What men want

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are men in general less picky when it comes to their partner, compared to women? I.e., as long as they have regular sex, are attracted to them, can carry a somewhat decent conversation, and that’s it?

They want a housekeeper, cook, nanny, gardener, planner, etc.

And if you can’t or don’t do any of that, “go hire someone that knows what to do, when.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are men in general less picky when it comes to their partner, compared to women? I.e., as long as they have regular sex, are attracted to them, can carry a somewhat decent conversation, and that’s it?

They want a young, hot, educated, employed yet flexible enough to be SAHM woman who can take care of husbands, kids, home, social life and in-laws and still have energy to have twice daily sex.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want kids, find someone who can be a good mom or dad. You would want kindness, patience and morals. You’ll also want decent maternal/paternal family for kids. You wouldn’t want high debt or low income.

Exactly, someone who can run the whole house and teach/parent the children autonomously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously, not all men are the same. But...

I am definitely in the camp of men who are happy on a fairly short list. Good company, loves sex, travel, and hopefully dogs. I don't need a lot of deep reflection and I work a very demanding job where I get my intellectual stimulation, I make way more that I ever need so I don't need someone who makes money.

Same.
Not even home much so no need to conversate there with anyone. Get that all at work, thx.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are hilarious. It’s as though women who have dated, married, been friends with, been colleagues with, and raised don’t have some insight into what men want.

I stand by my statement that men only seem easier to please because most women already have other qualities they need, or they don’t know they need them until 5 years into the relationship when women can no longer meet the needs they didn’t know they had.

Plus, men just don’t seem to *see* women who they wouldn’t be interested in. The fact is that men put women into two categories: wife material and not wife material, and they’re only analyzing the women who are in the wife material category to see if they meet their needs. Like, can a hooker be attractive, DTF, fun, and kind? Yes. Would most men marry one? No.

first, women might have some insight but even that is very limited. you are not a man, and you have no idea what a man thinks.

second, women do the same thing - there are plenty of suitors who are invisible to women. women want that hot bad boy, the hot musician who lives out of his car, etc. - good for a romp in the sack? yes. marriage material? no.

I never said that men are more particular than women. I think they’re about the same.

And just because many men refuse to spend time thinking about women and their personalities and needs and instead write off the whole gender as “complicated” and “an enigma” and “impossible to please” doesn’t mean women have to do the same. We have eyes and ears and experiences, and we aren’t blind to what men want after decades of experience with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think they really think about it much. They just want their personal lives to run smoothly without much thought or effort on their part. It’s like what a lot of brides want for their wedding day, but it’s every day.

Some women are like this too, but I think they are recognized as anomalies. Otherwise normal, nice, ordinary men just sort of expect that things will go smoothly without them having to do anything.

They don’t want anything to change; just think about themselves, their jobs, their eating, and their tv time. That’s it. Don’t bother them with anything else or any other responsibilities. If you want something else- a trip, a fancy meal, some furniture, the kids in some camp or sport— do it yourself. Details schmetails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.

Health 9-10
Looks 6-9
Education 8-9
Income/wealth 5-9
Career/ambition 6-8
Personality 6-9
Morality 9-9
Stable family background 7-9
Personal baggage 0-1

These sure make good marriage material.

Yet NONE of those categories have anything to do with one’s ability to work as a 2-person team on personal life (maintaining a house, raising kids, verbal communication & conflict resolution skills, dealing with health or grandparent issues, taking care of someone).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want kids, find someone who can be a good mom or dad. You would want kindness, patience and morals. You’ll also want decent maternal/paternal family for kids. You wouldn’t want high debt or low income.

Exactly, someone who can run the whole house and teach/parent the children autonomously.

No, equal partnership needs good traits even more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In some ways good looks help building a good personality because life is easier for pretty faces so they aren’t as skeptic or resentful.

Opposite. Attractive, in shape people get hit on and approached by players and mindless losers with inflated egos and sense of entitlement all the time. Luckily those are easy to see through but does create skepticism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, all men want the following:

- pretty and thin/fit
- happy disposition
- fun
- reasonably intelligent


The men who cannot afford the most beautiful women, settle for ok looking but fun and happy women.

And hard working. I don’t want to come home to moody kids or a messy house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

men only seem easier to please because most women already have other qualities they need

And? Sounds like we are easier to please. What's your point?

or they don’t know they need them until 5 years into the relationship when women can no longer meet the needs they didn’t know they had.

No, the cliche - and personal experience - is that women change and expect the guy to change accordingly. A guy's expectations going in include a certain amount of sex, say, and he still wants that years down the road. It's the woman who changes.

You mean GROW and ADAPT. Not “change.”

Owning a home, parenting children, having senior jobs, navigating two+ extended families, educating your children…. That all requires an adult who can adapt and grow with their life demands, not shutdown and revert back to solo life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are hilarious. It’s as though women who have dated, married, been friends with, been colleagues with, and raised don’t have some insight into what men want.

I stand by my statement that men only seem easier to please because most women already have other qualities they need, or they don’t know they need them until 5 years into the relationship when women can no longer meet the needs they didn’t know they had.

Plus, men just don’t seem to *see* women who they wouldn’t be interested in. The fact is that men put women into two categories: wife material and not wife material, and they’re only analyzing the women who are in the wife material category to see if they meet their needs. Like, can a hooker be attractive, DTF, fun, and kind? Yes. Would most men marry one? No.

first, women might have some insight but even that is very limited. you are not a man, and you have no idea what a man thinks.

second, women do the same thing - there are plenty of suitors who are invisible to women. women want that hot bad boy, the hot musician who lives out of his car, etc. - good for a romp in the sack? yes. marriage material? no.

What a lazy cop-out OP.

No one knows what another thing or person *needs* so don’t bother trying or doing anything?!?

Gawd, sure hope you don’t have kids. You won’t know what they need ever!

[Anonymous]

Lazy cop out to PP. Not OP.

[Anonymous]

Individual preferences, one hat doesn’t fit all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Individual preferences, one hat doesn’t fit all.

Yes! This! It’s an individual preference to want someone to mainly take care of them and offer nothing substantial in return. Just my preference babe!