Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To whom it may concern:
Please shut-up with the “it can happen anywhere” garbage. What has been happening at Gilman, happens only where school administration chooses to allow rumors of abuse/rape to go unreported to the police department. Schools have a LEGAL obligation to report POSSIBLE abuse of students. It’s NOT the school’s job to determine if a rumor has merit or not.

Gilman does not have trained investigators on its payroll. Gilman should have reported to police the FIRST rumor of their students getting alcohol from a teacher. They broke the law right there. Of course no one will be held accountable for their silence.

Who cares that the perpetrator was a former student, or that his father is well liked in the community? Apparently, administrators cared a lot about protecting the ongoing sexual abuse of its students. Someone (besides the rapist teacher) MUST be held accountable for this atrocity perpetrated on these young boys. Victims of sexual abuse typically need years and years of very high quality therapy. The police are begging other victims to please come forward. We all know, however, that most victims choose not to speak of their abuse. It’s just to painful and not worth the ordeal of going public with this sort of thing. May God give them strength. My heart breaks for what they endured.

There were not previous rumors of abuse/rape.

That you know of - the point is the school may have known or suspected inappropriate conduct at the very least with the drinking and close relationships. Enough to put a stop to it.

Exactly. Why would anyone admit to knowing about rumors of “beloved” teacher criminal activities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To whom it may concern:
Please shut-up with the “it can happen anywhere” garbage. What has been happening at Gilman, happens only where school administration chooses to allow rumors of abuse/rape to go unreported to the police department. Schools have a LEGAL obligation to report POSSIBLE abuse of students. It’s NOT the school’s job to determine if a rumor has merit or not.

Gilman does not have trained investigators on its payroll. Gilman should have reported to police the FIRST rumor of their students getting alcohol from a teacher. They broke the law right there. Of course no one will be held accountable for their silence.

Who cares that the perpetrator was a former student, or that his father is well liked in the community? Apparently, administrators cared a lot about protecting the ongoing sexual abuse of its students. Someone (besides the rapist teacher) MUST be held accountable for this atrocity perpetrated on these young boys. Victims of sexual abuse typically need years and years of very high quality therapy. The police are begging other victims to please come forward. We all know, however, that most victims choose not to speak of their abuse. It’s just to painful and not worth the ordeal of going public with this sort of thing. May God give them strength. My heart breaks for what they endured.

There were not previous rumors of abuse/rape.

That you know of - the point is the school may have known or suspected inappropriate conduct at the very least with the drinking and close relationships. Enough to put a stop to it.

I would know as I have a child in the upper school, and like many in the community, know far more than has been reported. What your suggesting is not how it became known.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To whom it may concern:
Please shut-up with the “it can happen anywhere” garbage. What has been happening at Gilman, happens only where school administration chooses to allow rumors of abuse/rape to go unreported to the police department. Schools have a LEGAL obligation to report POSSIBLE abuse of students. It’s NOT the school’s job to determine if a rumor has merit or not.

Gilman does not have trained investigators on its payroll. Gilman should have reported to police the FIRST rumor of their students getting alcohol from a teacher. They broke the law right there. Of course no one will be held accountable for their silence.

Who cares that the perpetrator was a former student, or that his father is well liked in the community? Apparently, administrators cared a lot about protecting the ongoing sexual abuse of its students. Someone (besides the rapist teacher) MUST be held accountable for this atrocity perpetrated on these young boys. Victims of sexual abuse typically need years and years of very high quality therapy. The police are begging other victims to please come forward. We all know, however, that most victims choose not to speak of their abuse. It’s just to painful and not worth the ordeal of going public with this sort of thing. May God give them strength. My heart breaks for what they endured.

There were not previous rumors of abuse/rape.

What prompted Gilman to finally fire him?

This is for 16:21. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This can happen anywhere. This guy had no criminal background, I knew him, friendliest nicest man you’ll ever meet. We hire babysitters and house sitters from our kids schools all the time. The answer here is educate all parents and kids about being able to come to their parents and counselors about anything without being afraid or embarrassed. And to teach kids to advocate for themselves and not be afraid to speak out and speak up. You’re not going to stop pedophiles from getting jobs at schools, this guy had no criminal background at all.

No one should be allowed to hire teachers to spend one on one time with their kids out of school. It’s just good risk management.

