Why do I find it annoying when childfree people say they are tired?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because their life looks easy to you. But in reality you may have no idea what they are dealing with.
Yes, young kids are difficult. But other things are difficult too!

This. Whenever I'm dealing with some particular challenge, be it infertility, sick parents, sick spouse, etc, I always look at people who don't have the same issue as having it easier. In reality who knows what everyone is dealing with privately.

[Anonymous]

Pub crawls every night take a lot out of you. The struggle is real.

[Anonymous]

I have kids but I absolutely was as tired as I am now before I had kids. I had a couple terrible jobs with insane hours and really awful bosses and I would absolutely say that is worse than being a working mom with a sane job and a good boss. I used to have to pull all nighters several times a month to meet unreasonable deadlines, I had work land on my desk at 6:30pm that someone had just sat on all day and someone high up needed "ASAP". I had to cancel vacations regularly for last minute work travel. I was miserable and got ulcers and had bad skin and was clinically depressed.

I also used to go out on the weekends and party, get hung over, and complain about being tired.

My life now is better in pretty much ever way, and if a childless person wants to complain to me about being tired, I will listen and empathize. Being tired sucks, feeling like you can't catch up with your life or you don't have enough time for basic self care also sucks. Life can be hard for anyone and kids aren't even in my top 10 of "hardest things" because they are also so rewarding and delightful in other ways. I'd rather be a parent to young children during a pandemic than have my old job, be diagnosed with or have a close family member diagnosed with cancer or another debilitating illness, live in poverty, have clinical depression and anxiety, and many other things.

My kids wear me out but they give me hugs and yesterday when I told my DD I had to lie down instead of play with her because I was so exhausted, she made up a game where she placed all her stuffed animals on my back and they gave me massages so I could feel better.

[Anonymous]

Eh. I don’t sleep well on a daily basis because of my kids, but that’s not the same as staying out partying until 3 am when you’re in your 40’s. They’re just really tired.

[Anonymous]

Why do some women who choose to have kids take out their frustrations about being a mom on people who chose not to have kids?

[Anonymous]

I hate when people without kids complain about the costs to board their pets when they travel. I wish I could board my kids for a few days or hire a neighbor to come and walk them a couple times a day while we go to Europe. Unfortunately, the answer for us is we just can't go to Europe unless we bring the kids.

[Anonymous]

Personally I was equally or more sleep deprived in college than I am with two young kids. My friends with insomnia have been sleep deprived for decades. Missing sleep sucks regardless of the reason so no I’m not annoyed when people complain about being tired. Your stress and exhaustion is not delegitimizated because someone in a different situation is also tired.

[Anonymous]

No, it doesen't bother me at all. Their life is set up differently than mine; I don't know their struggle, and they don't know mine. I have bigger things to worry about than judging someone because they are kid-free. You sound a little jealous, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate when people without kids complain about the costs to board their pets when they travel. I wish I could board my kids for a few days or hire a neighbor to come and walk them a couple times a day while we go to Europe. Unfortunately, the answer for us is we just can't go to Europe unless we bring the kids.

Op here. I had a coworker who told me his puppy was harder than having a newborn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate when people without kids complain about the costs to board their pets when they travel. I wish I could board my kids for a few days or hire a neighbor to come and walk them a couple times a day while we go to Europe. Unfortunately, the answer for us is we just can't go to Europe unless we bring the kids.

Op here. I had a coworker who told me his puppy was harder than having a newborn.

I mean I've had men tell me that getting kicked in the balls is more painful than childbirth. Ignorant people say dumb stuff sometimes. That doesn't mean people aren't allowed to complain when they are having a tough time for whatever reason. Unless your childless friends are telling you that drinking until 3am is harder than staying up with a vomiting child all night or something, I don't get why you are so triggered by someone just telling you what is going on with them.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP all the child free folks must be free right now and browsing DCUM based on these responses. By the way, I don’t say but yes, I cringe when I hear oh I’m soooooo tired or oh I haven’t had time for any self care and doing my nails lolz they’re ridiculous but I just nod smile and judge away. Same like with pet parents saying it’s the same like having kids.

[Anonymous]

Let me let you in on a little secret: Millennials are wimps and you all complain non stop--kids/no kids/whatever else. Always complaining and needing attention. Everyone else is just like "please, for the love of God, shut up." So yeah, the no kids people are annoying, but so are you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because you think life is a competition and you want to win by being (1) more tired for (2) a more virtuous reason, therefore earning (3) more sympathy.

+ 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because their life looks easy to you. But in reality you may have no idea what they are dealing with.
Yes, young kids are difficult. But other things are difficult too!

This OP. Read this. Think how lucky you are that, in your life, the only thing that makes you tired is your children. Think about people who might be tired because they are sick. Or might be up worrying about a sick friend or relative. Or might have to take a second job that keeps them up late at night. And then look at yourself having the nerve to be mad at those people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me let you in on a little secret: Millennials are wimps and you all complain non stop--kids/no kids/whatever else. Always complaining and needing attention. Everyone else is just like "please, for the love of God, shut up." So yeah, the no kids people are annoying, but so are you.