Why do I find it annoying when childfree people say they are tired?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people without kids complain about the costs to board their pets when they travel. I wish I could board my kids for a few days or hire a neighbor to come and walk them a couple times a day while we go to Europe. Unfortunately, the answer for us is we just can't go to Europe unless we bring the kids.

If only there were a way you could have known this ahead of time before you had them. Oh, wait!

Are you one of those people who won't get up for pregnant women on the metro bc they "chose to get pregnant"? You can be kind to someone in a tough situation even if the situation is of their own making

Good advice for OP to take in regard to her ridiculous snark about bUt tHe cHiLdFrEe!

The tough situation being that they got 7.5hrs of sleep instead of their typical 9 one night bc they went out?

[Anonymous]

We each chose our reasons to be sleep deprived. Yours is because of kids. Mine is because I like staying out until the bar closes and take my sweet time getting to bed at 5am. Presumably, you chose to have children, no?

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Interacting with people is tiresome for many people. I don't need kids to feel tired. OP be more empathetic towards others. They are tired too

[Anonymous]

But that was your decision. Sounds like you are jealous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I was just venting on a parenting forum. I thought other parents would say how tired they were to be woken up multiple times per night or how they have to get woken up to then wake up earlier than the kids to get ready for work.

And that’s fine wanting commiseration, so post that, instead of putting down other people’s problems and nominating yourself for the Suffering Olympics.

Exactly. Other people like childfree people are tired too from anything, work, socializing, workout, family stuff, anxiety, etc. We don't read other people's minds.
I have feelings and feel tired and I don't have kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We each chose our reasons to be sleep deprived. Yours is because of kids. Mine is because I like staying out until the bar closes and take my sweet time getting to bed at 5am. Presumably, you chose to have children, no?

But you do get that it's not the same right? You can recover the next night, take a night off from going out, whatever. It's very different from the grind of night after night with a baby that won't sleep.

And yes, before you wind up for that big dunk: I did choose to have children! And I wouldn't trade them for better sleep! But I am still more tired than you and I don't want to hear your complaints

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We each chose our reasons to be sleep deprived. Yours is because of kids. Mine is because I like staying out until the bar closes and take my sweet time getting to bed at 5am. Presumably, you chose to have children, no?

But you do get that it's not the same right? You can recover the next night, take a night off from going out, whatever. It's very different from the grind of night after night with a baby that won't sleep.

And yes, before you wind up for that big dunk: I did choose to have children! And I wouldn't trade them for better sleep! But I am still more tired than you and I don't want to hear your complaints

No. It doesn't work that way. Some people staying up all night not always can sleep right away. You're assuming. Children people have a life and they get very tired too. Everyone makes choices.

You chose yours. You complain of being a mom. We hear you. You have to hear the rest, not just you. You're not the only one tired.

[Anonymous]

Some childfree people stay up all night and only sleeps again at night or the next day. Not everyone can sleep right away. Everyone's brain is different. Daily life, socializing, people can be so exhausting. Childfree people don't need kids to feel tired already. You chose to have them. So play along

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We each chose our reasons to be sleep deprived. Yours is because of kids. Mine is because I like staying out until the bar closes and take my sweet time getting to bed at 5am. Presumably, you chose to have children, no?

But you do get that it's not the same right? You can recover the next night, take a night off from going out, whatever. It's very different from the grind of night after night with a baby that won't sleep.

And yes, before you wind up for that big dunk: I did choose to have children! And I wouldn't trade them for better sleep! But I am still more tired than you and I don't want to hear your complaints

I’m with OP. It’s different and while a choice I do find it mildly irritating sometimes depending on how it’s voiced.

[Anonymous]

You don't get to decide who gets to be tired, OP. It's not a damn contest! I'm childfree and was dealing with severe sleep deprivation two years ago when my mom was dying from cancer. I don't know how I stayed conscious some days. My CF co-worker went through something similar with a sick parent. Additionally, I'm picking up the slack at work this week, because my coworkers who have kids are either not in or are leaving early. I'll be doing the same Christmas week too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We each chose our reasons to be sleep deprived. Yours is because of kids. Mine is because I like staying out until the bar closes and take my sweet time getting to bed at 5am. Presumably, you chose to have children, no?

But you do get that it's not the same right? You can recover the next night, take a night off from going out, whatever. It's very different from the grind of night after night with a baby that won't sleep.

And yes, before you wind up for that big dunk: I did choose to have children! And I wouldn't trade them for better sleep! But I am still more tired than you and I don't want to hear your complaints

I do hope that your co-parent or another adult is doing most of the parental teaching for your children. You are a terrible role model for children.

-DP who has children, but is a lot more empathetic to others than you are.

[Anonymous]

Before kids I had far less time as the expectation was those of us who didn't have kids pick up the slack of those with kids and the favorites. I worked late, often on weekends on paperwork, and pretty much all holidays. I get tired of people complaining about their life choices. What did you expect with kids?

[Anonymous]

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And yes, before you wind up for that big dunk: I did choose to have children! And I wouldn't trade them for better sleep! But I am still more tired than you and I don't want to hear your complaints

So, are you more tired than a childfree person who has a chronic disease that exhaust them and takes all their energy to manage?
Are you more tired than a childfree person with a physical disability who struggles to get through the day and is exhausted from living in a world that assumes the inhabitants are able-bodied?
Are you more tired than a childfree person who has cancer and is going through chemo?
Are you more tied than a childfree person who has to care for two elderly relations with memory or physical deterioration?
Are you more tired than a childfree person who works two physically demanding full-time jobs at minimum wage just to survive? Who can't take a day off because they can't afford to?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people without kids complain about the costs to board their pets when they travel. I wish I could board my kids for a few days or hire a neighbor to come and walk them a couple times a day while we go to Europe. Unfortunately, the answer for us is we just can't go to Europe unless we bring the kids.

If only there were a way you could have known this ahead of time before you had them. Oh, wait!

Are you one of those people who won't get up for pregnant women on the metro bc they "chose to get pregnant"? You can be kind to someone in a tough situation even if the situation is of their own making

Good advice for OP to take in regard to her ridiculous snark about bUt tHe cHiLdFrEe!

The tough situation being that they got 7.5hrs of sleep instead of their typical 9 one night bc they went out?

No. That they are caring for elderly parents, or work two jobs to survive, or have crippling insomnia, or have a chronic illness that affects sleep,etc, etc, etc.

Get your head out of your Mommy bubble.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We each chose our reasons to be sleep deprived. Yours is because of kids. Mine is because I like staying out until the bar closes and take my sweet time getting to bed at 5am. Presumably, you chose to have children, no?

But you do get that it's not the same right? You can recover the next night, take a night off from going out, whatever. It's very different from the grind of night after night with a baby that won't sleep.

And yes, before you wind up for that big dunk: I did choose to have children! And I wouldn't trade them for better sleep! But I am still more tired than you and I don't want to hear your complaints

OK. Cool. You’re soooooo amazing. You are the most tired person who ever existed. We’ll erect a statue in your honor. Poor, poor you.

OK, you can stop whining now.