+1. Parents should be told that they cannot offer teachers/staff work outside of school and teachers should be told they cannot accept an offer if the parent violates the rule. Violate the the rule and both the teacher and family has to leave the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This can happen anywhere. This guy had no criminal background, I knew him, friendliest nicest man you’ll ever meet. We hire babysitters and house sitters from our kids schools all the time. The answer here is educate all parents and kids about being able to come to their parents and counselors about anything without being afraid or embarrassed. And to teach kids to advocate for themselves and not be afraid to speak out and speak up. You’re not going to stop pedophiles from getting jobs at schools, this guy had no criminal background at all.

No one should be allowed to hire teachers to spend one on one time with their kids out of school. It’s just good risk management.

+1. Parents should be told that they cannot offer teachers/staff work outside of school and teachers should be told they cannot accept an offer if the parent violates the rule. Violate the the rule and both the teacher and family has to leave the school.

This. I work at a public school and this is our school system’s policy! Not sure why it’s allowed in private schools though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To whom it may concern:
Please shut-up with the “it can happen anywhere” garbage. What has been happening at Gilman, happens only where school administration chooses to allow rumors of abuse/rape to go unreported to the police department. Schools have a LEGAL obligation to report POSSIBLE abuse of students. It’s NOT the school’s job to determine if a rumor has merit or not.

Gilman does not have trained investigators on its payroll. Gilman should have reported to police the FIRST rumor of their students getting alcohol from a teacher. They broke the law right there. Of course no one will be held accountable for their silence.

Who cares that the perpetrator was a former student, or that his father is well liked in the community? Apparently, administrators cared a lot about protecting the ongoing sexual abuse of its students. Someone (besides the rapist teacher) MUST be held accountable for this atrocity perpetrated on these young boys. Victims of sexual abuse typically need years and years of very high quality therapy. The police are begging other victims to please come forward. We all know, however, that most victims choose not to speak of their abuse. It’s just to painful and not worth the ordeal of going public with this sort of thing. May God give them strength. My heart breaks for what they endured.

There were not previous rumors of abuse/rape.

That you know of - the point is the school may have known or suspected inappropriate conduct at the very least with the drinking and close relationships. Enough to put a stop to it.

I would know as I have a child in the upper school, and like many in the community, know far more than has been reported. What your suggesting is not how it became known.

As a parent, what you know now is going to be very different from what you know a few years from now. Do you really think anyone is being honest and open with potential criminal and civil liability hanging over their heads? The criminal investigation and civil discovery are going to take time, but that's when you'll actually know something

[Anonymous]

It’ll be interesting to see how long the father of the rapist teacher is allowed to sit on the school’s board. Some harsh changes must be immediately implemented, and his presence is a hindrance.

[Anonymous]

He was fired within a very short period of time when the alcohol and naked picture info became known to the administration and upper/middle school community generally. Thr school may or may not chose to reveal how that happened, but I am not going to post it on dcum. Prior to that, just the fact that he was single guy and had the after hours side jobs was known.

[Anonymous]

Schools usually don’t fire a child sex predator until the parents of the victim threaten to tell police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’ll be interesting to see how long the father of the rapist teacher is allowed to sit on the school’s board. Some harsh changes must be immediately implemented, and his presence is a hindrance.

Why should the father take responsibility for the heinous actions of his adult 38 year old son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’ll be interesting to see how long the father of the rapist teacher is allowed to sit on the school’s board. Some harsh changes must be immediately implemented, and his presence is a hindrance.

Why should the father take responsibility for the heinous actions of his adult 38 year old son?

I don’t think he is on the board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was fired within a very short period of time when the alcohol and naked picture info became known to the administration and upper/middle school community generally. Thr school may or may not chose to reveal how that happened, but I am not going to post it on dcum. Prior to that, just the fact that he was single guy and had the after hours side jobs was known.

^ Not accurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

“Detectives believe there are more victims [of Christopher Kenji Bendann of Towson, MD] and urge them to come forward.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’ll be interesting to see how long the father of the rapist teacher is allowed to sit on the school’s board. Some harsh changes must be immediately implemented, and his presence is a hindrance.

Why should the father take responsibility for the heinous actions of his adult 38 year old son?

I don’t think he is on the board.

Of course you don’t think the father of a rapist is on the school board. Lol. Are you trying to say he just got fired?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’ll be interesting to see how long the father of the rapist teacher is allowed to sit on the school’s board. Some harsh changes must be immediately implemented, and his presence is a hindrance.

Why should the father take responsibility for the heinous actions of his adult 38 year old son?

I don’t think he is on the board.

Of course you don’t think the father of a rapist is on the school board. Lol. Are you trying to say he just got fired?

I am saying there is a list of board members on the school’s website and he is not listed as a board member. He may have been in the past. All board members cycle off after 4 years.