Don't like First Date Idea

[Anonymous]

When someone asks you out an suggests going to a place you really don't want to go to, do you speak up? or just go along with it?

[Anonymous]

Just say "Sorry if this is weird, but can we go somewhere else? How do x or y sound? I'm looking forward to seeing you "

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you want to go? What type of place is it? I’d probably still go…

[Anonymous]

It depends on the reason. If a guy suggests his place and you're not comfortable, absolutely don't go. That's weird and unsafe.

If you're just being particular about the cuisine of the restaurant, then you might as well speak up so he knows you're not an adventurous eater in case that's an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you want to go? What type of place is it? I’d probably still go…

It's to play pool. I hate pool, and the place looks sketch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you want to go? What type of place is it? I’d probably still go…

It's to play pool. I hate pool, and the place looks sketch.

I don't play pool and sketch is not cool.

Recommend something else. Bowling?

[Anonymous]

If you can’t communicate this now just forget it with this guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you want to go? What type of place is it? I’d probably still go…

It's to play pool. I hate pool, and the place looks sketch.

I don't play pool and sketch is not cool.

Recommend something else. Bowling?

I think it's fine to say "I'd love to get together but pool isn't really my thing. How about X instead?" You can trying to think of a different activity, or just suggest grabbing a drink or coffee. It's possible they are trying to come up with a "cool" date idea and will not like that you won't want to go, but if that's the case you probably aren't compatible anyway. But if you are saying no to their idea I think it's polite to suggest a new idea along with a place so they don't have to keep guessing what you might like.

[Anonymous]

Say something. The purpose of dating is to find out if you are compatible not to pretend to like things you don’t. I would be turned off by a first date at a pool hall. I like guys who are into the idea of my femininity, and don’t treat me like one of the guys in early dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you want to go? What type of place is it? I’d probably still go…

Well, for example (I'm not the OP) I don't like Mexican food so I wouldn't go there.

[Anonymous]

Say something, because of this is a spot he loves to go to… He needs to know sooner or later if you’re not his kind of chick.

[Anonymous]

You can say something. In your shoes I'd still try for pool but maybe at a location you feel better about, perhaps closer to a restaurant you like. Just don't make it a habit dating and relationships require some flexibility.

[Anonymous]

It takes a certain kind of guy to invite a girl to play pool in a dive bar for a first date. Some girls would love that, some would not. A girl that comes on DCUM to crowdsource what to do in dating situations is an especially bad fit for a guy who invites girls to shoot pool on first dates. No judgment on either of you, but you are not a good match and I suggest not wasting each other’s time.

[Anonymous]

Suggest a different place. He may have wanted to do something more fun than just dinner or a bar and likes pool. The weather is still a little chilly. Let him know you don’t play pool but suggest a similar activity. It’s hard to think about creative things to do on dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: It takes a certain kind of guy to invite a girl to play pool in a dive bar for a first date. Some girls would love that, some would not. A girl that comes on DCUM to crowdsource what to do in dating situations is an especially bad fit for a guy who invites girls to shoot pool on first dates. No judgment on either of you, but you are not a good match and I suggest not wasting each other’s time.

This. You’re not a match, don’t waste your time.