What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That not ALL people born in the deep south are racist and stupid.

I was born and raised in one of those states. I'm frequently in the position of being told an offensive joke, or my new favorite "I would never let my kid go to 'x' college" because of it's location. When this occurs, I like to remind them that no population is 100% homogeneous, that I'm from the place they are denigrating, and up until 5 seconds ago, they had a very high opinion of me.

Loving my life in the deep south, sending my kids to public schools that have better test scores than our MoCo schools.

[Anonymous]

Why it's not okay to let our dogs off leash when walking them in a public place (my husband loves to do this in the woods). T

Telling strangers who let their small children approach my dogs to pet them that it's not usually a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Nope. Your negative breastfeeding experience is your negative experience with breastfeeding. Yes, it sucked for you and glad you made the best of it and glad your kid did well with formula.

But, breastmilk is superior than formula for normal healthy babies. You are the exception that proves the rule.

What you are arguing is akin to saying that divorced families are the same as intact families for kids. No. All functional and intact families are better than any kind of dysfunctional or broken family. See the difference? Yes, divorced parents may be better than living in an intact family with an alcoholic or abusive parent, but that is the backup plan when a happy, functional and intact family is not the reality.

Breastmilk is optimum but if it is not fated for you or your child then you make do with formula and go on and live your life. Every kid does not get breastmilk and every kid does not even get a mother who can or want to nurse - life is unfair.

You are being very obtuse and I don't understand whether you think it's ok to be so smug, or what. I know moms who think it's ok to let their baby cry with hunger because they can't latch or get enough breast milk. I have a friend who fed her child nothing but breast milk from the breast until the kid was 12 months old. Have you never read or heard anyone talk about how guilt inducing it is to struggle to nurse? These things occur because the "breast is best movement" has gone too far. Are you the one who called my personal situation a " failure" before the forum went down? And now you're saying my child is in an " unfair " situation. Gee what has given you the superiority complex to say such things to a fellow mom? I know... you've been brainwashed into believing that breast feeding is best NO MATTER WHAT, and anyone who doesn't in inferior. That's a problem. You're the problem.

[Anonymous]

I am a CrNA which is different than a CNA. Not more important, we are a healthcare team and everyone is critical, however it IS different. I’ve had people at parties ask me if the nurses just make me whip asses all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why gastric bypass surgery is the best option for anyone 100 lbs overweight

Can you explain this to me? A fat person, I have an appointment with a new PCP in a couple weeks and I’m going to be asking for a semaglutide medication. Why would surgery be a better option? I see people who have had the surgery having to live lives that frankly I don’t want to live.

[Anonymous]

That letting your DH have a monthly date with an escort contributes to a healthy and effective marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That letting your DH have a monthly date with an escort contributes to a healthy and effective marriage.

I'm tired of having to explain to women that men aren't all trash and that it's also okay to be alone. There is no reason to put up with nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That not ALL people born in the deep south are racist and stupid.

I was born and raised in one of those states. I'm frequently in the position of being told an offensive joke, or my new favorite "I would never let my kid go to 'x' college" because of it's location. When this occurs, I like to remind them that no population is 100% homogeneous, that I'm from the place they are denigrating, and up until 5 seconds ago, they had a very high opinion of me.

Not ALL, but lots........and lots.

I'm from a southern state and saw relatively little racism. What I experienced once I moved to nova was shocking.

NoVa, like many other places in the US, is approximately a generation removed from outright racially discriminatory policies and practices in everyday life. I'm not going to question the environment you were raised in, but I'd urge you to examine whether your experience of integration was due to deliberate choices by the adults in your life or perhaps because you weren't aware of the racial basis/structure of your community in general. This was my experience as I reflected upon my childhood and adolescence in Texas. The adults around us used a "color blind" approach. It was so successful that a good friend of mine moved to a small municipality outside our large one without knowing or realizing that the reason the small municipality existed as a direct counter to integration of the schools in the '60's. We were always told that the people that chose to live here chose it "for the school."

