Missing college student in the Dominican Republic from Ashburn

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a senior at 24. As a football player does he have brain issues that may predispose him to violence? What in his past led him to still be finishing his degree at 24?

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/us/who-is-joshua-riibe-24-year-old-person-of-interest-linked-to-missing-indian-origin-sudiksha-konankis-disappearance/amp_articleshow/118943611.cms

He earned a scholarship Southeast technical school for “land surveying” after HS graduation. Probably shifted gears at some point and decided to get a 4yr degree. Really not that unusual. There is a lot of detail from family, friends, neighbors etc in a daily mail article I read (too lazy to link it)- all comments very positive about him and the family. And in a midwestern small town like that (I grew up in a very similar town), where he apparently lived his whole life- everyone knows everyone and everything.

It doesn’t mean he is innocent but there aren’t any red flags either.

Thanks. Agree his character and temperament are known in a town of under 3k. We will see what comes out.

Hard to understand why he would say he saw her in the water, a wave and he didn’t see her come out, story 1, if not true. And if true, why never tell anyone, it’s damning. As is the changing story.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a senior at 24. As a football player does he have brain issues that may predispose him to violence? What in his past led him to still be finishing his degree at 24?

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/us/who-is-joshua-riibe-24-year-old-person-of-interest-linked-to-missing-indian-origin-sudiksha-konankis-disappearance/amp_articleshow/118943611.cms

He earned a scholarship Southeast technical school for “land surveying” after HS graduation. Probably shifted gears at some point and decided to get a 4yr degree. Really not that unusual. There is a lot of detail from family, friends, neighbors etc in a daily mail article I read (too lazy to link it)- all comments very positive about him and the family. And in a midwestern small town like that (I grew up in a very similar town), where he apparently lived his whole life- everyone knows everyone and everything.

It doesn’t mean he is innocent but there aren’t any red flags either.

Daily mail is a valid source like this site?(

The daily fail is not a valid source for anything. It still blows my mind that people in the US read that junk.

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DP, here is article with more detail re guy she was last seen with.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

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If he killed her I hope he does not get away with it.

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Anonymous wrote:This story is so sad. I feel like girls especially have it drilled in their head to look out for their friends and yet this sort of thing happens. I wonder if she had known the boy for a few days so had an illusion of safety and so did her friends.

+10000

I could easily list all my near misses, too.

Very familiar with their area in LOCO so speak from experience. Major cultural differences, here. The Indian family is going to have a very hard time accepting her behavior rather shifting blame. Also totally understandable of them to want to push in searching for her and exploring other scenarios. But the American spring break experience will be different for them to understand.

I really don't like blaming the friends. She clearly wanted to stay behind with him. It was after 5am and the friends wanted to go to bed at last. If she didn't want to go with them, please tell me specifically what they should have done.

They should have stepped in, took her by the arm and led her back to the room to sleep. I had to do this to a friend (we were in our 30's). She was drunk and some guy just "knew" he was hooking up that night. Yes, she was flirting and "all over him", but no way was that happening on "my watch". I came between them, told him to please move along because it wasn't happening tonight and took her back with me to our hotel room. Friends look out for each other. Sadly, her "friends" failed her that morning.

If her friends knew she intended to have sex with the boy, why did they not come by her room or the beach in the morning to see how it was going?

Instead, they just went on a day trip, and gave her privacy.

Ah, this one is interesting.
Do you want your friends coming by your room to see how sex with a random stranger is going?

Right? People here are out of touch.

The only person to blame for this tragedy is the girl. She made a dumb, bad choice and has paid the ultimate price.

It's devastating and maddening, yes, but the blame cannot be shifted to the hotel, her friends, or the guy she was with.

