What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?

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Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

OP, you have got to be joking. SES matters far more. If you were born upper middle class (as I was), you'll likely stay that way. Intelligence has absolutely nothing to do with it. I got into an Ivy League university because multiple family members had gone there in previous generations, and then I had it on my resume from Day 1 in the workforce, and that was basically that.

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Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

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Why didn’t you pump milk and then feed in bottle since baby wouldn’t latch? I did that for a year and baby was able to have breast milk instead of formula.

Because I chose to spend my time doing things I found more important than pumping. I didn't get enough milk to make it worth the time and hassle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Jealous much? Sorry you failed, but get over it.

You're so defensive, I'm assuming you are struggling with coming to terms with the fact that breastfeeding doesn't make you a good mom. Why else would you be so mean about it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

Clicked on this thread to say exactly the opposite. The people who are most successful in business and law are not necessarily the smartest. Those with innate genius-level intelligence may not be able to parlay it into being successful.

That's true. Work ethic is important too.

So are the advantages and opportunities that come from being high SES.

I work with so many highly educated dolts…it’s all their family name and connections.

So many intelligent, hardworking people never had a chance to succeed because they lacked a family name/legacy and connections. It’s actually sort of scary.
And the person who get the job already knows they are getting the job, the interviews are just a formality. And when the wife of the big boss gets drunk, hits on employees at the Christmas party inappropriately, while slurring racist crap, everyone remains silent.

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Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Jealous much? Sorry you failed, but get over it.

You're so defensive, I'm assuming you are struggling with coming to terms with the fact that breastfeeding doesn't make you a good mom. Why else would you be so mean about it?

Guys this is ugly.

Please don’t turn breastfeeding choices into this …

Just be happy with your own choices and don’t shame others for different choices …

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I'm a social worker in a PT/ rehab/ nursing facility. My job is to ensure your needs are met while you're with us and to facilitate a safe discharge plan if possible. I'm not a community case worker. I'm not finding you housing. I'm not applying for SSI/ disability/ food stamps/ unemployment/ passport/ license or ID for you. I'm not taking you to the bank or getting you a cell phone. I'm not getting you a job. I won't accept verbal abuse, violence or threats.
Have a nice stay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a social worker in a PT/ rehab/ nursing facility. My job is to ensure your needs are met while you're with us and to facilitate a safe discharge plan if possible. I'm not a community case worker. I'm not finding you housing. I'm not applying for SSI/ disability/ food stamps/ unemployment/ passport/ license or ID for you. I'm not taking you to the bank or getting you a cell phone. I'm not getting you a job. I won't accept verbal abuse, violence or threats.
Have a nice stay!

Do you prefer them to someone who can help them with these things? I work in social services and I would be happy to help people apply for benefits. But my job doesn't allow it so I refer them to community resources who do. But it certainly doesn't bother me that I have to explain it to them.

That said, I've been on the receiving end of the verbal abuse too, so I get it.

[Anonymous]

I mean, do you REFER them, not prefer.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a social worker in a PT/ rehab/ nursing facility. My job is to ensure your needs are met while you're with us and to facilitate a safe discharge plan if possible. I'm not a community case worker. I'm not finding you housing. I'm not applying for SSI/ disability/ food stamps/ unemployment/ passport/ license or ID for you. I'm not taking you to the bank or getting you a cell phone. I'm not getting you a job. I won't accept verbal abuse, violence or threats.
Have a nice stay!

Do you prefer them to someone who can help them with these things? I work in social services and I would be happy to help people apply for benefits. But my job doesn't allow it so I refer them to community resources who do. But it certainly doesn't bother me that I have to explain it to them.

That said, I've been on the receiving end of the verbal abuse too, so I get it.

Re: housing, we can refer them to a housing agency that works with nursing home residents, but wait time is often 1-2 years. All of the other things we are not permitted to get into, and family has to help them. If they have no family, I can't do anything about that.
A lot of our clients are used to dealing with case workers and expect us to do all the same things. It gets tiresome to hear all the time that I HAVE to do x "because you're a social worker and that's what they do!" Nope, not all of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a social worker in a PT/ rehab/ nursing facility. My job is to ensure your needs are met while you're with us and to facilitate a safe discharge plan if possible. I'm not a community case worker. I'm not finding you housing. I'm not applying for SSI/ disability/ food stamps/ unemployment/ passport/ license or ID for you. I'm not taking you to the bank or getting you a cell phone. I'm not getting you a job. I won't accept verbal abuse, violence or threats.
Have a nice stay!

Do you prefer them to someone who can help them with these things? I work in social services and I would be happy to help people apply for benefits. But my job doesn't allow it so I refer them to community resources who do. But it certainly doesn't bother me that I have to explain it to them.

That said, I've been on the receiving end of the verbal abuse too, so I get it.

Re: housing, we can refer them to a housing agency that works with nursing home residents, but wait time is often 1-2 years. All of the other things we are not permitted to get into, and family has to help them. If they have no family, I can't do anything about that.
A lot of our clients are used to dealing with case workers and expect us to do all the same things. It gets tiresome to hear all the time that I HAVE to do x "because you're a social worker and that's what they do!" Nope, not all of them.

You should do some research in your town to find agencies who will help them. In my city, we have agencies who actually will walk them through applying for ssd/SSI, find housing, find them food pantries etc.

Call your state agency for seniors (might be through the health department), find out if you have an Area Agency on Aging, contact churches and the state social services division and the SSA and Legal Aid agencies. Eventually you'll be able to collect a list of people who CAN help them.

I worked for the state agency that did SNAP benefits. Fortunately, we had amassed a list of every agency in town and what things they could help with.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Jealous much? Sorry you failed, but get over it.

You're so defensive, I'm assuming you are struggling with coming to terms with the fact that breastfeeding doesn't make you a good mom. Why else would you be so mean about it?

I'm not a good mom, but at least I was nursed my children and didn't whine (lie) about "not making enough milk."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Jealous much? Sorry you failed, but get over it.

You're so defensive, I'm assuming you are struggling with coming to terms with the fact that breastfeeding doesn't make you a good mom. Why else would you be so mean about it?

Guys this is ugly.

Please don’t turn breastfeeding choices into this …

Just be happy with your own choices and don’t shame others for different choices …

Formula moms ALWAYS shame nursing moms for nursing in public. It's gross and obvious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Jealous much? Sorry you failed, but get over it.

You're so defensive, I'm assuming you are struggling with coming to terms with the fact that breastfeeding doesn't make you a good mom. Why else would you be so mean about it?

Guys this is ugly.

Please don’t turn breastfeeding choices into this …

Just be happy with your own choices and don’t shame others for different choices …

Formula moms ALWAYS shame nursing moms for nursing in public. It's gross and obvious.

Always?.I've never shamed someone for nursing in public.. Not once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.

Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.

Jealous much? Sorry you failed, but get over it.

You're so defensive, I'm assuming you are struggling with coming to terms with the fact that breastfeeding doesn't make you a good mom. Why else would you be so mean about it?

I'm not a good mom, but at least I was nursed my children and didn't whine (lie) about "not making enough milk."

You're not a person, period.