Can women really love men?

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I think a lot of men think all women are materialistic and only go for a certain type of man because they literally don't see the women *they* aren't interested in.

No, but after reading enough of this forum, one is inclined to think all women are interested in a guy’s money. Because women on this site are obsessed with his bank account.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are not loved unconditionally is the answer. Not like women and children are. Even the best examples here the woman would lose attraction if the guy started acting whiny or had a mental health crisis or some other thing.

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Women typically love their children unconditionally, but not there husbands

As opposed to men who don't love their children unconditionally?? The fact many men dump their wives or stop having sex with them for whatever reason surely means men don't love women unconditionally.

They don’t, and shouldn’t. But women are more likely than men to think they should be loved unconditionally.

What do you mean by this?

"You should absolutely love me no matter what I do" is a far more common attitude among women than men.

This isn’t true.
For example, men are six times more likely to leave the marriage when their wives get diagnosed with cancer. Men are also more likely to leave women who have a substance use disorder, and are more likely to leave when their wives are dealing with any chronic illness.

You can certainly say that this is due to hormonal factors or to societal roles that place women as caretakers, so men don’t feel as comfortable with the role. It doesn’t have to be a moral failing.

But you can’t say that men are more likely to love women “no matter what.” That just isn’t true.

What is the source of each of those statements? I'm calling bs on that.

This is from a quick google search:

https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/12/men-more-likely-to-leave-spouse-with-cancer/

https://acsjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cncr.24577

20.8% of men abandon their wives following a cancer diagnosis, while only 2.9% of women leave their husbands.

The women you are dating, pp, who you think comprise the entire female gender, are only a very small fraction of women. You probably need to do some self-reflection and figure out why you keep going for that 3% and ignoring the other 97% of women.

Wonder how many of those women are financially dependent on the man? From what I have seen women are much more likely to leave a man who has financial problems, sick, loses a job, etc. This is part of what a woman wants in a man- strong, not sick, not dependent and making money. Men know this from an early age. Women will leave if something better comes a long.

I don’t know if they are or not. It seems particularly bad to leave your wife following a cancer diagnosis if you know she is also financially dependent on you.

I don’t know why your experience doesn’t match up with actual statistics, but you must know on some level that you are actively seeking these women out. Statistically, this is the equivalent of a woman saying that she can’t find a man who is taller than 5’3”. Just like most men are taller than 5’3”, most women won’t leave you when you are sick, lose a job, etc.

If you keep finding this over and over again, then there is something that you find attractive about these avoidant women, or something they find attractive about you.

[Anonymous]

NP here, yes 100%!

I love my ex-husband. We’ve been divorced for 4 years, separated longer.

When we met we had nothing. Built everything he now has together. He’s since moved on to a pretty young thing because he’s got the $$$. I’m alone, because I’m no longer young and shiny, and I love him still.

Yes, women love. IMO more deeply than men do.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here, yes 100%!

I love my ex-husband. We’ve been divorced for 4 years, separated longer.

When we met we had nothing. Built everything he now has together. He’s since moved on to a pretty young thing because he’s got the $$$. I’m alone, because I’m no longer young and shiny, and I love him still.

Yes, women love. IMO more deeply than men do.

I wrote this earlier, but I have four teenagers, three of them boys, and I think there is something with testosterone that makes it more difficult for men to really love the way that women do. I think it might be the competitiveness they feel. That is, by definition, a selfish feeling.

I also think that men usually only feel loved by one or two people in their lives while women usually have a network of relationships where they give and receive love, so it might be harder for men if they feel rejected by their wives or mothers.