Did you ever wonder why Falls Church City is a city? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_Falls_Church#World_War_II or why there are no public outdoor pools in NoVa? It would be a rare community in the south that had no vestiges of the systemic segregation and racism of the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why gastric bypass surgery is the best option for anyone 100 lbs overweight

Can you explain this to me? A fat person, I have an appointment with a new PCP in a couple weeks and I’m going to be asking for a semaglutide medication. Why would surgery be a better option? I see people who have had the surgery having to live lives that frankly I don’t want to live.

NP Over the last three years, my brother lost a little over 100 pounds Yes, he's a male not a female and I know it's more difficult for a female to lose weight, however, the way he did it, was, he did not start with the goal of losing 100 pounds. His goal was to simply get more physically fit. Started off by exercising more. Then he decided to change his diet. And then the combination of exercising and a modified diet he started to lose some weight. It was after he started to lose some weight that he made very small goals because he really never planned to get back to his former weight from when he was in his 30s. He's almost 60 right now . anyway, every ten to twenty pounds he would just say hey maybe I'll do another ten pounds . and eventually he went from three hundred pounds to two hundred pounds . he's six foot three so he looks actually quite thin at two hundred pounds. anyway . you can do it . I had 30 pounds to lose, and watching my brother lose weight, I joined weight watchers and modified my diet. I had always exercised, but I never dieted. Weight watchers allowed me to eat alot but just modify the way I eat. And I lost 30 pounds. So anyway. Good luck. I hope you don't need to get gastric bypass surgery. But if you do, that's fine too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That letting your DH have a monthly date with an escort contributes to a healthy and effective marriage.

I'm tired of having to explain to women that men aren't all trash and that it's also okay to be alone. There is no reason to put up with nonsense.

+10000

Maybe this is my sign to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That not ALL people born in the deep south are racist and stupid.

I was born and raised in one of those states. I'm frequently in the position of being told an offensive joke, or my new favorite "I would never let my kid go to 'x' college" because of it's location. When this occurs, I like to remind them that no population is 100% homogeneous, that I'm from the place they are denigrating, and up until 5 seconds ago, they had a very high opinion of me.

Loving my life in the deep south, sending my kids to public schools that have better test scores than our MoCo schools.

Yeah the reason I was far superior to my peers at my competitive university is because of an amazing teacher I had in rural/suburban Georgia. (Please don’t judge my writing here, I promise I was good 20 years ago).

But the reason I don’t want to send my kid to college in a red state is because of abortion rights, not racism. Racism is everywhere, it just has different flavors in different places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Nope. Your negative breastfeeding experience is your negative experience with breastfeeding. Yes, it sucked for you and glad you made the best of it and glad your kid did well with formula.

But, breastmilk is superior than formula for normal healthy babies. You are the exception that proves the rule.

What you are arguing is akin to saying that divorced families are the same as intact families for kids. No. All functional and intact families are better than any kind of dysfunctional or broken family. See the difference? Yes, divorced parents may be better than living in an intact family with an alcoholic or abusive parent, but that is the backup plan when a happy, functional and intact family is not the reality.

Breastmilk is optimum but if it is not fated for you or your child then you make do with formula and go on and live your life. Every kid does not get breastmilk and every kid does not even get a mother who can or want to nurse - life is unfair.

Agree. There is no other circumstance in which people would argue that processed food is superior.

[Anonymous]

We are pescatarians. I get tired of explaining that we are not vegetarians and that we do not eat chicken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

quote]

Why didn’t you pump milk and then feed in bottle since baby wouldn’t latch? I did that for a year and baby was able to have breast milk instead of formula.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why gastric bypass surgery is the best option for anyone 100 lbs overweight

Can you explain this to me? A fat person, I have an appointment with a new PCP in a couple weeks and I’m going to be asking for a semaglutide medication. Why would surgery be a better option? I see people who have had the surgery having to live lives that frankly I don’t want to live.

It simply has the best long-term success at keeping weight off. Study after study after study shows this.