Navigating post-second date
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Anonymous
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I had a second date with a guy I really like (I'm 42, he's 50). It seemed to go well and he kissed me, and asked what my schedule was like this week (he knows I have kids). That was 3 days ago.
Yesterday, he sent a text thanking me for coming to see him on our date. I replied saying I had a great time on our date, and thank you for inviting me. He "liked" the text. He hasn't asked me out again yet. Am I supposed to be doing something here? Showing additional interest? Or just sit back and wait for him to ask me out again? |
Anonymous
| Find someone else to date, preferably a few simultaneously. |
Anonymous
OP: I do have one other guy I've gone out with a few times, and have an upcoming date with. I would still like to figure out what to do with this first guy though...I guess nothing, really? I never know if guys are waiting for signals that I'm interested, or not. |
Anonymous
| What was your response when he asked what your week was like? Did you say you’re free or do you have your kids? |
Anonymous
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PP. I wouldn’t do anything. He’s showing you where he is with his actions (or lack thereof). If you told him you enjoyed him and the date and gave an indication you’d like to see him
again, he should make a move. |
Anonymous
Your choices are to wait to see if he asks you put, or ask him out. |
Anonymous
This. Your OP leaves out a key detail. What did you respond when be asked about your schedule? Was that in person or over text? |
Anonymous
I have gone as far as to say, I really like you, ball is in your court. If you traveled to see him last time it is most definitely his next move. |
Anonymous
OP: It was in person and I told him I'm free Thursday night this week. I said I have my kids this weekend...but sometimes have a sitter come for a few hours after they're asleep, if I decide to go out. |
Anonymous
| Seriously if you want to see him why don't you just ask him? I don't understand why people agonize over things with easy solutions. |
Anonymous
Everything I have read says that if a guy is truly interested, he will take the lead. True? |
Anonymous
Yes. No man worth his salt who’s truly interested in someone would leave a woman hanging like that. |
Anonymous
Sorry, that was back in the day. Men now have realized that showing interest is being thirsty. You are 42, not 24….he told you he likes you. You need to step up |
Anonymous
| From the information provided, it doesn’t sound like you are interested. That’s how I’d interpret your responses. Why not respond asking him a question? Your last text was close ended. Get a conversation going and see what happens. You are past the age of being passive. |
Anonymous
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I think if this was a green light situation you wouldn't be here , agonizing over it.
Go out with the other guy FFS |