Personality traits that really push your buttons

[Anonymous]

What are the personality traits that really drive you nuts and make it hard for you to maintain a relationship with someone? Was discussing this with a friend this week and discovered we had really different perspectives on this -- stuff that drove my friend crazy didn't bother me at all and vice versa (luckily I don't think I either of us has a button-pushing trait for the other!). So now I'm curious what other people's are.

Here are mine:

- People who brag
- Related to bragging: know-it-alls
- People who are often late or forgetful AND never apologize or recognize how this impacts others. I have some late/forgetful people in my life but they are self-aware of the trait and when they know they've really inconvenienced someone, they apologize and actually work to avoid it. When people act indifferent to the impact this has, it drives me up a wall.
- Gossips

What are yours?

[Anonymous]

Oh that is interesting! I don't love an of those character traits but the only type I really can't stand is gossips, if you're talking about people who share others' drama without nuance or compassion.

I also don't like to be around people who constantly talk badly about others, people who are really into material wealth, guys who say things like "ladies, you've got to understand...", and obviously people who are racist/sexist/fatphobic, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are the personality traits that really drive you nuts and make it hard for you to maintain a relationship with someone? Was discussing this with a friend this week and discovered we had really different perspectives on this -- stuff that drove my friend crazy didn't bother me at all and vice versa (luckily I don't think I either of us has a button-pushing trait for the other!). So now I'm curious what other people's are.

Here are mine:

- People who brag
- Related to bragging: know-it-alls
- People who are often late or forgetful AND never apologize or recognize how this impacts others. I have some late/forgetful people in my life but they are self-aware of the trait and when they know they've really inconvenienced someone, they apologize and actually work to avoid it. When people act indifferent to the impact this has, it drives me up a wall.
- Gossips

What are yours?

You must hate DC then🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the personality traits that really drive you nuts and make it hard for you to maintain a relationship with someone? Was discussing this with a friend this week and discovered we had really different perspectives on this -- stuff that drove my friend crazy didn't bother me at all and vice versa (luckily I don't think I either of us has a button-pushing trait for the other!). So now I'm curious what other people's are.

Here are mine:

- People who brag
- Related to bragging: know-it-alls
- People who are often late or forgetful AND never apologize or recognize how this impacts others. I have some late/forgetful people in my life but they are self-aware of the trait and when they know they've really inconvenienced someone, they apologize and actually work to avoid it. When people act indifferent to the impact this has, it drives me up a wall.
- Gossips

What are yours?

You must hate DC then🤣

Fair point! I think DC is what has made me so averse to braggarts and know-it-alls, though. I think before I moved here I might have found it annoying but not intolerable. Now when I meet someone who is NOT like that, I'm immediately interested in hanging out more!

And that's kind of what my convo with my friend was about. Her biggest pet peeve is people who are indecisive or passive. We know someone like this and while I don't love it, it doesn't really get under my skin. It's more like "oh, I'm making plans with Larla so I know I'm going to need to come in with a concrete plan." But that's it. But my friend will lose it around this person, it's too much. On the other hand, my friend can be around people who do nothing but brag about their job or their vacation or what semi-famous person they know and be unbothered. Or even find it entertaining. But I'll be gritting my teeth and looking for an exit ASAP. It's really interesting to me!

[Anonymous]

Aggressive, close-the-deal types who use your name repeatedly when speaking to you.

[Anonymous]

1. People who think their opinion is fact.
2. People who can't be empathic or see something from another perspective.
3. Stupid people (sorry).
4. Immaturity.

[Anonymous]

People who dominate a conversation and talk about themselves without bringing others in.

[Anonymous]

People who gossip and criticize other people constantly while being impervious to their own faults.

[Anonymous]

Tightwads and moochers—never pick up a check or offer to pay for gas or reciprocate. Happy to receive but whine about being broke when it is their turn. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

People who try to manipulate others by saying “I know you will understand” or “I’m sure YOU won’t mind if”, insinuating that you would be selfish if you don’t go along with their idea.

[Anonymous]

Negativity. Self importance. Rudeness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aggressive, close-the-deal types who use your name repeatedly when speaking to you.

Oh, this is a good one! I don’t encounter it often but it’s so weird to talk to people who constantly say your name.

[Anonymous]

People who see everything as an opinion and truly believe there are no facts.

Sure, some things are shades of grey but if you think global warming is an opinion and the January 6th attack on the United States didn’t happen, I just can’t. How can you even argue with someone who simultaneously believes the earth is flat and that there’s a Jewish space laser on the moon?

[Anonymous]

People whose opinions are their identity.

People who are into self-help and view everything through pop-psychology lenses.

People who exhibit magical thinking.

[Anonymous]

People who run hot or cold, so you never know where you stand with them.

People who are super prissy or germaphobic. They tend to be very judgey.