Found out my 15 yr old DS is gay AND sexually active

[Anonymous]

I assumed that my son was gay, but I wasn’t ready to hear he was sexually active. I assumed this was the age kids start having sex, but now I’m overly concerned, as I think about std’s. Has anyone else run into this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assumed that my son was gay, but I wasn’t ready to hear he was sexually active. I assumed this was the age kids start having sex, but now I’m overly concerned, as I think about std’s. Has anyone else run into this?

My DS is gay but we're not at that stage yet.

Try listening to this podcast and you can even reach out to the host. She talks about her son coming out and his previously unknown sexual activity and how they dealt with this. Her son comes on the program, too.

https://chrysalismama.com

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assumed that my son was gay, but I wasn’t ready to hear he was sexually active. I assumed this was the age kids start having sex, but now I’m overly concerned, as I think about std’s. Has anyone else run into this?

My DS is gay but we're not at that stage yet.

Try listening to this podcast and you can even reach out to the host. She talks about her son coming out and his previously unknown sexual activity and how they dealt with this. Her son comes on the program, too.

https://chrysalismama.com

Thank you so much!

[Anonymous]

Would you be less distressed that he is sexually active if he weren’t gay? I am not sure what your specific concerns are here.

As a generally matter, though, there is fairly little you can do to stop a sexually active teen from continuing the activity. Make sure he is fully informed of the risks and how to keep himself safe, and make sure he has access to condoms.

[Anonymous]

yea, I'd be concerned if my 15 yr old was sexually active, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yea, I'd be concerned if my 15 yr old was sexually active, period.

ditto this.
-parent to two 15 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Make sure he has access to condoms. Start taking him for regular STD checks.

[Anonymous]

Yikes! 15 way too young

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you be less distressed that he is sexually active if he weren’t gay? I am not sure what your specific concerns are here.

As a generally matter, though, there is fairly little you can do to stop a sexually active teen from continuing the activity. Make sure he is fully informed of the risks and how to keep himself safe, and make sure he has access to condoms.

There’s plenty you can do, parents usually just take the easy way out and allow it to continue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you be less distressed that he is sexually active if he weren’t gay? I am not sure what your specific concerns are here.

As a generally matter, though, there is fairly little you can do to stop a sexually active teen from continuing the activity. Make sure he is fully informed of the risks and how to keep himself safe, and make sure he has access to condoms.

Just stop.

It depends on the situation and OP is wise to be concerned.

Is he in a good mental place? Is he depressed? Is he having random hookups with older men?

I'm sure many gay boys have a sweet experience of meeting a same age boy and having "firsts" together. But, many don't and feel self-destructive and have run-ins with older men that parents would not consider healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you be less distressed that he is sexually active if he weren’t gay? I am not sure what your specific concerns are here.

As a generally matter, though, there is fairly little you can do to stop a sexually active teen from continuing the activity. Make sure he is fully informed of the risks and how to keep himself safe, and make sure he has access to condoms.

Just stop.

It depends on the situation and OP is wise to be concerned.

Is he in a good mental place? Is he depressed? Is he having random hookups with older men?

I'm sure many gay boys have a sweet experience of meeting a same age boy and having "firsts" together. But, many don't and feel self-destructive and have run-ins with older men that parents would not consider healthy.

All of this should be a concern for heterosexual sex as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you be less distressed that he is sexually active if he weren’t gay? I am not sure what your specific concerns are here.

As a generally matter, though, there is fairly little you can do to stop a sexually active teen from continuing the activity. Make sure he is fully informed of the risks and how to keep himself safe, and make sure he has access to condoms.

There’s plenty you can do, parents usually just take the easy way out and allow it to continue

Yes, I supposed you could pull your child out of school and put them on permanent house arrest, with whole house alarms if they try to sneak out.

[Anonymous]

If this was my son i would love bomb him as a parent, be the most supportive I can ever be and then talk to him about safe sex, the more self love someone has the more they take care of their health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assumed that my son was gay, but I wasn’t ready to hear he was sexually active. I assumed this was the age kids start having sex, but now I’m overly concerned, as I think about std’s. Has anyone else run into this?

My DS is gay but we're not at that stage yet.

Try listening to this podcast and you can even reach out to the host. She talks about her son coming out and his previously unknown sexual activity and how they dealt with this. Her son comes on the program, too.

https://chrysalismama.com

Thank you so much!

Are there any podcasts for the teens themselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you be less distressed that he is sexually active if he weren’t gay? I am not sure what your specific concerns are here.

As a generally matter, though, there is fairly little you can do to stop a sexually active teen from continuing the activity. Make sure he is fully informed of the risks and how to keep himself safe, and make sure he has access to condoms.

Just stop.

It depends on the situation and OP is wise to be concerned.

Is he in a good mental place? Is he depressed? Is he having random hookups with older men?

I'm sure many gay boys have a sweet experience of meeting a same age boy and having "firsts" together. But, many don't and feel self-destructive and have run-ins with older men that parents would not consider healthy.

All of this should be a concern for heterosexual sex as well.

Sure, if that sex includes self-hatred and internalized homophobia that sadly some gay boys need to process, regardless of how supportive their family is.