Why do I find it annoying when childfree people say they are tired?
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Anonymous
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They go out all night and don’t get good sleep and complain they are tired. Or there is an inconvenience for a night and two. Try not getting a good night sleep for YEARS due to having young kids. I have had a decade of bad sleep.
Anyone else get annoyed about this? I’m sure I was sometimes tired when I was childfree. |
Anonymous
| Your fault for having kids. |
Anonymous
| Because you think life is a competition and you want to win by being (1) more tired for (2) a more virtuous reason, therefore earning (3) more sympathy. |
Anonymous
| Because you are a bad person? |
Anonymous
| OP, have some empathy for other people. |
Anonymous
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Don't be annoyed. Everyone has varying levels of energy. We're a low-energy family (also inattentive ADHD, I wonder if it's linked), and while we have kids, we deliberately don't overschedule ourselves, because we become too fatigued. I perfectly understand a childless person sometimes being tired as well.
Sounds like you're just jealous or something. |
Anonymous
| No! They are allowed to have feelings too. You seem to have lost touch with your humanity. Try to find it again and you'll be a much more pleasant parent and person |
Anonymous
| You, too, can complain that you're tired. |
Anonymous
| The worst is when childfree people complain about not having any "me time". Shit! I don't even have the option of me time! I don't call them out or act annoyed, I just say "that stinks" and laugh inside as I picture them in a couple years with a kid. |
Anonymous
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No I don't get annoyed. I just believe them and sympathize about how much it sucks to be tired. I don't think about myself much.
I wonder if you have some deeper resentment about your bad sleep going on. This sort of sounds like the way somebody who just lost a parent would react to somebody complaining about something relatively innocuous their mom did. A decade of bad sleep is terrible. Have you been in the newborn stage for a long time because of lots of kids? Are your kids bad sleepers? Is there anything you can do to get better sleep? |
Anonymous
| Because you are so very very tired and exhaustion affects your frustration tolerance. You’re not a bad person at all, I think this is one of those “know your audience” situations. Like although my kids make me tired, if I wanted to vent about that I wouldn’t vent to my friend struggling with infertility. Or if my (typically wonderful) mom did something that got on my nerves, i would avoid venting to my friend who has a more difficult relationship with her mom. |
Anonymous
You CHOSE to have a kid. Even if you got pregnant by accident you could have aborted or placed for adoption but you made a decision to keep your baby. |
Anonymous
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I find it really offensive when people use their kids as weapons in the martyr olympics. I can't really imagine how it feels to have a parent who communicates that they have it worse than everyone else because you exist.
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Anonymous
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Because their life looks easy to you. But in reality you may have no idea what they are dealing with.
Yes, young kids are difficult. But other things are difficult too! |
Anonymous
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I hear what you're saying, OP. When my kids were really little I had a colleague who, every Monday morning, would complain about how exhausted she was after a leisurely weekend of sleeping in, hiking, visiting wineries, and having brunch. Cry me a river.
But really, it was less about her not having kids and more being a whiner in general. Not a fan. |