Both partners have high level jobs

[Anonymous]

How do you make it work if you have kids? My DH works a lot of hours (60-80 hours a week) and I am looking at a Director role job. Right now I a work 30-35 hours a week and can take care of all the kid stuff. We have 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

They delegate work to hired help. Nannies, house keepers and home managers can run home really efficiently.

[Anonymous]

Some ask their retired parents to move in and manage it for them, cleaner and sitters are hired to lessen the workload.

[Anonymous]

You can’t have everything in life. If work is what’s more important for both of you, then you can outsource the childcare.

[Anonymous]

Hire a nanny to take care of the kids and run errands, hire an au pair to have dinner on the table and night watch on the kids. Hire a cleaner once a week. You can afford it.

Prioritize a weekly kid-free date night and check in.

[Anonymous]

Presumably there are lots of couples in the DMV who both work a lot and have children. How do you juggle everything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Presumably there are lots of couples in the DMV who both work a lot and have children. How do you juggle everything?

I wouldn't say a 'lot'. But someone either steps back or they have live-in nannies and housekeepers. I think Ivanka had 3 - one for each kid. Psaki's husband didn't work FTE. Buttigieg's spouse is unemployed.

Its actually nice to see men stepping back these days.

[Anonymous]

We did this and first it compromised my career then it killed our marriage.

[Anonymous]

You pay people to raise your children. The end.

[Anonymous]

Our kids are in elementary school. We employ a full time nanny and part of their duties are a few non-kid related things that help our life move more smoothly. We also have cleaning people twice a week and landscaping once a month.

[Anonymous]

We do it. Finance and law.
Two nannies (day time and evening). Weekly housekeeper. Groceries delivered. I work from home 3-4 days a week ever since the pandemic and will do so indefinitely. Our marriage isn't perfect but I don't think it's because we both work. We both show up at most sports practices and every game/performance/conference. We can do it because we're both in a place in our careers where we control our schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do it. Finance and law.
Two nannies (day time and evening). Weekly housekeeper. Groceries delivered. I work from home 3-4 days a week ever since the pandemic and will do so indefinitely. Our marriage isn't perfect but I don't think it's because we both work. We both show up at most sports practices and every game/performance/conference. We can do it because we're both in a place in our careers where we control our schedules.

How much do you both make?

[Anonymous]

Its easier if no travel or shifts are involved. A dermatologist and a cardiac interventionist can make it work but two of the same can’t without short sticking children or marriage.

[Anonymous]

Some people flaunt how well they can do it but announce divorce within 5-10 years and tell how difficult it was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We do it. Finance and law.
Two nannies (day time and evening). Weekly housekeeper. Groceries delivered. I work from home 3-4 days a week ever since the pandemic and will do so indefinitely. Our marriage isn't perfect but I don't think it's because we both work. We both show up at most sports practices and every game/performance/conference. We can do it because we're both in a place in our careers where we control our schedules.

How much do you both make?

HHI is over $1m.