What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?

[Anonymous]

That being a Kindergarten teacher is SOOOO much more than "playing with kids all day." That I don't get paid in the summer. That I don't have three months off.

[Anonymous]

That I literally could not breastfeed. I would have given all my savings to have been able to do so. People ask and ask and some even quote me statistics about how rare it is to not be able to. I once had an intoxicated woman interrogate my husband about it on a plane.

It’s already so guilt inducing, believing your kids will have lower iq’s and higher cancer chances.

[Anonymous]

That just because a person is Asian does not mean that that person is an immigrant. There are many, many Asian Americans who were born and raised in the US. Please do not ask Asian-looking people "Where are you from?' with the assumption that they are from Asia. They could be from New Jersey or Oregon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

I believe the opposite of this now that I've married into money.

Some of my ILs are the dumbest MFs around but are super successful because of name recognition and family money.

[Anonymous]

It's OK to call me Black or even black.

I am not African American. My ancestors are from Jamaica and Haiti. And yes, I've done the DNA test kits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's OK to call me Black or even black.

I am not African American. My ancestors are from Jamaica and Haiti. And yes, I've done the DNA test kits.

Thank you. A black person snapped at me once for using the term “black” and I said exactly this. I don’t know anyone’s DNA and Africa isn’t the only place with highly melanated people. I felt damned if I did and damned if I didn’t in her eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

I believe the opposite of this now that I've married into money.

Some of my ILs are the dumbest MFs around but are super successful because of name recognition and family money.

+1

[Anonymous]

That keyboarding is not a substitute for handwriting.

[Anonymous]

^^^ That is to say, that keyboarding is not a substitute for writing by hand.

[Anonymous]

My anxiety

[Anonymous]

What "emo" used to mean in the context of music.

[Anonymous]

We will never ever know if your DD/DS can get in to ____________ College with that data.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

I believe the opposite of this now that I've married into money.

Some of my ILs are the dumbest MFs around but are super successful because of name recognition and family money.

Is you MIL Paris Hilton?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

I believe the opposite of this now that I've married into money.

Some of my ILs are the dumbest MFs around but are super successful because of name recognition and family money.

This is how I felt when I attended a really elite law school program after attending my big state flagship for undergrad. I thought “oh, the quality of students is going to be much better on average.” Nope. But the pedigrees were higher, and people were much more lined up for professional success in terms of industry contacts and having the right sorts of internships or degrees from elite private schools (HS and college, law school is when I discovered that certain HSs actually opened doors for people in adulthood, I’d had no idea).

SES is centrally important for success, but inborn intelligence is not. I know brilliant people who have had middling careers due to lacking the background and understanding of the social landscape at the top of their profession. And I know many mediocre minds who are successful by any measure because they were enabled to live up to their full potential at every turn. SES is way more valuable than natural talent or intelligence.

[Anonymous]

In caramel, the middle a is pronounced.