. My girlfriend is a physical therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, the original poster buried the lead. She has chronic pain issues stemming from an injury. That may be what she’s referring to when she said she needs a break. Speaking of someone who was once in a similar position, taking a few months to give my body a break was very helpful. I went to physical therapy, etc. That might be what she’s talking about. For example, if it’s a wrist injury or a back or neck injury, it could be hard for her to sit at a desk or computer all day long.

It is of course ridiculous usually not to work or be in school in the situation. But it sounds like she might be struggling with the health issue and that changes the analysis.

Typo towards the end. What I meant to say was that in most situations, it will be ridiculous for childless 30 something to not work or be in school. But it sounds like she is struggling with a health issue and may want to take some time to recover and deal with that, if so, the original poster may not be very sympathetic. Personally, I think he should be more sympathetic towards that situation. But if he doesn’t want to be, maybe he’s kind of a jerk, and she is better off without him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, the original poster buried the lead. She has chronic pain issues stemming from an injury. That may be what she’s referring to when she said she needs a break. Speaking of someone who was once in a similar position, taking a few months to give my body a break was very helpful. I went to physical therapy, etc. That might be what she’s talking about. For example, if it’s a wrist injury or a back or neck injury, it could be hard for her to sit at a desk or computer all day long.

It is of course ridiculous usually not to work or be in school in the situation. But it sounds like she might be struggling with the health issue and that changes the analysis.

OP here. She was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease in her neck and nerve entrapment. She also has lower back issues from the same issue in her spine.

She goes to therapy herself and gets steroids shots.

She’s a physical therapist.

[Anonymous]

What does she plan to do all day?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I know she deals with issues and pain but so do I. I can’t just quit my job because of pain.

I worry because her mom never worked. Even after her kids were in school and older, she never held a job. Multiple times her dad went through layoffs and she never got a job. Her mom is incredibly lazy ( her dad’s words) and I don’t want that for my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does she plan to do all day?

OP here. She said she needs to just relax and rest. Focus on her body and getting that in order. She wants to do a 60-90 day juice fast to see if that can help her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she plan to do all day?

OP here. She said she needs to just relax and rest. Focus on her body and getting that in order. She wants to do a 60-90 day juice fast to see if that can help her.

Run away, run away, run away and save your life

Hope you guys aren’t considered common law spouses already…

Wear a condom every time

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to work either but I have bills to pay.
If she’s really disabled she can get social security. But she doesn’t have to now because you are supporting her. On behalf of taxpayers everywhere I salute you OP.