I can think of a dozen or more similar dumb, bad choices I made at her age, but I somehow survived. Luck was on my side each of those times. Here are just a few:
1. met a guy day 1 of spring break, hours of landing & checking into our resort when I was 19, and ditched dinner with my girlfriends to hook up with him
2. went night swimming in Punta Cana when I was 18 (or 20 - not sure which trip I did this)
3. met a local in DR & agreed to go out on his boat with him at night to look at the stars
4. got in a sketchy unmarked van in Chinatown with my friend while shopping for knockoffs. The van drove around the streets while we "shopped" inside. On the same trip, was guided down an alleyway to a secret entrance and walked through a literal sweatshop up 6 flights of rickety stairs to shop for knockoffs.
5. got super drunk in OCMD during beach week fresh out of HS & had to go to the hospital - my parents never found out.
6. was a passenger in a car multiple times with a driver who blew just under .08 using their little pocket breathalyzer b/c we didn't realize that .06 is still freaking impaired (and that those pocket breathalyzers aren't super accurate)

I can think of a dozen examples from my youth too, but more than luck, what prevented disaster was either

1) the men we were with were not violent or bad people
2) my friends and I looked out for each other and were protective , we paid attention to everyone’s situation and kept each other safe
3) one of us was always a designated driver, so at least one totally sober person knew what was going on

When my DD wanted to do one of these spring break trips, there were several reasons I said no, but at the top of my list was that I didn’t trust her friends to be as smart and thoughtful as my high school friends were (she has better friends now).

So sad for everyone involved.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a senior at 24. As a football player does he have brain issues that may predispose him to violence? What in his past led him to still be finishing his degree at 24?

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/us/who-is-joshua-riibe-24-year-old-person-of-interest-linked-to-missing-indian-origin-sudiksha-konankis-disappearance/amp_articleshow/118943611.cms

He earned a scholarship Southeast technical school for “land surveying” after HS graduation. Probably shifted gears at some point and decided to get a 4yr degree. Really not that unusual. There is a lot of detail from family, friends, neighbors etc in a daily mail article I read (too lazy to link it)- all comments very positive about him and the family. And in a midwestern small town like that (I grew up in a very similar town), where he apparently lived his whole life- everyone knows everyone and everything.

It doesn’t mean he is innocent but there aren’t any red flags either.

Daily mail is a valid source like this site?(

The daily fail is not a valid source for anything. It still blows my mind that people in the US read that junk.

23:20 Why do you believe what was said in daily mail re comments about POI?

[Anonymous]

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I can think of a dozen examples from my youth too, but more than luck, what prevented disaster was either

1) the men we were with were not violent or bad people
2) my friends and I looked out for each other and were protective , we paid attention to everyone’s situation and kept each other safe
3) one of us was always a designated driver, so at least one totally sober person knew what was going on

But let's take this specific case. If you went swimming alone at 4am, in treacherous waters, while drunk, do you think you'd survive? The woman had the odds stacked against her by taking such a risk, regardless of the guy she was with.

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Here’s a video that gives perspective on the resort and the resort beach:
https://youtu.be/rJyHdphJGXA?si=WqoT5arhQ-j_dS0Z

It’s pretty logical that they were headed while buzzed to make out in beach romantic setting and not for swimming deep in the ocean. Assuming they ended up hit by big waves then if the drunk lifeguard guy couldn’t save her then least he could do is report it for help. Second scenario is that his idea of making out was way different than hers and they had a fight that resulted badly.

The girl clearly made very poor choices that night and so did her “friends”. It’s sad.

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It has been well documented by now that head injuries sustained by NFL players may lead to what's known as chronic traumatic encephalopathy, or CTE. The disease seems to be slow but progressive; essentially, the brain deteriorates over time. Early CTE symptoms include impulsivity, explosivity and aggression.

This guy was more likely to be volatile, esp when he chose to get trashed.

The amount is gross speculation on this thread is unhinged even by DCUM standards. You’re throwing CTE in the mix now?

