UVA Greek System

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread helps to emphasize why some students, genuinely (and not because they didn't get in) ... genuinely do not want to attend UVA.

Just saying'. Not to take away from the hope, Op, that your DD has a good experience.

My DD is a first year and today is the first day of rush. She said that about 1,000 girls have registered. Out of a class of about 4,000, that is a lot! I can definitely see why that would be a turn off for some students. I viewed this as a negative myself when we were touring colleges. My DD has a really close group of friends and loved her first semester. I hope that this process doesn't come between them.

OP congrats to your DD! I'll come back to update after rush is over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread helps to emphasize why some students, genuinely (and not because they didn't get in) ... genuinely do not want to attend UVA.

Just saying'. Not to take away from the hope, Op, that your DD has a good experience.

My DD is a first year and today is the first day of rush. She said that about 1,000 girls have registered. Out of a class of about 4,000, that is a lot! I can definitely see why that would be a turn off for some students. I viewed this as a negative myself when we were touring colleges. My DD has a really close group of friends and loved her first semester. I hope that this process doesn't come between them.

OP congrats to your DD! I'll come back to update after rush is over.

I hope she had a fun day! My DD is in a sorority at UVA, long but fun day!
The friend groups may certainly shift a bit, they did for my DD, but she will also meet lots of new people.

[Anonymous]

Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

That's unreal. On another note, I'm surprised the PNMs don't wear nametags. I think they did back in my day during rush.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

That's unreal. On another note, I'm surprised the PNMs don't wear nametags. I think they did back in my day during rush.

Nope no name tags on the PMNs. Makes it very hard to keep track of names!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

That's unreal. On another note, I'm surprised the PNMs don't wear nametags. I think they did back in my day during rush.

Nope no name tags on the PMNs. Makes it very hard to keep track of names!

DD is a PNM and wearing a name tag today. Don’t know about the first two days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.

These stories make me sad. I was in a sorority elsewhere and had a good experience but it was more low key as I recall. I don't think I got dropped but honestly I can not recall the whole process. I am starting to hope my daughter does not end up at a school with a large greek system. I would hate for her to be feeling this way above. Going to college is enough of a transition and I think this sounds like it could really ruin their experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.

These stories make me sad. I was in a sorority elsewhere and had a good experience but it was more low key as I recall. I don't think I got dropped but honestly I can not recall the whole process. I am starting to hope my daughter does not end up at a school with a large greek system. I would hate for her to be feeling this way above. Going to college is enough of a transition and I think this sounds like it could really ruin their experience.

Im the PP who posted this, honestly it was a couple days of sadness, and everyone will experience that, but then ultimately by the end of the week, she ended up in the right place with 50+ other new pledges. So was the few days of sadness worth it, yes. She should have gone in more open minded, which is what she's trying to say to PNMs right now. The ones that are most sad are those who expected to be in the choosing position after first round, but ultimately they are not. The computers choose. Of the 15 sororities at UVA, only one of them is probably not worth joining and may be on the outs soon.

[Anonymous]

Everyone rushing will wind up in a sorority there if they want to. Continue in the process then at end decide if want to stay in the process before the bid comes. Some really nice and amazing young women can be found at all of them. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone rushing will wind up in a sorority there if they want to. Continue in the process then at end decide if want to stay in the process before the bid comes. Some really nice and amazing young women can be found at all of them. Good luck!

Great and simple advice! Fully agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.

These stories make me sad. I was in a sorority elsewhere and had a good experience but it was more low key as I recall. I don't think I got dropped but honestly I can not recall the whole process. I am starting to hope my daughter does not end up at a school with a large greek system. I would hate for her to be feeling this way above. Going to college is enough of a transition and I think this sounds like it could really ruin their experience.

Im the PP who posted this, honestly it was a couple days of sadness, and everyone will experience that, but then ultimately by the end of the week, she ended up in the right place with 50+ other new pledges. So was the few days of sadness worth it, yes. She should have gone in more open minded, which is what she's trying to say to PNMs right now. The ones that are most sad are those who expected to be in the choosing position after first round, but ultimately they are not. The computers choose. Of the 15 sororities at UVA, only one of them is probably not worth joining and may be on the outs soon.

If the right place is the house that takes everyone the other houses don't want, it's both obvious to everyone involved and a huge blow those those girls' self esteem. Everyone talking about the right house seems like they actually landed in a house that wanted them and that they wanted, and that's great, but there are also houses that these girls don't want and who are happy to take anyone who will pay dues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.

These stories make me sad. I was in a sorority elsewhere and had a good experience but it was more low key as I recall. I don't think I got dropped but honestly I can not recall the whole process. I am starting to hope my daughter does not end up at a school with a large greek system. I would hate for her to be feeling this way above. Going to college is enough of a transition and I think this sounds like it could really ruin their experience.

UVA is only 35% Greek. It’s not like Washington & Lee where 76% are Greek (and very expensive) so you feel in the outs if you do not participate. My UVA kid found her own people in the 900 open clubs UVA has and never once stepped into a fest or sorority house or attended a Greek party

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her. Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids!

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works.

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.

These stories make me sad. I was in a sorority elsewhere and had a good experience but it was more low key as I recall. I don't think I got dropped but honestly I can not recall the whole process. I am starting to hope my daughter does not end up at a school with a large greek system. I would hate for her to be feeling this way above. Going to college is enough of a transition and I think this sounds like it could really ruin their experience.

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