Scared of losing my body

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to look at the other members of your biological family to know what happened to their bodies with the advent pregnancy. Seeing my mom and my sister naked I saw the destruction of pregnancy upon their bodies. Nooo wayyy would I ever become pregnant.

If you have their shape already. I don’t have my mother or my paternal grandmother’s body at all. My mom has boobs bigger than my head. I’ve got some boobs but they’re definitely small. They got smaller after breastfeeding but didn’t get saggy. My mother’s stomach was very rolly from kids even though she’s a little thinner than me. My stomach was not stretched that I can notice after 2 kids. We’ll see what happens after the third.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to look at the other members of your biological family to know what happened to their bodies with the advent pregnancy. Seeing my mom and my sister naked I saw the destruction of pregnancy upon their bodies. Nooo wayyy would I ever become pregnant.

Wow. How old are you? What a horrible thing to say.

I’m glad you won’t reproduce though you are cleaning up the gene pool by removing stupidity.

[Anonymous]

Only have one kid then. Mine sort of rebounded back after baby #1 (only thing was my boobs weren't quite as perky) but has not bounced back after baby 2 (have a large abdomen and my boobs point south now).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only have one kid then. Mine sort of rebounded back after baby #1 (only thing was my boobs weren't quite as perky) but has not bounced back after baby 2 (have a large abdomen and my boobs point south now).

This was honestly a reason I stopped at one. No, I don't care if that makes me vain.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only have one kid then. Mine sort of rebounded back after baby #1 (only thing was my boobs weren't quite as perky) but has not bounced back after baby 2 (have a large abdomen and my boobs point south now).

This was honestly a reason I stopped at one. No, I don't care if that makes me vain.

Yep, most people can “bounce back” after 1. But here’s the deal. I’m 42, and while I’m in shape still and my boobs actually still look amazing - I have no dies how, they’re 34 dd, and I breastfeed two kids for 2 plus years each -
I don’t look the same. My shape is slowly changing, more weight in my belly, less in my thighs. It’s from age, not pregnancy. So, now here I sit, pregnant with my third, and I’m not worried about my body anymore, beyond wanting it to be healthy, which of course means a healthy BMI again. I don’t think the struggle lasts forever, is my point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only have one kid then. Mine sort of rebounded back after baby #1 (only thing was my boobs weren't quite as perky) but has not bounced back after baby 2 (have a large abdomen and my boobs point south now).

This was honestly a reason I stopped at one. No, I don't care if that makes me vain.

Yep, most people can “bounce back” after 1. But here’s the deal. I’m 42, and while I’m in shape still and my boobs actually still look amazing - I have no dies how, they’re 34 dd, and I breastfeed two kids for 2 plus years each -
I don’t look the same. My shape is slowly changing, more weight in my belly, less in my thighs. It’s from age, not pregnancy. So, now here I sit, pregnant with my third, and I’m not worried about my body anymore, beyond wanting it to be healthy, which of course means a healthy BMI again. I don’t think the struggle lasts forever, is my point.

If you're developing middle aged spread, it's because you're not being active.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally petite and trim and do not have to work hard to stay slender. Now that I’m pregnant I am terrified of losing my body.

Then you shouldn't have gotten pregnant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only have one kid then. Mine sort of rebounded back after baby #1 (only thing was my boobs weren't quite as perky) but has not bounced back after baby 2 (have a large abdomen and my boobs point south now).

This was honestly a reason I stopped at one. No, I don't care if that makes me vain.

Yep, most people can “bounce back” after 1. But here’s the deal. I’m 42, and while I’m in shape still and my boobs actually still look amazing - I have no dies how, they’re 34 dd, and I breastfeed two kids for 2 plus years each -
I don’t look the same. My shape is slowly changing, more weight in my belly, less in my thighs. It’s from age, not pregnancy. So, now here I sit, pregnant with my third, and I’m not worried about my body anymore, beyond wanting it to be healthy, which of course means a healthy BMI again. I don’t think the struggle lasts forever, is my point.

If you're developing middle aged spread, it's because you're not being active.

Sigh. That’s not what I said. I work out hard every day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was petite and trim pre-baby and now I’m petite and trim with a fantastic rack! Not all change is bad

Just wait the sag is coming

My mother and sister don’t sag and we have similar body types. Going from an A to a C results in less sag than, say, a C to a G

Oh sweetie, unless they had breast implants, your mother and sister sag. Neither of them still has the boobs of a 25 year old when they take off their push-up bras.

Have your seen older women with boob jobs? Without a lift of the skin they will sag as well. Gravity defeats all.

[Anonymous]

To OP - when I was pregnant with my first, I was scared of losing my body, too. But the process of pregnancy, breastfeeding, recovering postpartum etc., brought me a level of peace with my body I never expected I'd have. My body is in some ways back to normal and in some ways not, but I'm not as obsessed/neurotic about it as I once was... just sharing in case it's helpful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only have one kid then. Mine sort of rebounded back after baby #1 (only thing was my boobs weren't quite as perky) but has not bounced back after baby 2 (have a large abdomen and my boobs point south now).

This was honestly a reason I stopped at one. No, I don't care if that makes me vain.

Yep, most people can “bounce back” after 1. But here’s the deal. I’m 42, and while I’m in shape still and my boobs actually still look amazing - I have no dies how, they’re 34 dd, and I breastfeed two kids for 2 plus years each -
I don’t look the same. My shape is slowly changing, more weight in my belly, less in my thighs. It’s from age, not pregnancy. So, now here I sit, pregnant with my third, and I’m not worried about my body anymore, beyond wanting it to be healthy, which of course means a healthy BMI again. I don’t think the struggle lasts forever, is my point.

Same, I’m also 42 and my body isn’t great. Not horrible, and I’ll probably look back at pictures fondly In 10 years, but I’m no bikini model. I was scared to have a third for so long because I was afraid of making my body worse. Now that I’m in my 40’s, I just don’t care…so much. Im now pregnant but there is a huge age gap because of that fear, and I just laugh at myself for caring enough about it that I delayed having another baby for it. He’s there are women that look like models forever. Im pretty sure that won’t be me. I’ll just work on keeping my face pleasant for now

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to look at the other members of your biological family to know what happened to their bodies with the advent pregnancy. Seeing my mom and my sister naked I saw the destruction of pregnancy upon their bodies. Nooo wayyy would I ever become pregnant.

Wow. How old are you? What a horrible thing to say.

I’m glad you won’t reproduce though you are cleaning up the gene pool by removing stupidity.

Says the woman who looks horrible after her pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

To the person who said their 5”0 and 4”11 grandma’s bellies “got wrecked” because they’re short waisted, I’m the same height and my belly is fine. No loose skin, zero stretch marks anywhere, looks the same as before. I was petite before and I am still. Same with boobs but I’ve always had a small chest so what little sagging is happening I can’t really determine whether that’s truly from pregnancy/breastfeeding or just getting older. For what it’s worth, I had 2 in my twenties and I don’t think I look horrifically older than my fellow early thirties friends that don’t have kids.