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't reports say the POI guy was or is a lifeguard?

sure, like a lot of our 15 year olds - certified to monitor the neighborhood pool

Lifeguard to know NOT to go in the water. Especially at night.

he was drunk

The point is, he would never be able to save her no matter how many years of lifeguard training he had. Especially drunk! People are wild to think that she could have been saved.

Still don't know if she needed or wanted to be saved in water. Nor if she needed or wanted to be saved by him. If foul play?
What if:
-neither went in water
-both went in water
-he went in water, didnt notice if she went in
-he went in, she didn't go in
-she went in, he didn't
-didnt go in water and didn't see what she did
-went in water to try to help her
-went in didn't help her
-he forced her into water
-she forced him into water

Women are weaker and she was far smaller. She didn’t force him anywhere.

He was holding onto her in a very controlling way, not just supporting or affectionate.

Was his shirt torn? How did he get the scratches? Did his missing shirt or shoes have blood on them?

His whole town is the size of a large HS. People who know him will know if he is an angry drunk, disrespects girls or is some gentle giant type.

I feel so sorry for this kid. There is zero indication of any of this happening. His name is being totally smeared.

No it hasn't been. If he was the last the friends group (including a friend of his - that other guy in group) last saw the young man with this young women, LE are going to question him. Doesn't mean he did something but it seems he was the last one to have seen her among that group. Depending on what happened to her, there could be others who may have seen her. They are still searching.

[Anonymous]

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I can think of a dozen examples from my youth too, but more than luck, what prevented disaster was either

1) the men we were with were not violent or bad people
2) my friends and I looked out for each other and were protective , we paid attention to everyone’s situation and kept each other safe
3) one of us was always a designated driver, so at least one totally sober person knew what was going on

But let's take this specific case. If you went swimming alone at 4am, in treacherous waters, while drunk, do you think you'd survive? The woman had the odds stacked against her by taking such a risk, regardless of the guy she was with.

How do you know she went swimming? Was she forced in water? Or did they not ever go in the water? Did the man say they went swimming? does that man remember what happened since it was reported he changed his story few times?

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Anonymous wrote:“Women killed by men are almost always killed by someone they know and more than half are killed by an intimate partner,”

'Intimate partner' usually means someone in an established relationship, a co-dependent dysfunctional established relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:“Women killed by men are almost always killed by someone they know and more than half are killed by an intimate partner,”

'Intimate partner' usually means someone in an established relationship, a co-dependent dysfunctional established relationship.

Did they know one another or meet before this trip?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a senior at 24. As a football player does he have brain issues that may predispose him to violence? What in his past led him to still be finishing his degree at 24?

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/us/who-is-joshua-riibe-24-year-old-person-of-interest-linked-to-missing-indian-origin-sudiksha-konankis-disappearance/amp_articleshow/118943611.cms

He earned a scholarship Southeast technical school for “land surveying” after HS graduation. Probably shifted gears at some point and decided to get a 4yr degree. Really not that unusual. There is a lot of detail from family, friends, neighbors etc in a daily mail article I read (too lazy to link it)- all comments very positive about him and the family. And in a midwestern small town like that (I grew up in a very similar town), where he apparently lived his whole life- everyone knows everyone and everything.

It doesn’t mean he is innocent but there aren’t any red flags either.

Thanks. Agree his character and temperament are known in a town of under 3k. We will see what comes out.

Hard to understand why he would say he saw her in the water, a wave and he didn’t see her come out, story 1, if not true. And if true, why never tell anyone, it’s damning. As is the changing story.

Maybe he is too embarrassed to admit he was drunk, hoping for a hookup or did hook up, too drunk to register the danger in the water, or ashamed that he slept thru a tragedy.
But murder then falling asleep at the crime scene is pretty unusual.

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Anonymous wrote:“Women killed by men are almost always killed by someone they know and more than half are killed by an intimate partner,”

'Intimate partner' usually means someone in an established relationship, a co-dependent dysfunctional established relationship.

Did they know one another or meet before this trip?

I get the sense investigators would have uncovered any prior meetings already.